I must admit it is very difficult when I hear that other dressers who are married and some who are single have someone they are intimate with and are accepted fully as their female self.

If I'm being honest this is exactly what my final goal is, to be accepted fully by a cis woman as Catriona and my male self, now obviously this would be my wife, but at this point it seems a very unlikely thing to happen.

I've never used dressing to compensate for lack of sex, that's been my life even before meeting my wife, she's the only woman I've ever been with and that's not been that much anyway, so maybe I'm using the lack of sex as an excuse for me coming out to her and her not being interested in me.

Now I think of it sex has been very sporadic, there have been 12 month periods that we've not been intimate, so I guess she's just not bothered about sex, i don't even get hugs from here!!

And there's the problem, I am, sex is very important to me, again I won't go any further on that suffice to say I'm not vanilla!

I've never forced her or tried to talk her into doing anything she's not comfy with.

I'll leave it at that.

But since I've been more visible on the net as Catriona I've found my sex drive has increased more than it already was.

Its like I've left my wife in a different world when it comes to sex.

As I've said it would be almost a waste of time trying to talk to her about our differences and I could see me loosing my temper in frustration at her.

And in any case why should it always be a one way thing? Why should I be the one who always has to bring these things up?

She knows about cat, I've already asked her to talk to me and ask questions, anything she likes, I'm open to anything, i can talk about sex and what I like, she seems to be the inhibited one!

You see I get annoyed just talking about it on here, which helps a bit, but as a couple we're not moving forward, as Catriona I've become confident, more sure of myself and I'm getting to where I want to be.....

I feel I'm leaving my wife behind!!!!

And I don't want to.😥

Cat xx

Sorry if i go on about our sex life with him dressed i suppose it sounds like bragging about acceptance and that bit more when most tgirls dream of this.

Awww do you think your wifes off sex because of your dressing? I know some tgirls use dressing to make up for lack of sex and may lead to cheating sometimes with other t girl and experimenting or finding sex elsewhere or cyber sex masterbation.

It depends how important sex is to you and when youre Cat.

You do need to ask her about your sex life as its giving you resentment isnt it and its unhealthy.

You need to talk its not easy we women go through loss of libido ive recently over the last few years got mine back it may not be to do with dressing. talking is key nice night in or out wooo her again as a man.

Hannah (Wife)

I can understand your position with your husband and I'd like to be in the same position with my wife, I'm really happy for you both that you've been able to accept to the point where you'll let your husband dress in the bedroom and be able to play.

But I'm not in that position, ever since I told my wife i was a dresser our sex life has stopped, completely! Even if I don't want to bring Catriona into the bedroom, my wife has just ignored me completely, even turning her back on me in bed! This has been going on for nearly two years now, and I know she won't talk about it if I asked her what was happening the same as with my dressing.

I won't go into any more detail than that as I feel I've said too much already, but it's so frustrating when you know the other person won't even talk about things, it's just like trying to talk to a brick wall.

I suspect this isn't going to end well, all because she either can't talk or won't talk.

Cat

Compromise is good but i found it easier to be involved and came to terms with it and ok our life is a little colourful as a couple and sex is something we both enjoy but i know for lots of t girls sex isnt on the agenda and sex and sexuality is the big issue for wives worried about their husbands straying or being bisexual.

It doesnt matter if youre bisexual straight or gay if youre married and bisexual and a crossdresser but youre not acting on any urges then thats fine surely there are ways wives can simulate that. giggle.

What am i trying to say i dont know maybe its wives fear the sexuality and in reality most of you guys just enjoy the fun and escapism of crossdresing

Thank you Hannah, no she hasn't, unless she's looked it up on YouTube but I very much doubt it.

The general feeling I get from my wife is if you want to go and do those things then that's up to you but she doesn't want to be involved in any way and tries to just blank it out I think.

If she doesn't want to know about Catriona that's fine, just as long as she doesn't want to start stopping me from doing the things I need to do, if that happens then i guess we've got a problem, it's a little like Juiliette's situation, I'm happy to come to a compromise as long as she doesn't want to stop me altogether.

Cat xx

Wow very brave in deed has your wife seen the video?

WEll done Catriona

Thanks Davina, i did tell my wife ahead of my decision to do the interview and she has been ok about it, saying that she never asked how it went and still has no interest of what's going on with me as Catriona but that's ok I understand that,.

On the back of the interview the editor from Transliving magazine contacted Paul to arrange for the the interview to be transcribed into print, they wanted me to type it all out! But I don't have the time for it so I said if they want the story they'll have to do it themselves.

Cheeky buggers! 😮🤣🤣

Well done that's 3 members Cat, Savannah and Juliette brave enough t o be on Youtube

Esm e would go mad if I did that although people have seen me crossdressed chatting via Skype about crossdressing and help and advice.

I'm glad this forum has helped you, it's what it's here for and it's helped me put thoughts and feelings down and finding others with similar thoughts and feelings and fears plus insecurities.

I get a sense of pride that there are wives here who were once sceptical and scared including my wife Esme that some of the wives have played an active role helping eachother, helping t girls and supporting the forum.

I've a felt and seen a change in attitude and acceptance towards crossdressing over the last decade.

Well done again

Davina