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Hi, I’m Davina—and I’m a crossdresser. But those words only scratch the surface of who I am and why I do this. Crossdressing for me isn’t...

This blogs all my own thoughts and story as a Crossdressing alpha male.. yes you heard me or read me an alpha male up there with the best...

For those of you who have followed Why Do I Crossdress? for a while, you’ll probably know that I’ve been talking about writing a book for quite some time. Well… I finally did it. And more importantly, I finally gave it to my wife. I suspect some of you have been waiting for that moment almost as much as I have. Some of you have asked about the book, some have encouraged me to publish it, and others have told me that you would genuinely like to read it. So this blog is partly

What happens when a man who has spent his entire life being strong finally allows himself to be soft? I am, by every conventional measure, a very ordinary man. A husband. A father. A leader. A sportsman. A man who has spent decades being the strong one the protector, the problem solver, the person who is expected to cope. But there is another side to him. Her name is Davina. For more than thirty years, I've secretly crossed the invisible lines society draws around masculinity

It’s been a while since I’ve written a blog. Life, work, family and everything else have been getting in the way. Work has been particularly stressful, and somehow, amongst all the usual responsibilities, Davina time disappeared too. Five months passed. Five months without that opportunity to shut the door, take a few hours for myself and become the other side of me. Then last Wednesday, finally, I had the opportunity. Just a few hours testing the waters of college and Uni ti

I asked AI to assess me as a man and it recognised I can be alpha but gave me a different label. I then told it I Crossdress. ​We live in a world that asks men to be pillars. In our careers, we are expected to be the technical experts, the steady hands who diagnose the impossible, fix the broken, and provide clear blueprints for everyone else to follow. At home, we are the rock for our partners, the providers for our households, and the role models guiding our children throug

I listened to a YouTube video recently about the psychology of crossdressing. https://youtu.be/-vw28Y8NgzE?is=FfSow2-CMi5S-G1R One particular example really stuck with me. It described a little girl falling off her bicycle. People rush over. “Are you OK?” “Did you hurt yourself?” “Come here, let me have a look.” Now imagine a little boy falling off his bike. “Get up.” “You're fine.” “Come on, man up.” “Don't cry.” “Get back on the bike.” It's a simple example, but it made me

Sometimes I look back at my crossdressing journey and wonder just how different my life might have been if one conversation had never happened. My wife "Let me put makeup on you and Dress you as a woman" At the time, I don't think either of us could possibly have imagined where that innocent question might eventually lead. I was already attracted to trying on women's clothing. I liked the things I saw women wearing—stockings, heels, lingerie and dresses. I liked the fabrics,

I've chatted to sooo many Crossdressers / T-Girls over the last month via X posts and DMs and the main query has been - "How do I come out to my wife?" - "I want to write my wife a letter about my crossdressing" - "Help I can't do this alone any more I need to confess to my partner" A definite theme and I've had about 10 letters to proof read from Crossdressers to wives.. Their words, their lives, their info, their reasons why - Some have been good but some have made me cring

What If My Wife Had NeveI have a day off today so in the mood for blogging.. Originally booked time off with the kids but neither of them here.. College started a week earlier than expected but not enough free space and time for a day off as Davina.. That would have been a gamble. What if one of them came home early?? That's my frustration for the next few years.. Wasted years!! Frustrating times.. I need to find a way to have my Davina escape.. Yesterday a thought hit me as

Read this first https://cdtra007.wixsite.com/mysite/post/crossdresseduk-article and then this.. When I sent my original piece about the book I had written for my wife to CrossdressedUK, I knew it was going to be edited. That’s what happens when you submit something for publication. You write your version of the story, someone else reads it with an editorial eye, and they decide what works, what needs changing and what might work better for their audience. What I didn’t really

I was asked to write an article for CrossdressedUK.. Anna and Harriet gave it an edit and here is is.. https://crossdressed.co.uk/crossdressing-and-marriage-book-for-my-wife/#content I Wrote a Book for My Wife About My Crossdressing — But I Haven’t Given It to Her Yet Twenty years ago, I accidentally revealed my crossdressing to my wife before I really understood it myself. In January this year, one unexpected conversation made me realise I finally had the words I wish I’d ha

Sometimes you don't realise how much you need to get away until you actually do it. This weekend was one of those occasions. A family weekend away, getting everyone together, the kids, the parents and us and, for a little while, escaping the usual routines, responsibilities and pressures of everyday life. However it was hard work keeping everyone happy with the age range between the kids and grandparents 60 years. Mobility is vastly different However the break from work was

https://open.spotify.com/episode/51yZ6np78mn36ZQBYmduJw?si=njG92dXjTOe7ynz07UBuTw&utm_source=copy-link 💄 Weekly Hot Spot: Makeup Tips for Crossdressers. So thought I'd blog about this from two intelligent beautiful funny ladies on the weekly hot spot some good tips.. below my thoughts on makeup. I've blogged about makeup before this is a recap and also as the weekly hotspot featured makeup this week on my morning walk.. Who would think this Alpha leader of people, husband an

For context this starts at chapter one a transcript from Anna a wife of a crossdresser Harriett and founders of Crossdressed UK in soul kink podcast owned by the lovely Emily . Back to it the final chapter Davina: Looking back, I think that gradual process probably mattered. Neither of us had to suddenly go from “this is completely hidden” to “everything is fine.” We found our way through it in stages. And perhaps that's the important thing for other couples: acceptance doesn

Davina: When I was away with work and had the opportunity to dress, I was often online chatting with other crossdressers, brainstorming about why we dress, sharing experiences and supporting people who were struggling with the same questions I'd spent years trying to answer. Sometimes I'd also end up talking with wives and partners who were trying to understand their husband's crossdressing. Sometimes those conversations went late into the night. For me, Davina wasn't about f

Davina: And I wanted to reassure my wife that she didn't need to be freaked out by it. I wanted her to understand that I wasn't suddenly becoming someone else, I wasn't going anywhere and our relationship hadn't changed. I just wanted her to know what was going on inside my head. And honestly, sometimes simply being able to say, “I'm thinking about Davina today” and have your wife listen without shutting the conversation down can be enough. Because when something is important

Davina: Eventually, she got to the point where she could walk into the bedroom and actually meet Davina. So over those eight years, her understanding evolved from: “What is he doing?” to: “What does this mean for us?” And for me, the answer is increasingly clear: it gives me an escape from male stress, pressure and the expectations of masculinity. But my wife has asked me something that really made me think:“You've got crossdressing. What do I have?” And that's a very fair qu

Davina: I completely understand why she felt that way. Nobody expects someone they've known for years to suddenly tell them they're a crossdresser, especially their husband. She knew me as me, and nothing about the person she saw every day suggested there was this other side of me. And that's one of the reasons many of us don't come out. For me, there was also the question: Was it really a big enough deal to risk everything by telling her? At that point, my dressing was occas