A different kind of discovery .. Let's talk but stuff

This is a bit of a different blog from my usual posts, but if there's one thing I've learned over the years, it's that life is full of surprises.

I think this may become the most clicked on and I'm trying to keep it as PG as I can without too many details.

A few years ago, completely by accident, my wife discovered just how sensitive my ass is.

Her hand wandered a little lower than usual during foreplay and I let out an unexpected "ooh". She smiled and did it again. This time it was an "ahh". One more touch... "Mmm... yeah."

Curiosity took over for both of us, and she gently explored further with her fingers.

Afterwards, I'll admit, I felt conflicted.

The thoughts running through my head were the same ones many straight men probably have.

"I'm straight... I shouldn't enjoy this."

My wife looked at it very differently.

She simply asked, "How is it gay? I'm your wife. I'm touching my husband."

She said if you can't deal with it I won't do it again .. no please don't stop ill get my head around it.

She even laughed at my confusion and said she loved seeing me completely lose control when she found my prostate.

Or as she put it that button I can feel with my fingers.

That conversation changed a lot for me.

Over the years it became an occasional part of our foreplay.

Sometimes she'd stimulate my prostate with her fingers, sometimes she'd use a small vibrator.

The first time I experienced a prostate orgasm, some call a sissygasm but I'm not a sissy so not having that..

I couldn't quite believe what had happened. It wasn't like an orgasm I'd ever experienced before. It felt deeper, more internal, and seemed to ripple through my whole body for minutes and minutes.

One thing she made very clear was that there were boundaries with this play.

She once joked, "Don't ever ask me to use a strap-on." Fair enough.

But I'm not even writing that off as once you've experienced an orgasm this way wow you want another however it's delivered and how hot would it be giving my wife full control omg that's making me .. never mind back to the blog.

We both know what we're comfortable with, and that's what matters but maybe things can develop in time but I'm not pushing ill leave it to her.

What surprised me most wasn't the physical sensation. It was how much it challenged what I thought I knew about masculinity.

Enjoying prostate stimulation doesn't change your sexuality.

The prostate is simply an incredibly sensitive gland full of nerve endings.

It exists in every man, regardless of whether he's straight, gay or bisexual or a crossdresser lol.

Stimulation of it can produce pleasure because of anatomy, not because of sexual orientation.

The area around the anus is also rich in nerve endings, making it naturally sensitive to touch.

Many in the transgender community jokingly refer to it as their "Pussy" because of the way stimulation can feel, although that's very much community slang rather than a medical term.

I have almost said to her please touch my pussy but no idea how she'd react to that as when touched there I'll admit I drift into Davina mindset. It feels a more feminine act to me.

Sometimes, when I'm dressed as Davina, that feminine side of me feels much freer sometimes my hand will drift there when dressed or ill get the vibe out and play.. sometimes in the shower or bath.

One of my favourite memories was one of our girls' nights in. I was dressed, completely in the moment, after a lot of teasing by my wife .. tease and denial and she went to bed but before I did I thought I'd better change back.. she caught me admiring myself in the mirror rubbing .. she pushed me against the wall kissed me hard, hand up my dress, knickers to one side and fingered me.. I've never felt more like a lesbian something she says she's not and can't be as I'm a man but that night holds a special memory for me as it didn't end there.. for that evening my wife embraced Davina.

It wasn't about pretending she was with someone else. It was still us. It was amazing and something I'd love again and again knowing she's embarrassed but also knowing she got off on being with Davina that way.

I felt feminine, desired and accepted, kept on the makeup, wig, stockings and lingerie through it all.. in a way wearing the things I wish my wife would wear in the bedroom.

My wife often says she's not a lesbian because she's married to a man, and I completely understand that. But for those few hours we simply explored another side of ourselves together.

I know she still feels a little embarrassed talking about it, just as I once struggled to admit I enjoyed prostate play, but I also know how much fun we had.

I hope we do it again sometime soon.

A little science...

The prostate is sometimes called the male "P-spot" because stimulation can create sensations that are very different from those produced by stimulation of the penis alone.

Some men describe prostate orgasms as feeling deeper, spreading through the pelvis, and sometimes occurring in waves rather than as a single peak.

Prostate massage can also have other potential benefits for some people. Some men find it helps them become more aware of their pelvic floor muscles, can be relaxing, and may improve sexual pleasure.

Medically, prostate massage was once used more commonly for certain prostate symptoms, although modern treatments are now generally preferred for most prostate conditions.

Anyone with significant prostate pain, infection or urinary symptoms should seek medical advice rather than trying prostate massage as a treatment.

For me, this whole experience has taught me something bigger than sex.

Our bodies don't care about labels.

Pleasure doesn't have a sexual orientation.

Loving your wife enough to explore together, trust each other, laugh together and discover new things together isn't about being less of a man.

If anything,

I think it's made us closer.

Sometimes the biggest discoveries happen completely by accident.

If we don't take it that step further I'm ok if we do I think it would be mind blowing.

Like I said a slightly different blog brought on from so fun last night which she started then told me to finish myself off which led to another mind blowing O..

Now I need a cold shower.

Davina