People often assume crossdressing is about attention, sex, or rebellion. For me, it’s quieter than that — and deeper.

Sometimes, I dress to escape who I am.

Not because I hate my life… but because life as a man can be heavy. Responsibility stacks up. Strength becomes expected. Vulnerability becomes optional. The pressure to always be solid, controlled, dependable never really lets up.

And when it gets too loud in my head, Davina is where I go to breathe and hot a reset.

Davina is softer. She’s lighter. She moves in a world where I’m not constantly braced for impact.

When I become her, I’m not pretending — but I am stepping away from strain.

https://cdtra007.wixsite.com/mysite/post/psycology-of-femininity-and-crossdressing-v-women

This one's on my personal blog my amature psychology.

How do I / we feel Crossdressing compared to a woman's every day life.. makeup .. presenting fem etc..

Thought I'd share that ramble here as a link as it won't let me copy the whole thing in here from my blog.

Davina

As another year draws to a close, I’ve been thinking about what crossdressing has looked and felt like for me recently. It’s been a year of small windows, hidden moments, hotel rooms, one long Saturday, photographs, and—more than anything—connection to myself as Davina.

Dressing at Home: Quiet Windows, Big Impact

Most of my time as Davina this year has come from stolen hours at home when working from home—those rare occasions when the house is empty or the stars align and I get a few uninterrupted moments.

Those little windows, even when brief, continue to have a big emotional impact. Just the simple acts—makeup, slipping into heels, the soft swish of a dress—bring a calmness and clarity nothing else seems to replicate.

It reminds me every time why this side of me matters.

Away With Work: A Different Kind of Freedom

Hi, this seems like a nice place to share all those weird and wonderful thoughts and urges that we have in common.

I’m 35 years married but wife has only been aware for the last two years. She sort of found out by accident but I was ready to spill the beans. It’s been a massive relief although it’s been a tricky couple of years. We sort of have an agreement now where she will go out for the day and leave me to it, but only if I’m really desperate!

To be honest, I only get to that stage about two or three times a year. I could happily dress every week given the choice, but if I distract myself with other hobbies and just get on with family life, I cope fine. It probably helps that I’m no longer holding on to this dark secret and things ar…

Another from crossdressingclub.

Coming out as a crossdresser is a deeply personal and courageous journey of self-discovery and acceptance.

It involves revealing an intimate aspect of one's identity to loved ones and the world.

This article delves into the experience of coming out as a crossdresser, the challenges faced, and the potential rewards of embracing one's true self.

Self-Understanding and Acceptance:

Coming to terms with one's identity as a crossdresser is a pivotal step in the coming-out process.

Another from Crossdressing club.

While it is important to say that not all crossdressers create alter egos, and the motivations and experiences of individuals can vary greatly, Crossdresser alter egos can offer a sense of freedom and self-expression that may be limited in everyday life.

By adopting an alter ego, individuals can fully embrace and embody their preferred gender presentation, allowing for a departure from societal expectations and the opportunity to explore personal style and identity.

This act of self-expression can promote self-confidence and self-acceptance.

For some crossdressers, alter egos provide an avenue to explore different aspects of their gender identity.

By creating a separate persona, individuals can tap into facets of their personality or gender expression that may not be socially accepted or expected in their everyday lives. Alter egos can help them better understand and navigate their own gender identity and presentation.

Another taken from the Crossdressing club blog

Crossdressing has long been a source of fascination and confusion for many people. It is a phenomenon that has been around since antiquity, and is still practiced today by people across the world. But what are the benefits of crossdressing?

One of the main benefits of crossdressing is freedom of expression.

For many people, wearing the clothing of the opposite gender can be liberating and empowering. It gives them the opportunity to express aspects of their identity that may not be accepted or accepted in their everyday lives.

By dressing in clothing of the opposite gender, people can explore their authentic selves and find a degree of freedom that may not be available to them in other areas of their lives.

Crossdressing can also be a great way to explore and express gender roles.

I've taken this from another blog "Club Crossdressing"

Crossdressing is often thought of only in terms of clothing and appearance. But beneath the surface, there’s a fascinating world of psychology and emotion that makes crossdressing not only enjoyable, but profoundly healing and empowering.

Escaping Stress Through Transformation

One of the strongest psychological benefits of crossdressing is the sense of escape. For many, slipping into a dress, heels, or makeup creates a complete shift in mindset. Psychologists call this a form of role release — the ability to let go of one version of yourself to embrace another. If you’ve ever read about the benefits of crossdressing, you’ll know that stress relief is one of the most powerful.

Boosting Confidence and Emotional Balance

Crossdressing often brings an incredible surge of confidence. Many even build alter egos to step fully into this confidence and find emotional balance.

https://cdtra007.wixsite.com/mysite/blog

I'm more or less leaving this site to its members to now spark debate .. I'm putting my thoughts more into my personal blog 'Why I Crossdress' linked above..

I'll still monitor and contribute here .. There are 100s posts on why we cross dress but don't think I can come up with much more for the forum..

Lots on my why I cross dress blog which may help if anyone's interested .. My thoughts and personal ramblings about "Davina" my wife and others I communicate with regularly and maybe some advice and support too..

Feel free to post here and keep the forum going.. It a sometimes nice to see older posts commented on and revitalised.

Davina