That should be on the front page of the forum and may i attribute that quote to you there?
"If you have a crossdresser in you life then it is important that you understand what it means to them and don't lump them together with all the other crossdressers who each has their own definition, motivation etc." Katie..
I'm not disputing that labels are important. We use them because as a society we are lazy and need a quick way of defining something without expending too much energy on actually understanding. The point I am making is you don't be defined by the label.
You are an individual with far more to your personality than just a crossdresser.
Your definition of a crossdresser maybe different to mine, to Emma's, to Hannah's etc. When someone labels you they are applying their understanding of the term. It may not be your definition of the label.
If you have a crossdresser in you life then it is important that you understand what it means to them and don't lump them together with all the other crossdressers who each has their own definition, motivation etc.
Your'e right Hannah labels can help but also hinder Tranny is a negative, transvestite yes agree is very rocky horror T girl is more modern and all encompassing.
Forgot to add we need labels it helps us define something socially we just need to work on the definition for example spread the word a t girl in my book is someone who has fun with crossdressing
Welsh Girl ✊🏴 Way over to the other side of the Trans spectrum from most here but a nice positive story for Lilly.When will we ever see an open program that's honest about cross dressing that doesn't ridicule us for dressing.Lilly's transitioned at a time of change and acceptance but us mere cross dressers still have this stigma over us and Labels.
The point I was trying to make is that being labelled is for the convenience of the person labelling. It is lazy and does not define the person. We are all different and crossdressing is only a small part of who I am. My crossdressing may mean different things to me than it does to Davina or anyone else here. My crossdressing should not define me but unfortunately being a outed as crossdresser would define me for many people who are not willing to look past one small part of my character. Don't be defined by how other people label you.
This is a sad fact.. If it got out the Cross dresser or tranny label would be used to define you .. You know soinso the tranny..Unfortunately for things people don't understand they take comfort in labels. Looks at newspaper front pages celeb accused of sexual abuse, even before any truth comes out they're labelled.. MP is racist even though he isn't but has been labelled it.. I think we have to learn to live with labels as like acceptance of our cross dressing it will be a long time before everyone is open minded enough not to want the comfort blanket of a good label.
Yes but its getting someone to that point Katie which takes a lot of talking or reading.
I think the more you understand the less threatening it becomes.
Katie x
Sure x
Katie x
Thats spot on Katie
That should be on the front page of the forum and may i attribute that quote to you there?
"If you have a crossdresser in you life then it is important that you understand what it means to them and don't lump them together with all the other crossdressers who each has their own definition, motivation etc." Katie..
Thats so true and spot on.
Davina
I'm not disputing that labels are important. We use them because as a society we are lazy and need a quick way of defining something without expending too much energy on actually understanding. The point I am making is you don't be defined by the label.
You are an individual with far more to your personality than just a crossdresser.
Your definition of a crossdresser maybe different to mine, to Emma's, to Hannah's etc. When someone labels you they are applying their understanding of the term. It may not be your definition of the label.
If you have a crossdresser in you life then it is important that you understand what it means to them and don't lump them together with all the other crossdressers who each has their own definition, motivation etc.
Katie x
Your'e right Hannah labels can help but also hinder Tranny is a negative, transvestite yes agree is very rocky horror T girl is more modern and all encompassing.
Sorry Katie we need labels
People label everything
Forgot to add we need labels it helps us define something socially we just need to work on the definition for example spread the word a t girl in my book is someone who has fun with crossdressing
Hannah (wife)
Interesting
I prefer calling my husband a T girl not sure why it seems more modern.
I dont like transvestite makes me think of the Rocky Horror Show.
Hannah (wife)
Nature doesn't but things in boxes so why do humans? I blame the puritanical Victorians!
Katie x
A beautiful story https://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/p08yr4dk/lily-a-transgender-story
The point I was trying to make is that being labelled is for the convenience of the person labelling. It is lazy and does not define the person. We are all different and crossdressing is only a small part of who I am. My crossdressing may mean different things to me than it does to Davina or anyone else here. My crossdressing should not define me but unfortunately being a outed as crossdresser would define me for many people who are not willing to look past one small part of my character. Don't be defined by how other people label you.
Katie x
I prefer being called a T girl to a crossdresser and those other labels.
I actually even crossdressed today so I'm a crossdresser again after 3 months must be upto about 6 or 7 times in 2020 do i even qualify?
Labels cause a lot of confusion I remember Cross dresser, tgirl, transvestite and Tranny omg my husband is a tranny.
Tranny negative thoughts of this label
Crossdreser feels more a ridicule
Transvestite sounds more final and a lifestyle
Tgirl I like someone expressing themselves differently in how they present and have fun and get something positive from it.
Emma (wife)
Interesting listen https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m000q3ks