Agreed getting the chat going, finding the right opportunity, time and place and hoping your wife will chat, it won't go quiet, you won't both clam up.

Me and Esme did this plenty of times so think it's good to prepare or for the wife to lead with some questions.

Me and Esme communicated in writing and talking and can now talk about it openly and easily i still pick my moments depending what mood she's in lol.

See Juliette Noirs two videos with wife talking about all this, our answers and questions may be different as Juliette is further along the spectrum in terms of an out and about t girl who's wife and child knows about Juliette. Hoping Juliette does a part 3.

Maybe compiling a question and answer sheet and conduct an interview type chat will help and also help to set a level of understanding and acceptance.

Eveyone is slightly different in their approach.

Davina

Perfect to show your wife Katie if you want her to be part of your trans life.

It's getting the chat going is hard depending on where she is with it.

I think from what I've read in your posts you're getting deep into the thought on why you crossdress but your wife has parked it.

Hannah (Wife)

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I've chatted to a few couples accepting wife and hubby t girl recently who i hope will join us here in our quest for answers its clear some take years following the curve some weeks or months and some instant and sadly some not at all or some t girls remain frustrated in the closet.

It was a good find that curve 😀 helped explain where things could go if both worked on it.

This helped us too i see our path mapped out in there

Hannah (wife)

Esme did that 2nd time we had a girls night in asked to see me get dressed and made up.

Experimentation was seeing him get dressed and doing his makeup and then helping with his makeup

Integration well that's easy now i like an evening with him as her and he's much more relaxed as her now more so than when we first started having girly nights in.

Esme is right about them being nicer when they're dressed maybe its they're thankful and grateful we accept them like this or maybe they slacken off their masculinity which tells them they need to be the more dominant and they hand the reigns on this to us as they remain a little embarrassed that they are crossdressed in front of us?

The kinky stuff can be fun too Rebecca lol.

Emma (Wife)

Thats a good summary of how you both felt Davina if you've got Esmes feelings right and shows over time what we go through.

I think I was on your blog just before Emma but she gained acceptance a lot quicker than i did but i definitely recognise all these steps,

Maybr good for others coming here new to see and see how you found acceptance and what both sides feel.

Love to see if Esme agrees with your points above or has something more to add.

For me

Shock - Was the same omg who is he? why is he doing this? hes a pervert

Denial - It will go away

Frustration - why isnt it going away I found things he dressed in

Depression - do we need councelling will that make this go away

Experimenting - A blog by a crossdresser but is it just his side is my husband the same

Decision - Lots of others say talk about it so we talked

Integration - He is a Davina type crossdresser ive got one of the good types but hes very kinky with it maybe that should be experimentation too the kinky stuff lol

Rebecca (Wife)

Esme wish You'd comment on this so others can see what you may have gone through on this curve heres' my guess

Shock - Esme was definately shocked who would have thought her alpha male Batman of a husband was a Crossdresser.. "What does this mean? are you gay? do you want to be a woman? is it my fault? this isn't something you'd do"

Denial - Esme "I don't want to talk about it"

Frustration - Esme "Why does he keep wanting to talk about it?"

Depression - Esme Maybe "Why has he done this to me?"

Experiment - Esme "You need a better wig"

Decision - Esme "Ok lets try a girls night in"

Integration - Esme "You're nicer as Davina... but be Classy not Trashy"

Then there's us T-Girls also we go through it

Denial - Davina "Why the hell do i dress.. I can't believe she asked if i was Gay where did that come from"

Frustration - Davina "Now I've told her i need to talk about it why is she burying her head i the ground this feels worse than her not knowing"

Depression - Davina "for more reasons than dressing i've hidden depression and stress"

Experiment - Davina "Omg shes coming upstairs OMG there she is and I'm hugging her as Davina " later "We're talking about my dressing and on line ordering a wig wow,

Decision - Davina "OMG we're actually having a girls night in what will i wear what will she think I'm nervous but can't wait" then later "wow she said it was ok and we can do it again and next time she wants to watch me transform"

Integration - Davina "Amazing we can now openly talk about my crossdressing and she says i'm nicer as Davina (i need to work out how) but deep down i know she'd rather i didnt do it but thats ok its understandable"

Your story went through that Davina Esme i think went through all those changes and so did you over a number of years to acceptance. I think it was about 7-8 months for me to sit myself down and realise it wasn't as bad as I envisaged. After my Loose Women shock we now laugh about. He's even done an impression of me coming home and my "WTF" reaction which made me laugh.

Emma (Wife)

I think it a a good guide for anyone to follow if they want to work towards acceptance.

This curve is brilliant mapping emotions i think we've all gone through

Emma (Wife)