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Hi, I’m Davina—and I’m a crossdresser. But those words only scratch the surface of who I am and why I do this. Crossdressing for me isn’t...

This blogs all my own thoughts and story as a Crossdressing alpha male.. yes you heard me or read me an alpha male up there with the best...

A few days ago, something unexpected happened. I started posting honestly on X about cross-dressing, gender expression and the wider trans spectrum. I wasn't trying to become an influencer. I wasn't chasing followers. I was simply sharing my own thoughts, experiences and questions. Within days, my following had doubled. What surprised me even more was the number of private messages I received. Many came from transgender women, cross-dressers and people who were quietly explor

This is a bit of a different blog from my usual posts, but if there's one thing I've learned over the years, it's that life is full of surprises. I think this may become the most clicked on and I'm trying to keep it as PG as I can without too many details. A few years ago, completely by accident, my wife discovered just how sensitive my ass is. Her hand wandered a little lower than usual during foreplay and I let out an unexpected "ooh". She smiled and did it again. This time

The holiday has finally caught up with us. Five days in and we're definitely due a siesta today. The combination of relentless heat, late nights, good food, drinks and plenty of walking has taken its toll. It's funny how a holiday develops its own rhythm. You spend the day by the pool, cooling off every so often with a dip in the sea or pool, then retreat for a couple of hours before showering, changing and heading out again for an evening meal, a few drinks, some entertainm

Some readers add comments .. let's hear what you'd have thought after reading this blog. The Question That Stopped Me in My Tracks... Imagine this... You've been secretly crossdressing for years. Not full on presenting female just Crossdressing from time to time, stockings, heels, lingerie maybe a dress nothing more to this point. No one knows. You've been incredibly careful. Every trace has been covered. Clothes out back where you found them.. etc You've convinced yourself

This summer has been beautiful. Blue skies, long evenings and temperatures that remind us why we spend so much of the year complaining about rain. Like many people, I've spent most weekdays behind a laptop, in Teams meetings or answering emails. Working from home sounds ideal, but with the children home from university and college, there has been very little privacy. That means Davina has had to wait. Could I have squeezed in an hour or two? Perhaps. But anyone who wears make

An online conversation this weekend stayed with me and made me think this needs a blog post. I was chatting to another transgender-spectrum person as anyone to me Crossdressing falls into this spectrum someplace.. She's and I'll call her She as in our online chat her name is female we don't know eachother with our anon personas as men.. She isn't out to their wife. We spoke about the guilt she carries every day. The guilt of enjoying crossdressing. The guilt of exploring who

Wives and fellow T-Girls answer me this" Does Expensive Makeup Really Make You Better? One thing I've learned is this: expensive makeup doesn't automatically mean better makeup. Saying that I've never used any expensive makeup. Most people assume that if it costs more, it must perform better. I'm not convinced. My routine is built almost entirely from budget products. I start with moisturiser, L'Oréal or Nivea for men.. then a cheap colour-correcting moisturiser from Amazon £

Sometimes people ask me why I don't just dress more often. If only it were that simple. Life has a habit of filling every available space. The past couple of weeks have been a perfect example. Work has been relentless, with one deadline rolling into the next. The responsibility doesn't disappear when I clock off either—it follows me home, knowing there's another busy week waiting around the corner before I can finally enjoy a well-earned holiday. Yet, despite the pressure, it

Sometimes the biggest conversations aren't the ones where you sit down for hours. Sometimes they're the two-minute chats you have while walking from one pub to another. Tonight, my wife and I were talking about someone I work with who is gay. I'd happened to see him on social media dressed head to toe in leather, enjoying himself, living authentically and confidently. It sparked a conversation. My wife smiled and said, "Imagine someone sees you on your forum and recognises y

It's Father's Day here in the UK. I'm writing this sat in the garden early in the morning, coffee in hand, listening to the birds singing and enjoying the sunshine before the day properly begins. Like many dads today, I'll receive a card, probably a gift, and spend time with my family. I'll call in and see my own father, enjoy a family meal, maybe have a beer or two in the garden later, watch some football and reflect on what being a father means. As parents, we never really

Sometimes I think the hardest part of being a crossdresser isn't the makeup, the clothes, or even finding the courage to step outside dressed. “It's living two lives” For many years, I’ve became very good at it. There’s the version of me that everyone knows. Husband. Dad. Friend. Work colleague. The person who goes about everyday life without anyone suspecting there’s another side to me. Then there was Davina, existing behind closed doors, in stolen moments, a few hours when

One of the less glamorous truths about getting back into regular gym sessions is discovering new aches and pains you never expected. The last few days, after some cardio sessions on the exercise bike, I noticed my trusty boxers were rubbing and causing a bit of chafing. Not exactly the kind of fitness gain I was looking for. Ouch! So today I tried something different. Instead of boxers, I wore a pair of knickers. The result? No rubbing, no discomfort and a much better workout

Another Saturday afternoon and evening spent wandering around Cardiff with my wife, doing one of our favourite activities: people watching, then a meal, live music and drinks. Cardiff was busy, it's always busy this myth that online shopping has stripped city shopping centres of shoppers, ok may be true for some parts of Cardiffs main strip of shops at the Queen Street end but it's always busy with shopper's on a weekend. The bars and restaurants were also full, shoppers were

One of the unexpected benefits of my journey as a crossdresser, and later as Davina, has been meeting (on line) some truly remarkable people. Not just fellow crossdressers and trans people, but their partners too. Recently, I've been chatting online with a couple of wonderfully supportive wives. Intelligent, thoughtful women who have chosen to understand their husbands rather than simply judge them. Every relationship is different, of course, but there is something reassuring

It's on my mind and I have time so here's another whilst on my mind. My Wife’s Dress Sort-Out hasn't happened yet but already I'm weirdly jealous. Tomorrow my wife is getting all her dresses down for a proper try-on and sort-out session. Summer dresses, occasion dresses, “haven’t worn this in years” dresses, dresses she’ll probably decide no longer fit, no longer suit her or no longer interest her. For most husbands this probably sounds painfully boring. I'd happily see her p

Aren't you lucky a 3rd blog so quickly explodes from my finger tips.. Seasons, Style and the Difference Between “Getting Dressed” and Feeling Feminine A parcel arrived from SHEIN for my wife this week. A few different outfits, casual summer things, everyday wear. At one point she tried on a pair of light brown cropped trousers with a striped blouse and asked: “What do you think?” And my honest reaction was: “Yeah, that looks nice.” But the deeper thought in my head was: Women

I've neglected the blog a bit wanting to give you updates but work work work has become life .. Now sat in my garden bar an opportunity to unleash the words I want to type and give you something I hope entertains the pallet for reading about Crossdressing.. Chatting on TV chix as I work from home, people often assume crossdressing is all about sex, fantasy or sexuality because that’s the easiest conversation to have. It’s simpler to reduce it to stockings, heels and secret th