Well, if you want it to be broadly accepted then I guess you will all have to break out of your houses and show the world who you are! Otherwise, it ain't happening. Most people don't care enough and find it weird enough to prefer you just don't do it.

I'll add here, that broad acceptance wouldn't make any of this easier on wives. It's the betrayal aspect of dressing that hurts, not the social stigma. The stigma part is your problem and most wives will look past that, especially if you're dressed away from home etc. No, having everyone accept you as a 'woman' so that you can freely hit Tescos in a skirt and heels, showing off your legs, enjoying people staring and you feeling attractive and pretty does NOT help a wife who feels betrayed because her husband prefers to spend his time with/as this 'other woman'. So acceptance won't change that, but it might prevent it by allowing men to fess up about their dual personalities from the beginning. At least then women will know what they're in for.

Just thought I'd put that out there.

Nail on the head crossdressing isn't important enough to bother anyone to change opinion etc .. so why are people bothered by it?

Because of the majority view why should a minority give up.. Leicester City won the Premier League one day the Cleavland Browns may win the Superbowl and Wales the Rugby world cup ... all we're doing is dressing up as women harmless and we find it fun and relaxing so who's anyone to tell us its wrong or that we should stop something we for whatever reason or conditioning enjoy.

We do like to force our own social conditioning on even the very young!

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/magazine-40936719/gender-specific-toys-do-you-stereotype-children

By sterotyping we can damage the development of a child. Do we deny our children their full potential by pidgeon holing them too early? Girls in particular are disadvantaged in their development because of the way we treat them. There will be no equality until they are treatyed the same from a young age.

Katie

I dunno...I think it's both. Google 'uncanny valley' and you can get a feel for how the public might relate to a crossdressing man. It's this innate sense of discomfort when presented with something that doesn't look quite right. Humans respond this way instinctually so in many ways, crossdressing, as long as we continue to have gender, will make people uncomfortable.

I also think it's learned because of this social gender binary we live by.

I do wonder too though, at the logic behind an entire population learning to accept something as rare as crossdressing. I'm sure it makes more sense to society for the crossdressers to just stop crossdressing. Majority rules, and all. But we know this isn't the easier path as stopping seems so hard for y'all to do. But still, it's interesting to me how many minority groups would prefer to take the very hard road and push change on everyone else rather than change themselves. The recent backlash against 'trans rights' seems to me to be more about people resenting being told what to think than actually bigotry. Some of this backlash is coming from other minority groups...like lesbians or feminists etc. So it's not just unenlightened chest-thumpers who find all this 'special interest' stuff exhausting.

Anyway, off on a tangent there...but ultimately I think crossdressing just doesn't register as an important enough issue for most people to try and 'unlearn' any prejudices, and I'm guessing the idea that you guys should just learn not to do it will always sit as the easier option. Just my two cents. It's been forever since I wrote anything here! :-)

Its social conditioning

People are conditioned that its perverted, gay, weird, disgusting when in fact its merely dressing up in clothing.

Some of us go further get a wig put on makeup and try to look like a woman and find it a fun thing to do and even find it somehow relaxing to escape the suit or jeans and shirt and wear something different look different and just escape what for most of us men is an act thats not saying the real us want to be women but we all put up a front, bottle up emotions and the result is stress. We have self esteem problems also from time to time and this escapism somehow helps.

But yes we're not born thinking crossdressing is weird we're taught it.