I thought i would start a new thread as it feels appropriate to tell you all whats happend over the weekend.
As some of you will know, i compiled a letter to help my wife come to terms with my crossdressing, after many weeks of trying to find the right words to put down to try and explain what it means to be a CD, how it feels and why we feel the need to dress.
I also wanted to explain to her what my hopes were and to give her reassurances about me and about us as a couple.
I finally gave her that letter last week, and all week the letter had sat on the shelf where she had put it.
On Friday night i decided i would ask if she had read the letter, and she said she had. :)
It was then that we had "The Talk" and i have to say it went very well, at last we were talking and i was able to understand how she felt about things and i was able to tell her more of how i felt.
One of the things i mentioned to her was that i had joined a forum, this forum!, and how it was there to help men who have the need to dress and also that some of the members where the wives and partners of those men.
I asked her if she would be interested in joining it as i thought it would be a good place for her to begin getting an understanding and also to be able to get the right information, she said she would consider it, and so in the near future i hope she will join us here, i can't guarantee she will join but I'm sure if she does you'll all make her welcome.
Most of all she needs her own time now to take in all the information from the letter and what we talked about, we even talked about going out to some of the venues for crossdressers around the country but that is for something in the future.
At the end of the letter as well as my real name i also put Catriona's name, so now she knows Catriona exists.
The last thing I'll mention is that i asked her if she wanted to see a photo of me dressed as Catriona! But we left that one for another time as she had had enough information for one night.
Things have been really good over the weekend and we are both very happy with how we've been able to communicate.
I just wanted to take this opportunity to thank Davina and everyone who has commented and helped so far here on the forum.
Most of all i want to thank Emma Tights for being there everyday for me, and in turn that has helped me to help my wife.
And so it's not just my journey anymore, it's Our journey now and i hope she can be by my side.
I'll keep you all informed of whats going on, and any questions just ask.
Lots of love to all,
Catriona (and wife) xxxx
Everything was fine when she came home in the evening, she was upbeat and she was in a very good mood.
Yeah i realise that this is not a green light for me to start wanting her to do things with me, I've just recently had the opportunity to go to a makeover and photo shoot in Manchester and seriously considered it, but i know i would of had to of cleared it with her and i held back because of giving her the impression that things were running away and going too fast, so I've declined, for now anyway.
She may supprise me for Christmas but I'm not expecting anything.
Cat xx
How did your Saturday night in go?
It seems shes being accepting which is great but dont go all kid in a sweet shop she may be at a stage shes ok you dressing when shes out but doesnt want to see you dressed or have any part in it just giving you some space to do it.
Emma (Wife)
Just a very small update on our situation.
On Saturday my wife had arranged with her sister to go out into town, this was quite clearly to enable for me to be able to have more time to myself to dress, one of the things i had asked in the letter was for more time to dress and when she told me what was happening i thanked her and gave her a kiss :)
Nothing else was mentioned.
So although it was only a small gesture but it meant a lot to me and i was greatfull to her for it.
For the first time since we talked this is the first time my wife has helped me to give me more time.
Another small step forward :)
Cat xx
It can be a bit emotional getting this off your chest and fears your wife will totally reject you diffused.
Esme cried at first assuming i was gay but subsequent chats no tears.
Wives can have preconcieved ideas about us crossdressed like Esme meeting me as Davina first time perplexed that i dressed and looked like a regular woman i think she'd assumed i'd look like a drag queen lol.
Going shopping is easy if you make it look like you're picking your wife out a dress and she pays for it but Emma as an example makes her husband do the purchasing. I've no problem buying fem things for myself or if with Esme but she usually spares any blushes.
think it would help if she joined here and chatted to other wives.
Davina
WELL DONE
It is hard to explain how hard it is for you to bring up the letter as been there myself worrying if it will upset or pressure her but the apprehension and the worry grinds away so well done for talking to your wife :) and great that she responded positively.
We need to give reassurances and we need to get it off our chest and have to admit some selfishness in that we hope it will mean if we can get some acceptance we can dress more or with a better understanding and less guilt for putting our wives and Gfs through this.
Its great to put all your cards on the table and have your wife put her cards on the table about crossdressing so well done.
I hope she will join the forum I will make sure Esme is on hand if she needs to chat to a wife and I’m sure other wives will also chip in and us crossdressers will also welcome her with open arms.
I think we’ve covered every question and every worry of a wife or girlfriend around crossdressing in the forum at some point.. hours of reading lol
Dont rush things you have to go at her pace but keep it open as close the conversation and wives and gfs tend to bury their heads back in the sand and then its so hard to talk about again. You will fret about it and subconciously so will she if you dont continue to talk but dont over talk and keep on and on about it. A fine balance.
Cool she knows you use a name Davina is just a name we use for my crossdressed persona lol have to have a name its the law lol.
Good that you realised she’d had enough for one night it is a lot to take in.
Hope things continue to go well and if she would like to join the forum she’s very welcome.
Davina
you Know I am really pleased for you, the future looks good, hopefully for both of you, I know it is still early days but the signs look good, fingers crossed she will feel it is easier to talk to you about and might even surprise you with a present or maybe paint your nails 😊 it’s been a long journey for you and I hope you can now see light at the end of the tunne.
Always around to chat whenever you want, mind we chat everyday so there is not much room left anyway 😊 proud of you Cat xxxx