I think if it's at all possible then it is a good thing to be accepted in a relationship. I think the biggest hurdle any relationship has to deal with is that the partner of a crossdresser often feels they all of a sudden don't fully know the person they have loved and lived with for possibly many years. There might be thoughts of what else has been kept secret, and of course the usual questions of do you want to be female, are you gay, etc. It will always be a slow process as you don't want to hurt the feelings of your partner whilst hopefully having some form of engagement around the topic. The hardest part, talking from experience is keeping lines of communication open. I'd personally like to talk a lot more freely with my partner around the topic of dressing but I very much have to gauge the mood. My wife does thankfully understand this is part of who I am and doesn't make me a monster or a freak. She is also very kind and has said at the end of the day it's only clothes and what's it really matter. I know there is probably an element of not wanting everyone knowing about my crossdressing needs and how it might reflect on the family but I think this is only a small part. I am truly thankful that as a family we are very close so can work through most things. When I at last had a chat early last year with my wife I pointed out how all this hiding who I am was having a detrimental effect on my mental and physical health as I was getting depressed and not knowing what direction to turn. My levels of stress were making it hard to function and something had to give. I truly would like to believe that every good relationship needs honesty, trust and respect. As far as I am concerned whilst this was one of the hardest things I've done in my relationship it was worth it as I think it really highlights what a wonderful women/mum/friend I married. I know though it's not easy to talk to our partners about this side of us and that it might be detrimental for others. I think the most important bit of advice I could suggest is that we ensure or partners know they aren't losing the person they fell in love with. I'd love to know my wife's perspective of this but she is yet to comment on here, maybe one day.