Crossdressing somehow gives us all some fulfilment, relaxation and I suppose fills a gap for me that used to be competitive sport which would release my frustrations and stress..it somehow makes me feel happy and content temporarily and is a de-stressing agent.

Almost every crossdresser will tell you roughly the same thing about their dressing journey.

Our journey may have started from tentative beginnings, perhaps discovering we enjoyed wearing certain articles of women’s clothing to all the way to developing the finished product years later with outfits, make-up, wigs, jewellery, perfume, heels and other accessories, going out and about on the town (Once in my case many times in other cases and not at all for some though a want to try).

Not every crossdresser ends up completing their journey by being a fully dressed, completely made-up and going out and as we’ve discussed there are plenty who stop at different stages along the way; Some simply enjoy dressing in the confines of their homes in bras and knickers, stockings and heels and others may go for a certain look such as short mini-skirts and tight tops, high heels, a look some may call slutty... does it matter? Esme says “Classy not Trashy” but slutty can sometimes be fun lol.

Then there are crossdressers who, somewhere along the way, realize that they absolutely need to do more than just dress occasionally and, in fact, are on the transgender side of the spectrum—and that they really need to be living full–time as a female (with or without cosmetic or other surgery) and these girls are really beyond what we discuss on this Forum and certainly beyond me.

We’re all fundamentally similar in having the unquenchable, unresolved urge and desire to cross dress, what we sometimes tend to disagree on are two key things: first, why we cross dress and, second, what does dressing up as a female bring to our lives?

“Why do men crossdress?” So many different reasons.

If we did a survey among a good sample of crossdressers on this forum and posed the following questions, I’m sure many of the answers would be something along the lines of:

Crossdressing:

- Helps me relax after a stressful day at work; it’s nice to take some time to myself, bath or shower, shave, makeup and slip into lingerie, stockings or tights, a dress and high heels, dress and become your alter ego, even if it’s only for a few hours or so.

- Some may say it allows the repressed feminine side of us to be revealed every so often; not every man has to be a macho-type who loves cars or motorbikes, kick a ball about and or get his hands dirty changing engine oil; many of us have a more sensitive side lying semi–dormant within and it’s great to be able to enjoy this side of ourselves in private better if we can share it with a wife or GF. The reality of it our wives and Gfs see this more vulnerable side to us more than the outside world. And maybe its this side to me Esme says is a nicer person when I’m dressed. Funnily enough the program from a few years back called Transvestite wives one of the wives mentions a nicer side to Denis as Denise.

- allows us to express ourselves outside of the confines of the traditional male role people expect us to play every day; men are confined by colours and styles and shapes of clothing, the way we are expected to behave and respond to certain situations.

- it’s an experience which others who do not cross dress can never truly appreciate; or understand, the overpowering sense and urge or enchantment never goes away; the excitement is forever there (even 30 years in) and the anticipation leading up to a time when you can cross dress is unmatched… Weird isn’t it lol are we Mad?

- brings us a peace of mind which you cannot seem to find with other activities such as playing or watching sport, or meeting with (male) friends where the conversation centres around manly things. When dressed it opens up the opportunity to talk about fem things.

- It becomes a bit of a coping mechanism although we don’t like to admit we need a coping mechanism and some say it makes them feel complete! It’s like a bit of your overall character temporarily falls into place and makes us a better, all-around person inexplicably when dressed in women’s clothes. Apart from the physical changes in our appearance, our character changes, our perspective on life is different and we become more content for the time we’re dressed.

Do any of these thoughts resonate with you? Do you see any similarities in the way you feel and how you look at the world when you are in your En Femme?

If so, post a comment below