Davina - Lets see what this article uncovers - what do we want I’ll comment as i read it for the first time then add what I want at the end.

As male crossdressers, there’re so many things people imagine we want. 

But, what do we really want? 

In most cases, the things people think we want are wrong. 

They end up judging us wrongly. 

From attention to acceptance, as crossdressers, we want to be seen and heard. 

Davina - Lots of T girls dont want to be seen happy to dress behind closed doors.

We want to feel like we’re a part of something, whether it’s a group, a community, or even the world at large. 

We want to feel connected to others and, most importantly, to feel accepted for who we are. 

Davina - We definitely benefit from chatting to and being connected to other t girls and we want some acceptance. 

So often, we’re told that we’re weird, that we’re freakish, and that we’re not normal. 

We’re made to feel like outcasts, which can be incredibly isolating. 

Below are some of the things we want as crossdressers.

 1. To be accepted for who we are

As crossdressers, we want to be accepted for who we are. 

Davina - 100% we do we’re not freaks we just have this hobby / escapism and it’s harmless. The only harm is how its twisted by society to be perverted and weird.

Most people see us as weird or freaks, but we just want to be accepted like everyone else. 

We’re not trying to be something we’re not. 

We’re just expressing ourselves in a way that makes us feel comfortable.

● How do we achieve acceptance for who we are as male crossdressers?

1. Education 

First, through education. We must let the world know that we’re just like them, except that we express our femininity in a way that is outside the societal norm. 

We must show them that we’re not freaks or weirdos but just regular people who enjoy dressing up in women’s clothes. 

2. Advocacy

Second, we must fight for our rights to be who we are through advocacy. We must speak out against discrimination and stand up for our right to live our lives as we want.

3. Visibility

And finally, through visibility. We must show the world that we’re here and not going anywhere. 

Davina - This may not be the “ta daaa” moment where we all go out dressed as women but in blogs, forums, surveys.. Let the world see there are many many men who crossdress and in reading the blogs etc show we’re just normal men.

Let’s be proud and show the world that there is nothing wrong with being a crossdresser.

So remember that we must fight for acceptance for who we are as crossdressers. 

And if we stand together, we can achieve it.

2. To feel comfortable in our skin

 We want to be able to feel comfortable in our skin. 

Many of us male-to-female crossdressers feel like we’re in the wrong body, and dressing up helps us feel more comfortable in our skin.

Davna - Not true for all crossdressers.. This comment may worry a wife as most of us are ok being men we like to escape but change back, some are more gender fluid but majority of us mere crossdressers dont think we’re born in the wrong body.

1. How to feel comfortable in our skin

The first thing is accepting ourselves for who we are. It’s okay to be different; there’s nothing wrong with being a crossdresser.  

Another way to feel comfortable in our skin is by dressing up. 

When we dress up (crossdress), we can express ourselves in a way that we feel comfortable with, which puts us in touch with our feminity. 

We can just be ourselves, and that’s all that matters.

Davina - Ourselves.. As I’ve said before my wife says I’m nicer as Davina maybe there is more of myself in Davina less the macho arrogant piss taking man. 

Of course, it’s not always easy to accept ourselves for who we are, but it’s important to remember that there’s nothing wrong with being a crossdresser. 

We’re just like everyone else and deserve to be accepted for who we are. We’re beautiful, intelligent, and daring.

3. To be able to express ourselves freely 

We want to be able to express ourselves freely without judgment. 

Whether it’s through the clothes we wear, the way we style our hair, or the makeup we put on, we just want to be able to express ourselves without being judged. 

We should be able to do what makes us happy without judgment from others. 

1. How can we express ourselves freely as crossdressers? 

First, we need to be confident in who we are. 

Davina - for me i feel not having dressed much in 2023 i need to find my fem confidence again to have time to dress practise makeup again and my look.

We need to know that we are fabulous and can express ourselves however we want. 

Second, we need to find our style. 

Whether through clothes, makeup, or hair, we need to find what makes us feel fabulous. 

Lastly, we should never be afraid to be ourselves. 

We should always be confident and proud of who we are.

4. To dress how we want, without judgment. 

We want to dress how we want, without judgment from others. 

We should be able to wear lingerie, pantyhose, breast forms, wigs, heels, etc., without people thinking we’re weird or strange.

Davina - Although reading all that as a bloke its easy to see why it is strange to want breast forms etc 

1. Is it possible for us to dress how we want?

Well, yes. We can dress how we want, but we will probably always receive some judgment and rejection from others. 

Davina - if out and about we need to dress to blend in not stand out and I’ve seen both on my tgirl radar t girls who blend in and look fab and t girls whos wardrobe choice was …. Not good lol

That’s just the way it is. We can’t control what other people think or say about us, but we can control how we react.

If someone judges us for dressing how we want, we should just brush it off and keep being our fabulous selves. 

We shouldn’t let anyone else’s opinion stop us from living our lives the way we want.

So, to all the crossdressers out there, keep being you, and don’t let anyone else’s opinion stop you from looking fabulous and being happy. 

5. To feel confident and beautiful

 Davina - I definitely feel confident and i think i can look ok as a woman, I even feel dare i say it Sexy as Davina.

We want to feel confident and beautiful in who we are. 

Crossdressers at times, tend to feel insecure, but we just want to feel confident and beautiful. 

We should be able to love ourselves for who we are and not let the judgment of others bring us down. 

This has to deal with our mental health and how well we can handle negativity.

1. What to do if we don’t feel beautiful enough?  

As crossdressers, we should love ourselves for who we are and never let anyone else’s negative opinion bring us down. 

We are all beautiful in our way, and that is what makes us special. 

So, if you’re ever feeling down about yourself, just remember that you are gorgeous just the way you are. 

Crossdressers are some of the most confident and beautiful people you’ll ever meet. 

Therefore, we should all strive to be like that. 

6. Be able to be ourselves around others 

We want to be ourselves around others without feeling like we have to hide who we are. 

Davina - It would be so fab if i could be Davina with others. The tale I’ve told about telling my wifes friends about my crossdressing and them not believing me lol I would actually love a proper girls night out with them but it will never happen.

We should be able to be open about our crossdressing and not feel like we have to keep it a secret. 

1. How can we be ourselves even when others don’t approve of our lifestyle?

Well, we probably don’t approve of everyone’s way of life, but that doesn’t mean we can’t co-exist. 

Therefore, we can’t also expect everyone to agree with our way of life. However, we don’t have to force our lifestyle on others or try to make them accept us. 

We can just live our lives as we want and be happy with who we are. Then we can hope that they catch up with us by getting past stereotypical beliefs.

Davina - This isnt taking into consideration a wife or girlfriend and how they feel about us being crossdressers.. We have to bear our spouse feelings in mind and that can mean limiting our fem side.. Which it does. 

7. To find acceptance from loved ones 

We want to find acceptance from our loved ones. 

Many crossdressers tend to feel like they’re alone, but we just want to find acceptance from our loved ones. 

We should be able to find love and support from the ones we love, no matter what.

Davina - No matter what? - We can’t force acceptance on our loved ones of us crossdressing. 

But if a loved one chooses not to love us back, they’re not worth our time.

Davina - Hang on not love us back.. They love us as men we’re introducing the crossdressing they don’t have to love our feminine side or accept it but great if acceptance can be found. The article is a bit presumptuous and pushes us to be a little selfish as T girls. I wish this was as easy as that but it’s not.

 It’ll be a disappointing experience, but you’ll be just fine. 

We should move on and find others who will love and accept us for who we are. 

Davina - Move on? I’m not having that we’re married or dating thats like saying your wife doesnt accept you as a t girl .. leave her find someone else.. Could equally say your hubby crossdresses you cant live with that dump them and find a real man.. What the article needs to point at is acceptance and compromise.

There’s no use in forcing someone to love us when they have no intention to.

 Davina - but they love us as men… 

8. To be happy and content with who we are 

We just want to be happy and content with who we are. 

As crossdressers, we shouldn’t have to change who we are to please others. 

Davina - I have a male facade - the engineer / coach / leader / alpha male it is me but also its a facade. There is a softer side to me which i express in my feminisation becoming Davina when i can and i need that escape from the toxic masculinity i portray on a daily basis.

We should be able to love ourselves for who we are and be able to freely express our feminity while being content with that. 

We want to be open about our crossdressing and not have to worry about being judged or discriminated against.

Having been a crossdresser for the better part of my life, I know one or two things that a newbie doesn’t.

 As closet queens, we want to be accepted for who we are. It can be a difficult thing to openly express our femininity or openly say “I’m a crossdresser” to the world. 

But it’s something that we feel strongly about. 

We want to be able to dress up and feel pretty without judgment from others.

Davina - So this is headed up what Crossdressers want and there are some contentious things in here. 

So what is it I want as Davina.

I want acceptance and understanding and I think i have this with my wife although it took a long time there’s never going to be a 100% understanding f why we dress for us let alone our wives and girlfriends so acceptance that we do this and NEED to do this is a huge bonus..

So then what? What do we want.

Well what I want is to be able to dress / become Davina fully makeup, hosiery, lingerie, heels dresses, skirts wigs etc when ever i feel like it but i’m not going to get that opportunity to present how i like when i like so i have to take what I can get.

What I would like is once per month .. more like once per week crossdressed fully with quality time if i could near the end of the week to unwind from stress of work and other things.

Acceptance and opportunity to escape into being Davina as and when i need to escape and feel feminine and look and act different dropping the alpha male act for a while.

I probably would if i could take opportunity to get up in the morning and present how i wanted to present and feel at the time depending on whats on that day.

I’ve had hours and hours and days and days when i cant dress when ive thought im bored out of my skull and i would love in this time im sat here bored to just go and dress up and feel that escapism.

So i guess thats what i want as a Crossdresser more opportunity to present how i feel when i want or need it.

Instead i’m in my own prison of wife knowing but as the kids dont know and my wife doesnt want them to know (and i fully understand this) I cant dress and have to suppress my desire want and need to become Daivna - So bad for my mental health.

Something so simple yet so complicated - Are we stupid for suppressing this ? nor selfish enough noting the article ?