Hope nobody minds another coming out story, but I can't help wanting to share.
A little over a month ago - it was my birthday actually - I finally summoned the courage to share my 'sordid little secret' with my wonderful partner of 21 years. I was full of dread at what the outcome might be, mostly because I had kept this from her for so long and that she might see it as a betrayal of trust, but I had reached a point where because of other stuff that's been going on, I had to spill the beans for my own sanity!
I was terrified! Telling this woman I have loved for so long, who trusted me implicitly, that I had been keeping a secret from her, and that for the last four years while she had been at work, I had been sneaking around dressing up in women's clothes... I'm sure so many of you can relate.
However, I couldn't have dreamt that her reaction would be so positive... although my opening line "I need to tell you something" was perhaps not the best way to start as she looked a little mortified herself. None of the awful things I had feared happened. She comforted me and let me know that she understood why I had never told her, but said she wished I had done so sooner - "imagine the fun we could have had during lockdown!" She had questions of course - am I gay? (no). Do I want to be a woman? (no). Do I have clothes (yes). Do I wear heels? (yes) etc. and she still does. I've pointed her to this forum and hope she will join and maybe give her perspective and so on. Anyway, she quickly made me go and dress and show her what she was getting in 'Partner v.2'
I arrived back downstairs a few minutes later in a fairly representative-of-me, all-black outfit full of nerves, not sure what reaction I would receive, but she was (I think) relieved that I dressed quite tastefully and complimented me on my appearance. To say that I was relieved is an understatement! The rest of that day was spent online shopping!
Anyway, longer story slightly shorter, far from damaging our relationship, it has strengthened our love and we are now closer than ever, She has noted that I am now always happy, smiling even, more relaxed and don't snap at her any more. It's true - I feel so very happy now that I don't have that extra secret burden to lug around and even bad stuff is bearable. I consider myself very lucky indeed to have such a wonderful, beautiful, loving woman in my life.
Sick bags are available upon request! 😁
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Katie x
Nice coming out story. Its great to see more accepting wives The questions are you Gay and do you want to be a woman are the main ones and hearing No and No must be the initial relief. Then comes the question by why do you cross dress? Hence this forum which I hope can answer some questions but as I say a lot here there's a trans spectrum and I think it easier to draw it out as a line from trying on Knickers to full transition and we're somewhere centre left enjoying cross dressing and wanting to look and feel nice.. Pure escapism from male us for the time we get to be cross dressed.. Then there's the pie chart and the % different reasons why we all dress which is covered in the forum somewhere. Welcome to the world of being accepted and to your wife welcome to the fun world of being married to a T girl. Look forward to hearing more from you both and maybe get my wife back contributing again Davina
That’s great news Cara, from my own perspective I can certainly relate to the relief you must be feeling, it has certainly been a massive weight lifted off my shoulders, you must be over joyed, forget about what might have been, live for the future, you are going to love it
I certainly don't mind the 'coming out' stories or sagas etc. I think it great to hear each one and am really pleased (and tbh a little jealous) that however the decision is taken to tell the wife/partner/other half etc that the outcome is a positive one. It is stressful keeping the secret (I would be for more upfront now knowing what I do if we could turn back time) but we all tread our own path and choose which turning to take. There is no room for regret so I wish you the best as you continue along your new path and are able to embrace your dressing with your wife and the new adventure that awaits you both 😁😁♥️♥️