I agree with Davina the idea of Crossdressers kissing men ewwww if my other half was into that he'd be out and my acceptance out the window but I don't mind him kissing me as her lol.

Having now spent over a year debating Crossdressing as a wife of a crossdresser I can class his Crossdressing as "normal behaviour"

I've gone from repulsion to acceptance thanks to everyones help and guidance and understanding and honesty (still wish Davinas wife would come chat here)

If you are a wife in shock the hard thing to do is talk about crossdressing with your husband but the best thing to do also is "Talk with you husband about his Crossdressing"

I've found he's the same person and like Davinas wife find him nicer when dressed maybe I feel I have the edge over him or something but it's still him.

Sindy has had difficulties getting around seeing her husband dressed but it was a bit of a revelation to me and to Davinas wife reading the blog seeing the transformation and how well they dress and do their makeup and how they "portray" for want of better words women in the time they are crossdressed.

Now don't get me wrong I have found acceptance and sometimes encourage him to get dressed up if I think he's stressed but this is an accessional thing and if it became more frequent well we'd have words about that as that's moving the boundary which he says he won't cross.

The latest we've discussed is possibly going out with him dressed miles from here which I think I will open in a new forum posting

Em

Sindy "NO NO NO NO!"

Extract from the article:

"He might extend to imagining what it would be like to kiss a man as a woman, to feel bristles that are normally his on lips as soft as those of the lovers he has known"

Can't think of anything worse "Yuck Puke No!"

Extract from article:

"Admiring himself in the mirror in a pair of black tights, the cross dresser samples the intense, fascinating satisfaction of being simultaneously himself and the object of his desire"

Guilty as charged of admiring myself when Dressed.

Extract from article:

"It may of course be a bit disturbing to sense that one is really not so firmly anchored to the gender one was born into. It may be bewildering to have to accept that one is at heart, in the semi-conscious mind, always going to be something far more diverse, multi-faceted but also perhaps interesting than a mere ‘man’ or a ‘woman’"

I'm very much all man just happen to like Crossdressing and how it makes me look and feel. Always happy to return to Alpha male after a brief bit of escapism as "Davina".

I wouldn't say I'm multi-faceted but I'm definitely an individual and interesting lol.

Extract from article:

"Cross-dressing is a very normal thing to do"

I'm a Crossdresser and can't agree with this (my own conditioning maybe) although I know I'm normal and can think of it as dressing up as I would dress up as a Cowboy or a Stormtrooper or a sailor but those costumes wouldn't give the same effect as dressing as a woman.

This is an end goal to make Crossdressing normal the I can close this Forum and my blog but if this blog / forum can help some people to see it as normal or at least something they don't have to worry about.

I'll read the article later but to answer Katies Question (which could be a Forum question in its own right) "Once Married what makes it necessary to Crossdress?"

Enjoyment and maybe conditioning as you've done it all your life and enjoy it so why stop doing something you enjoy.

However for a period of marriage I did stop dressing but it returned with stress of work and other stressful situations and to a small extent as I dressed when younger in admiration of women and a certain type of fashion I think part of the reasons I dress is still that admiration and compensation for not having my wife in heels, stockings etc very often.

I will raise a new Forum question and see what we get in..

Yep. Littlewoods have a lot to answer for!

My Dad used to work in a dpeartment store and if I ever needed the loo when we were there my Mum used to take me to the ladies, which was through the lingerie departmeent. It was a different world for a young boy!

I've connected my crossdressing from an early age with a desire to empathise with those I admire and desire.

OK it started with loving the feel of silky lingerie, peticoats and slips and nylon as a very young child but as I got to around 10 years old and discovered there was more to life than football and Rugby and started noticing girls and more to the point women and my mothers clothing catalogues (Especially the lingerie section pages) my crossdressing went from enjoying the feel of the clothing to a more erotic desire.

I've blogged about this how us Crossdressers love women and we love the female image and clothing and look and I definitely have a desire to empathise women when I crossdress I want to do women justice and try to look as convincing as possible.

My dressing has changed from the erotic "Tarty look" where I'd dress like a hooker and get off on it to now dressing more to look passable and stylish (but still sexy) but the admiration thing is spot on as I admire women (Especially those who make an effort to look their best) or is it i admire a certain style and type of woman who dresses a certain way and wears her hair and makeup a certain way.

Maybe those clothing catalogues have shaped in my mind this is how you like women to look and dress as remembering back all the women were models of varying ages always made up and always in high heels.

I can understand the fantasy bit about wanting to crossdress. It is taking on another persona so that all your troubles and stresses can be left behind. That has got to help with the stress relief and enjoyment. I'm sure that's the same of other 'hobbies' have the same effect in that it gets you out of the everyday world. I also get the fascination with everything feminine. It is a bit of a worship thing which is maybe why we (crossdressers) always worry so deeply about out what our other halves think/feel. I don't think that the husband of a golf widows think for a second about her feelings. He's just off doing what he loves.

What the article doesn't explain is the need to crossdress. It does normally start in all innocence. A pre-pubescent isn't sexually driven it's just playing. Later it does become sexual and maybe the crossdressing becomes the substitute for a girl friend. But later on, once married, what makes it necessary to crossdress?

I get the de-stress but it has to be something biological that makes it so necessary. It's not a hobby, it's a passion.

Katie