By: Emma RG
Subject: Nothing Special
Gosh I can't keep up in here Katie and Davina you must be more like women than you realise as you don't half natter with Sindy about all this.
I've just calculated in my head my other half is a crossdresser, he's still him we still love eachother, its had a positive effect on me getting my backside in gear and realising its not making an effort for him so much as I'm making an effort for myself and Davina you'll be glad to hear yes its black tights season indeed and I've had black tights and heels on in work all week not the same pair each day I may add.
Yes my other half did add his thoughts on here and may again in the future but he said he can't keep up lol.
Also he's not pushing it in fact a few times I've said to him you need to unwind I can see you're stressed go and get dressed if you want which is easier now than in the summer with dark nights earlier and not so suspicious closing the curtains at 17:00.
I quite like him being around en fem (look at me with the lingo) and can see what Davinas wife means when he's dressed he's nicer maybe more relaxed hard to explain probably less macho as being overly macho can get on your nerves sometimes I can also see how Davina and Katie can say its fun as he has fun transforming and we've had fun going shopping together buying fem things for eachother.
The fake boobs and now he has some DD silicone ones from Ebay and the wig which we picked out together again from Ebay recently doesn't bother me as I would rather he looked half decent and convincing rather than a man in a dress as Sindy has described and the crossdressing thing as in what if a woman did it well I tried it lol he dressed as a woman I dressed in his boxers and put on his suit which was too big for me we laughed about it and I didn't last long before changing back why would a woman want to dress as a man its so boring lol so I guess I can see why a man would dress as a woman but I seem to be a bit of a freak in coming to our level of acceptance after my initial fears only a few months ago.
Almost the weekend we have a husband and wife weekend planned away no crossdressing.
Sindy all these questions are interesting I cant think of anything else to ask myself so you are the official quiz master and OMG Davina you met a Bloke and exchanged fake tits in a car park lol that made me laugh.
By: Sindy
Subject: Re: Nothing Special
Awesome attitude Emma. I love hearing your perspective.
And I'm literally asking every silly or serious question I ever had when I first found about my husband all those years ago. So feel free to add to the list...I might run out soon and then what?? lol
xx
By: Katie
Subject: Re: Nothing Special
Hi Em
Great to hear from you. And yes I do like to natter hear but it's just getting those things off my chest (boobed or not) that really help me to discover things about my crossdressing. It also challenges my thoughts and drive me to discover more.
I don't find anything 'freaky' about your acceptance. I think we can all carry around two conflicting ideas in our head. One is maybe irrational and probably ingrained by years of social conditioning and the other is looking at things rationally.
The easy thing is always the gut instinct which can sometime prove right but there is no rational reason why it should. It's like betting on red saying you had a feeling that it' come up. It's 50/50, no luck, no system it's just completely random.
Rational thinking is harder to do as it takes work and sometimes we just don't have the time or inclination to think rationally - hence gut instinct which in many cases are really just societies rules.
Your immediate response was probably gut instinct when you first saw your husband crossdressed. You've then taken time to look at it rationally and said to yourself that there is no sensible reason why he shouldn't do it and if it benefits him then why not. By helping and joining in you are just confirming your support and love for him.
But you've alway got this other 'socially conditioned' thought in the back of your mind which can pop into your head at any moment. That's the repulsion, this is the 'it's wrong' thought.
You won't always be able to control these thoughts because ostensibly the brain is lazy and always looks for the easy, default option. You'll probably have to keep reminding yourself why you are so accepting and enjoying the whole experience. Until it becomes the norm that will keep happening. To a degree you need to be brainwashed that crossdressing is OK!
I think it's about creating a positive mindset. I think that most crossdressers have a 'can do' mindset. I can look like a woman and who says I'm wrong to try? If you had a fixed mindset then you'd be saying you can't do that it's wrong. If you're a crossdresser then that is a road to disaster.
I've seen it written that most crossdressers are successful people either in senior positions or professional. People like that will typically expect to have a 'can do' attitude. It's a matter of changing you mindset to a 'can do' attitude.
You've obviously adopted a 'can do' attitude not only to the crossdressing but your own situation. You feel far more positive for it which is great.
By: Davina
Subject: Re: Nothing Special
Emma, I love your open minded outlook and the fact you're having fun and have normalised Crossdressing.
My wife's also on occasion said to me you're stressed why do t you work from home and "distress" her code word for crossdressing lol.
We are also having a husband and wife weekend away without the children which will be nice but will miss the kids.
It's been a few weeks since I've cross dresser and a look ahead at my work schedule with meetings it will be a few more weeks before I get to unwind.