Hello! My name is Laura. Davina and I have been chatting on the topic of crossdressing for a few years now. She has helped me expand my knowledge base in this realm and has now asked me to join her forum to widen that circle.
My interest in crossdressing developed when I met Rebekha in a chat room seven years ago. I was determined to suppport and understand her. She became quite important in my life. I am married as well but he would never understand this side of me. I look forward to an ever expanding life experience continuing to move forward on this site.
Hi seems a complicated relationship.
Nice to have another accepting woman on the forum
Hi im a wife an accepting one nice to have two new members an interesting relationship how did it start
I take it youre both married to other people who have no idea you have this relationship?
Emma (wife)
Ive written in my blog about the trans spectrum and to some who ill call right wing trans ie transexuals (some not all) have commented there is no trans spectrum there are transexuals a term lots despise and prefer to be called women and there are those who arent proper trans aimed at the likes of crossdressers and anyone who doesnt go the full and become a woman.
Its a shame there are divisions along the trans spectrum.
Im flattered that Sindy and the other ladies here have coined the phrase "the Davina TYPE crossdresser" Which denotes a step along the trans spectrum. I suppose if i go out dressed i move out of this bracket.
I started as a kid trying things on, as a teenager it was more about sexy lingerie and masterbation, it more or less stopped in my early 20s, but with certain life events and stress kicked off again and progressed to getting a wig, makeup and having to dress fully or not at all. Now its my wAy to unwind and destress and i have to dress fully and enjoy trying to look real to satisfy myself i may pass as a woman but have no intention of ever wanting to be a woman so back to the right wing trans I'm just playing with this ocassionally and thats where i am with the acceptance of my wife a Davina type crossdresser.
If we do venture out i suppose i move out of this bracket more towards the right but still no where near wanting to or thinking im a woman. Why do i want to venture ouT? no idea other than its a bit boring 30 years dressed behind closed doors and just want to see how it feels to be out dressed i suppose.
Doing it in public is still a hmmm i dont know dilema but my wife seems to think it would be ok tho only talked about it Once.. other t girls have advised we try some trans venue and get opinions of others before facing muggles lol. We need to talk more about it.
So yes there is a progression and pattern but lots of stops along the way and halts.
People do identify in many variations across the spectrum but I have seen a commonality in the pattern of progression. Most start out as Fetish/fantasy to combat the shame response. Once they accept themselves they are able to more embrace their femininity for what it truly is.
I did mean girlfriend xx Transgender might be a spectrum with Crossdressers at one end and TG at the other. Do artificial distictions mean anything ? In the UK the government is moving to self declaration. A controversial topic. But people identify in many ways in a fluid social spectrum xx
Hi Laura
You're quite right. At the end of the day a crossdressers is a man. We don't have any better idea on how women think than the next bloke. We will understand about a pencil skirt v A line or what denier tights we should wear but we'll never experience life in the same way as a woman. We still have our male privilege cards. A transsexual woman may have a better understanding as they live as a woman 24/7 so will experience some of the prejudices.
I don't even think that I feel feminine inside. I was raised a male and the majority if my life is spent as a male. I don't consider myself to be a woman but I do have an affinity for women and would consider myself a feminist. Whether that is to do with my crossdressing or just the sort of person I am I don't know.
When you talk of trans sisters do you mean transsexual women? It does become confusing when crossdressers and transsexual women get but under the transgender umbrella.
Katie
Rebekha,
I know you meant to say you are my girlfriend not my boyfriend 😉
Hi Katie,
I am an open minded person. Initially I felt that a cd would be the best of both worlds. A man who understood how a woman thinks. Over time I realised this was not true in that although the trans person feels feminine inside they were raised to be masculine. It is a long process to overcome that conditioning and mindset. My affinity for my trans sisters lies in the fact that we are all women and should support each other.
Hi Laura
Welcome to the forum, It sounds complicated. From what I understand from your post you find crossdressing interesting. It doesn't fill you with horror but is something you want to explore more. Why do you think you have this interest?
Katie
Great to have you here Laura .. We've had some insightful chats on tvchix and im sure you'll enjoy the Forum.
Lots and lots of topics already covered in here and will be good to gain some fresh perspectives
Sindy , Laura is female. I am her crossdressing boyfriend xx
Are you a wife or crossdresser? Sorry think I'm a bit confused. Why wouldnt your crossdressing husband understand your desire to learn more? Or are you the husband? Yep, confused lol. Anyway, welcome. We're all a bit mad here, but in a good way, I hope. :-)