By: Davina

Subject: Negative Post - Reality of it all what people think

Hi Sindy I hope you’re not still on a “Debbie-downer”

It can be worrying when you have kids thinking I hope they’ll be safe.

My kids have their half term this week and have been to sports clubs in a local leisure centre where I know the people showing them how to play hockey and netball are ok, have been checked etc but you still warn them not to go off with anyone, don’t wander away from the leisure centre and look after each other.

I ran kids clubs when younger and had to run through police checks and all that stuff and back then pedophillia etc was a less known and worried about thing but people are very aware of it these days including the kids.

You have to be careful about it too for example I was out with a friend last night in a pub and he mentioned someone I'd not heard about for a long time and I said didn't he do time something to do with his ex wifes 13 year old daughter and my friend said yes he did but she later admitted she made it up to hurt him for leaving her mum... now in my mind he'd messed about with her and went to prison for it but he was innocent however hearing his name and not knowing the full facts its the first thing that sprang to mind and it will probably stick to him all his life. I could mention his name in work and others would say the same as I said last night and without someone there who knows the full facts the rumour will continue.

My oldest is at an age where she wants to go out with friends to the park etc and I cant keep her in and under my supervision for ever. But you do worry about them crossing the road safely and also what evil people we know are out there they may bump into and we have to prepare them mentally to see a sign of danger and get from there.

Its hard but I’d never be suspicious of male teachers or male coaches etc and confident if someone did anything to my kids they would tell me and I would deal with it.. The thing is we’ve seen lately it’s not just men who have commited crimes with minors as there are some sick people about.

It is sad however that because we crossdress and you can read here it’s a fairly harmless and indeed sane thing that we do but it shows why men keep it secret if people associate crossdressing with perversion and link it into sick people.

I do get it though and would maybe worry myself even being a crossdresser if somehow one of my kids friends fathers was outed as a Crossdresser how would I feel my kids going over on a play date with this guys kids.. Ok He’s a crossdresser big deal but what sort of a crossdresser what motivates him to crossdress… I’m sure we’ve let our kids go to friends houses and for all we know parents are taking drugs, drink heavily and god knows what else so Crossdressng shouldn’t be the worst thing to worry about however I bet if people found out I was a crossdresser they’d probably be a bit wary of their kids coming round here and that’s a sad thing as unfortunately Crossdressing and perversion is a society linked thing which we’re not getting away from any time soon in how people picture us.

I agree its awful that us normal blokes who just enjoy the escapism of crossdressing get lumped in with such labels as pervert and sexual abuser.

All you have to do though is shut it out of your mind in the knowledge your husband isn’t a predator he’s probably just like me a normal alpha male, hard working father and husband who happens to enjoy crossdressing for all the good benefits it brings in stress relief and escapism for a bit.

It must be hard though as sometimes you must want to scream "Look you are over generalising my husband is a crossdresser and he’s not a pervert or any of the things you lot keep saying about men who crossdress!"

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Anyway I hope you’ve raised yourself above the gloom and doom and have a nice weekend planned.

I’m going to watch a rugby match.. how Alpha Male of me.