Dear Marjory
I’m really hoping you can help me because I’m at my wits end.
The other morning I got up to go to work as usual. I kissed my husband goodbye -- he mostly does shift work and so doesn’t need to leave until midday -- then I left the house myself and climbed into my car with the intention of driving to the office.
Unfortunately, it was a very cold morning and my car wouldn’t start, so I went back to the house to seek my husband’s assistance. I took my key out of my purse and let myself in, and I can only assume my husband didn’t hear me, because when I walked into our bedroom I was confronted with the most disturbing sight.
My husband was standing in front of the mirror wearing a pair of MY stockings, a pair of MY knickers, a pair of MY black high-heeled shoes, as well as long blonde haired wig.
He also had some of my lipstick on.
Obviously I asked him what he was doing, and he quickly broke down and confessed to me that he was a secret crossdresser and that he’d been regularly dressing in my underwear ever since we got married.
You need to understand that I love my husband very much, and getting a divorce is simply out of the question because I’m a devout Roman Catholic, but I really don’t think that I can live with this, which is why I am writing to you now.
So please, Marjory, please, help me. I haven’t got a clue what to do.
Any advice and information you can offer me would be massively appreciated.
Yours sincerely,
Sarah
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MARJORY'S REPLY:
Dear Sarah
First of all, thank you for writing to me.
I can quite understand your concern.
The good news is I believe I can indeed be of help, because I’ve actually come across this problem many times before.
A car failing to start in cold weather is not nearly as uncommon as you might think.
Here’s what to do: First check that the battery leads are properly secured.
If the engine's failure to start is not due to a flat battery or any faulty wiring, then you could have a broken solenoid switch.
It’s also worth making sure that there’s enough fuel in the tank, because sometimes the gauge inside the car can be broken without you realizing it.
Hope it helps.
Marjory
Agreed theyre useless people get better advice coming here
Sod Agony aunts like Em said if theyve not been there and experianced it its all off google
Agony aunt unless they've been in the situation are basing it on their opinion or.from a book or these days a google.search no doubt.
AWful Davina Lucky things have changed for the better
Excellent reply.
Esme used to read womens magazines Bella and Best that sort of thing a long time ago and I used to read them also with some interest in womens fashion, makeup and the agony aunt posts ... so I wrote to one of them not long after I told Esme that I was a crossdresser.
I explained our dielma... Hi I've crossdressed to a degree since i was about 6 liking the feel of womens silky things and tights and stockings.. then got older discovered lingerie and curiously tried it on .. then one day my wife asked to dress me as a woman which i eventually let her do and it was a bit of a eureka moment seeing that she'd done my makeup and i looked more fem progressing to telling her i was a crossdresser and getting a wig to see the full transformation how i could look as a woman and wow indeed i looked quite passable.
Its been a few months and my wifes still in disbelief that i crossdress and i want to reassure her its nothing out of the norm and that lots of men do it but dont admit to it and hide it but I'm glad its out in the open and want to seek her acceptance and assurance shes ok that this is just something i do as i enjoy it and it helps me relax and destress..
That was the crux of my letter to the agony aunt in Bella i think ...
Her reply..
Your wife has every right to be upset and angry, you married her in false pretences without informing her you are a transvestite... on it went painting me a pervert and what i was doing very wrong... This was about 20 years ago and how times have changed above but this actually got past an editor.. i expect a woman also and they allowed their point of view to poison millions of readers so it backfired massively especially if Esme read the replay as I did .. i was fuming and returned a letter to said agony aunt calling her out but got no reply.
So you have to be careful who you confide in... Similarly Esmes best friend ridiculed an old bf of hers who wore her lingerie and stockings in bed.. on more than one occasion so into crossdressing?? Sounds like it..
How do you think your wife or GF feels hearing her peers ridiculing and calling out crossdressing as perverted and even worse and far reaching an agony aunt of a popular magazine blurting our pervert to a plea for help and advice..
Its so frustrating for something which if you break it down is so simple... I sometimes get up Esme goes off to work the kids off to school.. quick shower and shave and instead of boxers and trousers, socks and a shirt I may put on lingerie and a dress makeup and a wig and feel much better than i would if i put on boxers, trousers socks and a shirt and then set to working on my work laptop working from home no harm done to anyone and before anyone gets home (exception of Esme popping home fir lunch seeing me dressed) I'm back showered and changed into boxers, trousers socks and shirt Alpha male again.. so whats the harm in that?
Has anyone else every written to and got a response from an agony aunt?
Davina