By: Sindy
Subject: Question
I don't know if you've answered this already, but what happens if you don't dress?
If you've answered this question with some version of 'I'd be grumpy, depressed, stressed or unhappy', doesn't this concern you?
And before you compare this to being moody if you can't surf or play golf or whatever, remember that surfing and golf and most other activities are a choice. The more I read and understand of crossdressing the more I realize there is no choice. Or, at least, there isn't any more. Perhaps there was many years ago when a young boy made a decision to try on his mother's clothing. As an adult it's embedded in your psyche, right?
Anyway, regardless of how in control you are of it all (and you and Katie are fantastic at the control, clearly) does it ever concern you that this behavior has this 'hold' over you?
I think I'd be a little freaked out. But then, I'm coming from the outside and have nothing to compare it to other than maybe alcoholics or smokers etc.
By: Davina
Subject: Re: Question
What happens if I dress?
Well its been about 8 weeks since I last crossdressed when away with work in a hotel in Derby and I packed Davina as an opportunity to dress and was nice working on the laptop as Davina oh and what sparked this long bout of chatter I chatted to a real woman wife of a tgirl on skype face to face albeit over webcams and Sindy scalded me for doing it lol
If I don't dress hmmmm
The urge can come and go as seeing a woman presented well making the effort to look nice in a supermarket may make me think I'd love to go home now and get dolled up or work may be uber stressful and I think I could do with dressing to unwind (work is always uber stressful) but its changed slightly in that I used to dress, maybe just put on lingerie and a dress and heels but now I prefer to put on makeup and the wig and dress fully or I don't do it at all so opportunity and time to dress up is a rarer thing for me ie if I don't have quality time to enjoy being crossdressed I wont do it which makes the next opportunity even better after a long stretch of not dressing.
Like anything else if you cant do something you enjoy you get grumpy, depressed, stressed or unhappy', this can happed to me if I know my football teams on TV but I cant watch it or if my rugby teams at home and I cant get to the game as I'm away with work..
Crossdressing is one of the fun enjoyable things I do so if I cant dress sure I get cranky but unlike football or rugby where I remain kranky if my team loses or plays badly after crossdressing the calmness remains ie I know I have a chance to dress up and think this will be good I'm looking forward to it in anticipation then I get made up and enjoy that aspect then I'm dressed and relaxation and sometimes sexiness / hornyness washes over me but then times up and I'm back to male me but the euphoria remains for a good few hours later. It really is a pill free stress relief crossdressing for me anyway.
Golf, football, rugby, surfing, or whatever is a choice and so is crossdressing - I chose to do it it doesn't control me "The wand choses the wizard Harry" is not the same with crossdressing not for me anyway... I can see a pair of high heels and not have to try them on lol.
However I cannot speak for everyone and for some men crossdressing will control them and their urge is greater than mine.
My wife notices how when I dress I'm different and after dressing I'm more chilled out so I think she sees it as a positive for me this fancy dress makarky as Emma has just referred to it in one post and that is what my wifes said about it I just think of it as you in fancy dress and that's ok by me as that's all I'm doing still me but looking "Fabulous Darling!" lol .
Crossdressing has no hold over me as I understand it and I am controlling my urges to crossdress
So 8 weeks in since I last crossdressed and last crossdressed only as the opportunity was there and like I've said 12-14 times per year I crossdress so very occasional although I do feel at the moment like its time I got all dolled up but mainly as I've not done it for 2 months.
I think in my mind that idea of a girls night in trying on all my dresses with my wife and having a sort out is the main idea in my mind for my next session as Davina withmy wife also getting dolled up maybe let me do her makeup and try on dresses and heels too but that comes down to circumstances and agreement with my wife and the kids staying on a Friday or Saturday night as grandparents so we have the house to ourselves curtains closed but would be fab if that was my next dressing opportunity.
Also diet and fitness has taken over my psyche at the moment out walking / running and dieting to lose the lbs before our hols abroad so even less time to crossdress..
I may get a day working from home next week and maybe I'll have a good shave and when the kids go off to school get all tarted up an work from home as Davina but if I don't I know another opportunity will arise..
The most annoying thing is thinking you have opportunity to dress then things change and you don't get the chance which can be disappointing but you know there will be other times and the worst is you get dolled up and your makeup is perfect and you look in the mirror and think wow I really do look good today then something happens and you have to get changed back pronto and waste all the makeup!!!