By: Sindy

Subject: Telling people

I thought I'd ask this question separately as I know it's something that confuses wives. I also know that Davina and Katie are happy to be mostly closeted occasional dressers, but I'm wondering if they or anyone else has any thoughts on the phenomenon where other ordinary, non-trans occasional crossdressers one day feel a need to tell everyone.

It's not as rare as we'd think either. There are quite a few crossdressing forums that even encourage 'coming out' as though crossdressing for private were an identity like being gay. But, is it? I know it's a part of who you are, but I always struggle to understand why anyone would want it to be the only thing they are. As soon as you tell someone, that's often all they will see. Mostly because it's so unusual. Wives need to work hard to see their husbands as a whole picture again and it really can take time. Some never do. Friends and family, who you might not see very often, might not get passed this information. They might only ever see a crossdresser and to me, this just seems like such a waste of a life and all the other things a man might have achieved will be forgotten. How sad.

So what drives it do you think? Is there an element of exhibitionism and shock value? Boundary pushing again? Or do they really think people want and need to know they crossdress, despite it being a private activity. I'll add that it always seems to be middle aged men who suddenly 'come out' to their kids and families and friends. Maybe it's no different than the guy who buys a sports car and sleeps with his secretary. Both are pretty reckless and the consequences long lasting - but men keep doing it nonetheless.

Or, are men just rubbish at keeping long-term secrets?!!