Why I cross dress: The story behind Davina

Hi, I’m Davina—and I’m a crossdresser. But those words only scratch the surface of who I am and why I do this.

Crossdressing for me isn’t just about clothing, heels, or makeup (though I adore those things, especially a good pair of black stockings, a flattering dress, and bold red lips). It’s something deeper—it’s escapism, self-expression, and part of my identity.

Davina is a side of me that’s elegant, feminine, and confident. When I dress, it’s like a mental reset. The stress of my everyday "alpha male" life fades, and I step into someone softer, calmer, and more in tune with how I feel inside.

From the early days of trying on tights as a child to the joy I now find in a full transformation—wig, lingerie, heels, and all—this has always been something that brings me peace and even pride.

As Davina, I feel sexy, relaxed, and surprisingly me, well a different me at least which my wife seems to recognise telling me I'm nicer when I'm "Davina".. maybe the Alpha me is a facade a front put on expected of me.

This blog is a space where I’m sharing that journey, the highs and struggles, and exploring what it means to crossdress—not just for me, but for anyone who might relate or love someone who’s on a similar path.

Davina