It's strange that in the majority of cases an 'undatable' is matched with an 'undatable' and everyone goes 'oh how sweet'. But is an 'undatable' is matched with a 'normal' person then they (the normal person) is either deemed to be brave or have some ulterior motive.
Interesting thought Juliette. I think that b) is a big barrier to our wives and partners accepting.
I think it's reflective of modern society that we look at couples and think 'what the hell does he/she see in him/her'. We use our own standards and prejudices to judge others without even knowing the person. I've quite often looked at another bloke I don't even know and thought 'knob head'. We all do it but when it's something that is out of the ordinary (sometimes they are knob heads though).
It would be great to not care what other people think but I think that society is getting worse with people constantly looking for approval from their peers. How many likes can you get seem more important than being yourself.
If were not careful we'll all end up like the crew in Wall e. Everyone the same looking at their screens!
This is introducing a totally different view but I recently watched an episode of the 'Undateables' which featured a young woman with dwarfism. Essentially every date had to start with a filtering process to work out whether the potential partner was a dwarf fetishist or someone that genuinely didn't care. Even when she found someone who didn't care you still had to deal with other people assuming that he must be a dwarf fetishist...
I can imagine that this kind of discussion is true for anyone that sits outside of a societal 'norm' and that would include members of the trans community. What's wierd is that Crossdressers have to deal with a double whammy of being a) assumed to have a fetish and b) assuming that anyone that wants to date you must have a fetish.
Juno was in the second episode of Transition Street. She said something at the end which was interesting and really reiterates Sindy's point. She said something along the lines of just having all the operations doesn't make you a woman and that she is still learning what it is to be a woman.
Anyway, interesting article Katie. Mostly I'm intrigued how she didn't realize the way men treat women. Clearly, being born a man doesnt give any insight here! Men can fetishize all types, not just transwomen. She seems disappointed and perplexed while I'm thinking 'Welcome to life as a woman - men are most definitely weird!' lol
hmmm yes but some Crossdressers will do it for fetish and sex others will do it as its different fun relaxing the word fetish is banded about too often
I liked this quote from the article 'I have a theory about fetishes. If society has no issue with your tastes (tall men, big boobs, leggy, beards, tattoos), it is a “type”. However, if you are into something society frowns upon (plus-size people, trans people, leather, rubber, watersports), it is a “fetish”.'
It's strange that in the majority of cases an 'undatable' is matched with an 'undatable' and everyone goes 'oh how sweet'. But is an 'undatable' is matched with a 'normal' person then they (the normal person) is either deemed to be brave or have some ulterior motive.
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Interesting thought Juliette. I think that b) is a big barrier to our wives and partners accepting.
I think it's reflective of modern society that we look at couples and think 'what the hell does he/she see in him/her'. We use our own standards and prejudices to judge others without even knowing the person. I've quite often looked at another bloke I don't even know and thought 'knob head'. We all do it but when it's something that is out of the ordinary (sometimes they are knob heads though).
It would be great to not care what other people think but I think that society is getting worse with people constantly looking for approval from their peers. How many likes can you get seem more important than being yourself.
If were not careful we'll all end up like the crew in Wall e. Everyone the same looking at their screens!
This is introducing a totally different view but I recently watched an episode of the 'Undateables' which featured a young woman with dwarfism. Essentially every date had to start with a filtering process to work out whether the potential partner was a dwarf fetishist or someone that genuinely didn't care. Even when she found someone who didn't care you still had to deal with other people assuming that he must be a dwarf fetishist...
I can imagine that this kind of discussion is true for anyone that sits outside of a societal 'norm' and that would include members of the trans community. What's wierd is that Crossdressers have to deal with a double whammy of being a) assumed to have a fetish and b) assuming that anyone that wants to date you must have a fetish.
Juno was in the second episode of Transition Street. She said something at the end which was interesting and really reiterates Sindy's point. She said something along the lines of just having all the operations doesn't make you a woman and that she is still learning what it is to be a woman.
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Anyway, interesting article Katie. Mostly I'm intrigued how she didn't realize the way men treat women. Clearly, being born a man doesnt give any insight here! Men can fetishize all types, not just transwomen. She seems disappointed and perplexed while I'm thinking 'Welcome to life as a woman - men are most definitely weird!' lol
Agreed Emma I assume due to being turned on by dressing my husband is part fetisht a crossdresser but its more about escapism for him
hmmm yes but some Crossdressers will do it for fetish and sex others will do it as its different fun relaxing the word fetish is banded about too often
I liked this quote from the article 'I have a theory about fetishes. If society has no issue with your tastes (tall men, big boobs, leggy, beards, tattoos), it is a “type”. However, if you are into something society frowns upon (plus-size people, trans people, leather, rubber, watersports), it is a “fetish”.'