Dear Coleen,
I’M a 41-year-old man and I love to cross-dress. I have done so for many years in secret.
I met my wife about nine years ago and, as we started our sexual relationship,
I hinted to her how I had erotic thoughts about her making me wear her underwear for sex.
She tried it and said she found it erotic so we did this every few months.
Then one night we joked about having our own little fancy dress party.
She wore a nurse’s outfit and I wore her work skirt and top, which I liked to refer to as her sexy secretary look.
We had an amazing evening with awesome sex.
After that I cross-dressed in front of her but now she hates the idea, so I don’t do it.
Davina - Mistake and a big assumption made that the tgirls wife will accept crossdressing as a norm with no consultation and agreement.
What do I do? I love her but I’m left feeling so frustrated.
Coleen says..
TO be fair to your wife, she has lived out your fantasy during sex
Davina - And hes very lucky to have this with his wife
but I don’t think you should have taken this as a green light that she’ll accept you cross-dressing out of the bedroom.
Davina - Exactly
So far, it’s been a private thing, but it’s clearly freaked her out to see you dressed as a woman.
If she’s not comfortable with you cross-dressing in public, then you have to respect her feelings.
Davna - Not said he does it in public.
However, if this is something you really want to do, you have to consider your future and so does she.
Have an honest discussion about where the line is for both of you. Sex and relationships are all about compromise.
Davina - Spot on you need to talk and set rules and boundaries
She might be happy to include cross-dressing during sex now and again.
But will that be enough for you? You need to find out.
Davina - Important to talk and set rules and boundaries we will push those boundaries but its up to the wife to keep us in check and say hold on you've changed the agreement take a step back. Sometimes this is easier done in writing that talking texts or a chat room ..