http://www.thebookoflife.org/the-psychology-of-cross-dressing/
Forgot about this article, but when I last read it I remember finding it quite intriguing how the author connects crossdressing with a desire empathise with those they admire and desire. Some of the examples, like authors writing other gender characters, is sort of an 'aha' moment. Is crossdressing so simple as to be about curiosity?
Have a read and let me know what you think. It's one of the more 'normal' and refreshing explanations I've read, and it might help others here get their heads around all this.
I agree with Davina the idea of Crossdressers kissing men ewwww if my other half was into that he'd be out and my acceptance out the window but I don't mind him kissing me as her lol.
Having now spent over a year debating Crossdressing as a wife of a crossdresser I can class his Crossdressing as "normal behaviour"
I've gone from repulsion to acceptance thanks to everyones help and guidance and understanding and honesty (still wish Davinas wife would come chat here)
If you are a wife in shock the hard thing to do is talk about crossdressing with your husband but the best thing to do also is "Talk with you husband about his Crossdressing"
I've found he's the same person and like Davinas wife find him nicer when dressed maybe I feel I have the edge over him or something but it's still him.
Sindy has had difficulties getting around seeing her husband dressed but it was a bit of a revelation to me and to Davinas wife reading the blog seeing the transformation and how well they dress and do their makeup and how they "portray" for want of better words women in the time they are crossdressed.
Now don't get me wrong I have found acceptance and sometimes encourage him to get dressed up if I think he's stressed but this is an accessional thing and if it became more frequent well we'd have words about that as that's moving the boundary which he says he won't cross.
The latest we've discussed is possibly going out with him dressed miles from here which I think I will open in a new forum posting
Em