What a rubbish last 15 months..
I've heard from some here by email and some have written here and some have chatted via TV Chix.. Some able to work from home and dress whenever they want and some have had 15 months without this escapism as their wife or Gf is also working from home and some by choice have buried their cross dressing not wanting their other half to know and some have debated telling wives and Gfs that they dress.
We've gone quiet here the last few weeks and I kinda ran out of things to add here assuming most of the members here have got what they need from all our posts and theories and moved on.. I've dressed twice since the kids have been back in school even with the freedom being home working there's the incessant Teams Video Confrences that go on for hours at a time and as I play a big part in most have to be on cam.
Would be novel and diverse of me to say sod it I'm working from home my electricity and gas etc I'll present how I like but the world isn't ready for that.. The consequences depending on other factors are too life effecting in 2021 so Davina stays hidden in mine and Esme's closet.
I hope everyone is coping through this pandemic and loss of freedom of your feminine expression for want of a better description.. This feminine side we keep well hidden from the rest of the world.
Looking forward to reading more here as remember its not my Forum I just set it up its everyones .
Have a read of Katie's latest post as its a good metaphor..
Davina
Money to be made in tgirl makeovers
LizT I might have taken you up on that a couple of months ago! For me lockdown was stressful for a number of reasons. My job often involved travelling and meeting people, whether colleagues or clients. It was something I did not realise gave me pleasure, meeting new people, seeing new things and having face to face meetings. The lack of contact, being stuck at home 24/7 was difficult and I seized any opportunity to get out, such as driving 200 miles to take a daughter back to university so I could spend the night away (and dress!). My wife did not know at the time and people I used to go visit to dress were isolating, meaning I was not dressing for months on end and suffering stress from work as well! Fortunately my managers at work are being very good at getting me out of the rut and back into a productive attitude, which has made a huge difference.
My wife of 20 plus years has now found out about the other side of me, and although not happy is making enormous efforts t understand and accommodate me. We still have kids at home and they must not know, but just knowing my wife knows and I am not lying to her is a massive relief! We are now talking, coming to compromises about what can and can't be done and how we move forward. Contrasts this with her attitude when we first married "if you were like that, your out the door" and I massively relieved and grateful.
Yes it has been quiet, not just on here but for many people, and silence can be dangerous!
Alina hi I’m thinking of setting up a makeover service, don’t know if I told you - it’s at my unit at Big Yellow Storage, for fifty quid you get a combover, some lippy and a scaggy old pair of tights. AND a bacon roll. Cash only. Let me know? L x
Not waffle at all Katie. Good post. I'm tempted to throw caution to the wind and "seize the day" exactly for the reasons you mention. So, only a few short weeks after more or less deciding that I was done with all of this (🙄) I have gone and paid a deposit on a makeover. There are all sorts of practical and logistical problems involved, but I thought sod it - I really need this.
I do feel like we are getting to the end. Some sort of normality is returning. Maybe the press has just lost interest and looking for the next thing to sensationalise!
I guess we all need to put life into perspective. I sometimes wonder how we'd cope as crossdressers in another country without all the benefit we have here. I can't imagine the desire to crossdress is only restricted to 'first' world countries.
I also look at my life by looking at friends around the same age. Another guy I worked with dropped dead from a heart attack. An ex-girlfriend has been diagnosed with MND and I guy I know from football has just had a brain tumour removed. I guess sometimes you just have to seize the day and do what you want as you just don't know how long you have.
There is an old financial planning question. What would you do if you were told you had 5 years left to live? What would you do with one year left to live? What would you regret not having done if you were given a week to live? The only problem is that some of the things we might regret not having done don't exactly sit well with our current lives and would you regret having done them if you did 🤯 It's so complicated sometimes 😂
Sorry to waffle on but sometime you just type as your thoughts come out.
Katie x
No moving on Davina. Just part of the natural ebb and flow I guess. Rubbish is an understatement. Closet doors remaining tightly locked, stresses and strains running riot in a family of four in a small terraced house, kids and (alleged) adults really struggling...I think after the initial novelty of being at home (for some anyway) during the lovely spring weather last year had worn off, there was a sense that optimism was hard to locate. Sounds melodramatic I know. Especially when so many have been worse affected in so many ways, much to be grateful for. And then over the last two months, with some sort of end in sight, we’re slightly unsure as how to go forward. That’s how I feel it anyway. Uncertainty and introspection. It’s only being so jolly keeps me going! Hope everyone is ok x