By: katie
Subject: A couple more questions to our GGs (Genetic Girls)
1) When you get dressed up for an evening out with the girls are you dressing for yourself or to impress your friends? I'm assuming that you are not dressing to attract any unwanted attention from men.
Em said how much better she felt about making an effort and how compliments made her feel better.
Women always seem to compliment each other whereas men just take the michael.
2) If you think you look good does it lift your mood? Can you change your mood with clothes?
3) When you are looking to buy new clothes do you look at the models and think I'll look good in that or she looks attractive in that it'll do the same for me?
4) When you think of your husbands alter ego do you think of her as competition (another woman in the marriage) or as part of him?
A bit random but we're throwing questions in that come into our heads at the moment.
By: Katie
Subject: Extra Comment
I thought that this was a valid reply to some of Sindy's concerned and didn't want it to get lost further down the blog so I posted it again. There is a lot going on at the moment and unless you make the effort it can be hard to follow. So excuse my double post.
I don't think its the label 'crossdressers wife' that is the problem. The partner of the main subject will always get the anonymous tag line. Davina McCall and her husband?
The issue is that Sindy and other wives/partners are the wife of a crossdressers with all the social stigma that that entails. When I asked the question about it being a 'burden' this was really the response I was expecting. Maybe keeping the secret is not a burden but a wife / partner will always have the same fears that we, as crossdressers, have about being found out. It can affect us and our families both socially and financially which is why many of us decide to keep in private and in many cases from our wives and partners.
It doesn't make it right but it does give an element of protection for the ones you love.
My biggest concern is always for my wife and children. I know the easy answer is just 'give it up' but I think that that demonstrates the huge need that I and many others have to crossdress. As I said before if there was a pill then I'd take it.
I get Davina's points about it being harmless fun and a good way to relax. It is. But this fear will exist until it becomes socially acceptable which I think is a long way off. I don't see it happening in my lifetime anyway or at least for people of my generation!
Transgender individuals who decide to live their lives as women are becoming more accepted with high profile people such as Caitlyn Jenner. However, for normal people changing your sex can have a devastating effect on their lives and that of their families.
Crossdressers don't want to change sex and although we share some of the same social problems as transgender people I do believe that our wiring is not the same and their need for gender expression and identity are different from our own (CDs).
Changing peoples opinions one by one is a difficult task. But as with anything going viral it only takes a few to be on message to get it out to the whole world. Or at least those with the intelligence to understand that we are all individuals and different from each other.
I don't think that men being accepted as crossdressers will suddenly mean an army of men tottering about in high heels and dresses. It is still a private matter and although some people will want acceptance by dressing in public this would still be rare.