THE LONGING TO CROSSDRESS

Many people I know who are not part of the crossdressing community struggle to understand T-girls and our objectives, and our motivations.

That’s not surprising if you sit down and think about our community as a whole—what we do... who we are... Resgular men..

Then ask yourself: "Why is it they don't understand us?"

Because many of us don’t really understand ourselves! The aim of the forum "Why do we crossdress!!??"

I can say the older i get the more i think about dressing and wanting to be fully made up and crossdressed and the fact i cant is so frustrating and probably bad for my mental health. on the train today with my wife young girl made up short dress heels makeup not bad and in front of us a woman black tights nice mkeup but her eye lashes way too long and not natural more drag than feminine and my wife nice shade of lippy faux leather trousers boots nice blouse .. I was so jealous,,

LET’S ASK “WHY?”

If I took a “straw poll” 10-20 Crossdressers and asked them, "why do you do it?"

I'll get 10-20 different answers or some the same to an extent?.

Almost certainly, a few would simply answer, “Hmm, good question… I don’t really know.”

If I took this a stage further and asked, “Why do you we sometimes have an overpowering, all encompassing need to crossdress, something which is so strong, irresistible and almost overwhelming, stressed out and its the only cure, that everything else in your life becomes secondary as you want and need to crossdress, you need that escapism.. And then at other times, such need is not there at all, even if you wanted it to be?”

ie the opportunity to dress you don't take and dont feel like it..

In short, why do you sometimes yearn, long, pine, almost beg to crossdress and, at other times, almost recoil from the thought of putting on a slinky en fem dressmlingerie, or stockings and heels?

IS IT A CYCLE?

I'm no expert but it seems to me from my various discussions and debates with other T-girls that, just as women have their 28 day cycles of raging and then passive hormones, mood swings and changing temperament, the male of the species also has a cycle of his own.

Menopause? Manopause as we get older the drop in testosterone and the strengthening of the want to crossdress? Am I wrong?

With a genetic male, the cycle seems to be less regular, although most friends or colleagues of mine admit to having have good weeks and bad, good moods and not so good.

Sometimes it's related to things that have happened in their daily lives, maybe at work or at home and sometimes it's related to their stress levels and inability to relax when they need to most. But there's a cycle nonetheless.

Women will say fk off you dont know what it's like.. it's easy to dismiss that men go through depression and to call us a wuss or weak or tell us to "Man up!" probably in reality nothing more damaging for us telling us to put that manly front back up of invincibility when we're suffereing from stress and depression.

INTENSITY OF OUR YEARNINGS

Often, at times of major stress or, maybe after an enforced, prolonged period of not cross dressing, the need to crossdress becomes so intense, so strong—and the yearning to escape into our feminine world is all we can think about.

How does one explain this to a woman? a wife or girlfriend but its true!!!

Conversely, for some I have spoken with, a period of not wanting to crossdress can last from a few days or even a few months, almost as if the “need” simply lies dormant. But when the yearning comes back, watch out! Nothing can get in your way of getting into female attire and when you can't its not easy.. again wives may say man up.. ladies this doesnt help us.

DEALING WITH OUR FEELINGS

From my own experiences, two noticeable things have happened to me with the effluxion of time.

Firstly, in my earlier days during the times of an enforced absence from crossdressing, if I saw an opportunity coming up when I could crossdress—whether this might have been a week or even two weeks away—I would become quite preoccupied and all my thoughts and energies would be focussed on the time when I could dress again.

We set that time in our mental diary a time for escapism.

When this is then scuppered its like a kick in the balls. Ladies that means it hurts.

Secondly, as I have “matured”, the yearnings have increased especially with less opportunity to dress as the kids have becpme more free to come and go as they please,

I now have less opportunities to dress, which makes the feeling of need more severe.

I see well made up women, or hear my wife talking of what to wear and wish i had that freedom of expression,

LIFELONG GIFT

Whatever the reasons, and no matter how strong the yearnings you may have to crossdress feel, rest assured they will never go away. They’ll be with you for life!.. Sorry Ladies once a t girl always a t girl..

It is a gift its strange for sure but it's harmless if controlled and available .. it=f its a pill free way out of depression or an excapism from stress why give up, why stop it.. have fun with crossdressing and enjoy it,

Davina :)