I've heard O'Brien out of order quite a few times. The obe time I refer to he was really out of order asking the caller who was trying to make a valid point if he felt like singing the red flag etc a typical bullying tactic of someone with socialist views on life to paint a picture that beubg a socialist is evil or ridiculous when what we actually need is a mix of capitalism options and socialism.. Balance is the key and I hope that doesn't make me sound life a centrist.. We're getting into politics here 🤣

Nope never smacked or anything as a kid but then I never really gave cause for it.. Had a ball egg shaped or round and I was happy.

I dont think armour applied as a kid.. I cross dressed as enjoyed it and back then was turned on by it and how lingerie felt.

Later years when you gain a reputation as an alpha male and a leader the armour is put on and cross dressing is now my escapism..

Davina

I didn't hear the interview so I can't comment. Normally he asks questions to understand why someone might have entrenched views. I started listening to him during Brexit, maybe because I shared a lot of the same views, but often Brexiteers would phone up without the answers to simple questions. Some people are so entrenched in their beliefs that they will not listen to alternatives, even if they are backed up by facts. You know as well as I do that you could put a blue rosette on a big in some constituencies and it would be elected as a conservative MP. You only need to look at the current cabinet to know that is the case 😂

If you weren't smacked as a child then you were lucky. I was smacked at school for something I didn't do. Also a few times by my dad for things I did do. But then it was the normal thing to do. J O"B received beatings at school from the headmaster with what he describes as some S&M tool. He was also punched full in the face by a master and told it would happen again if he didn't behave.

The armour that he talks about is a shell to protect you from feeling emotions and pain. I started off this thread with a description that I felt apt and I feel that it applies to him in his description within the book. Our personality are be formed during our childhood and although we may try to hide them or block out certain memories they can have a profound affect in later life. My crossdressing started in childhood and has offered me an escape from the trails of everyday life. I get the sam good feelings I got then when I dress. it is me shedding my armour.

Katie x

I saw him a few days ago rip into someone who came on his show saying they were a socialist and he ripped into them as if being a socialist was some sort of evil. I wasn't impressed. My father never smacked me no one ever did as a kid and I've never done it to my kids. That's not where my armour came from, it came from wanting to excel and be the best at sport, the smartest in class, in college and uni, in work.. And my escapism.. Cross dressing go figure

Dislike him and all the rest on LBC

Is that LBC radio James Obrien?

Just started reading the James O'Brien book 'How not to be wrong' and he talks about the armour we all wear to protect ourselves. For him it masks an unhappy time at public school where he was beaten regularly by the masters. Luckily no abused as some of his fellow pupils were. Got quite emotional thinking about how awful people can be to each other at times.

Katie x

Just had a chat with @Davina . Both sitting there in our trackies, t shirt and stubble. Still lugging it around 😂

Lugging the Armour round full time mentally exhausted some times with work and having to force some issues in the job down peoples throats.. I've been in this job a long time and specialised and seen silly ideas tried and I strive to make things better and some people just need me to get out the red light saber and ... Turn sith

Still lugging it around ☹️

Just enjoy it as Emma says.

I get you need that armour and that impression of you to get through certain aspects of life you need to be outwardly all man.

You have this to fall back on and take the armour off from time to time.

Hannah (wife)

And there's nothing wrong with Cross dressing if it helps you men unwind.

Especially if you enjoy it.

Emma (wife)

We do need balance but once you show people you in your metaphorical armour that's the image of you people see and expect to see so you have to keep it up.

We have found a way of escaping this and its harmless.. Crossdressing.

Men are so silly worrying about being labelled macho or sissy etc.

You hold onto so much stress.

You need balance.

You need your cross dressing for that balance and to let yourself free of your emotional baggage.

Why is it men do this to themselves and develop this I am man hear me roar thing?

Emma (wife)

Time off work with the kids my armour can be stripped back. Esme's last few hours in work in 2020.. Davina packed away until 2021 I'm expecting stress levels to be high in January and February after time off no idea when kids will return back time work safely. Will need to take off the armour and put on a dress at some time no doubt to help me unwind. Will also br back on strict diet with Esme and walking / running.

I'm still feeling the weight of the armour. Heavy on my shoulders.

Katie x

You're spot on Katie,

My lifes been one of putting up armour..

That armour has given people an impression of me up close or from afar.

I was i a meeting in Derby sat next to someone and she introduced herself and i told her my name and she said omg we've nicknamed you Darth Vader as you're someone to sit up and take note about as you're demanding in a good way demand things get done.

I was taken aback a bit i'd got that persona in work.. But it is something i suppose i portray but more Mace Windu than Darth Vader tho i can become Vader its true as Esme will probably agree to when i lose my cool.

We bury feminine traits and feelings and it causes us stress.. we're men and men must not cry, men must be strong etc etc and the result is bottled up emotion and stress.

The armour means no one has ever bullied me and woe betide they do.

Esme has seen through the armour and definately sees behind it when i'm dressed seeing me different "nicer" as Davina.

We definately wear an armour of bravado but I'm increasingly fed up of seeing it especially the way groups of men try to big themselves up and how they refer to women but saying that always been like it and sometimes called it out.. a friend looking at a woman "I'd do her"... "yes but she'd not do you.. doesnt go down well but i hate that think it if you want but dont say that sort of nonsense.

Crossdressing strips us of the armour strips us bare and vulnerable in front of our wives if we've told them and can dress with them.

or strips it alone behind closed doors.. so theraputic to take off that armour.

Carry wearing the armour 24/7 and you'll crack up

Davina