It’s a strange experience hearing your own words read back to you via Spotify.

But exciting hearing Olivia saying she loved my email .. Although I didn't expect it to feature a whole podcast.

I listened to it again recently on one of my early morning walks and reflected again.

Hearing my email discussed, unpacked, and challenged by two intelligent and fun people like Olivia and Erika on the Weekly Hot Spot - Still makes me think Wow!

It took my truth to another level.

What struck me most listening back wasn’t just that they read my email, it was how deeply they engaged with it.

What happens when the person you thought you knew completely reveals a hidden side of themselves?

Taken from a podcast by Jenny Raven transcribed and described my thoughts in red..

For one woman from a small town in the North of England, that moment came on what started as a completely ordinary Friday night. 

Eight years into a happy marriage, with kids in bed and a takeaway on the table, her husband said the words that would change everything:

“I need to tell you something.”

What followed wasn’t an affair, or a devastating diagnosis — fears that raced through her mind in seconds. Instead, it was something she had never expected:

For many of us who crossdress, makeup is a huge part of the experience.

Whether it’s subtle enhancement or full transformation, it helps us express a different side of ourselves with confidence.

But there’s something that often gets overlooked, the quality of the products we’re putting on our skin.

This isn’t just about getting a better finish or longer-lasting look. It’s about skin health.

A Personal Lesson Learned

Recently, this really hit home for me and my wife.

Some never come out and live a life in hiding their crossdressing from the world.

However this is assuming you want to come out to someone..

It’s a question that comes up time and time again: when is the right time to tell someone you crossdress?

The last post I placed here on coming out Michelle suggested that we should be open and honest early on.

It’s a valid perspective, there's no right and wrong, but like most things in this space, it’s not that simple for everyone - What suits one relationship won't suit others.

There is no universal “right time” and it can cause a lot of angst and worry - The what if scenarios are like a tornado what if she rejects me, what if she leaves me..

A place to chat, debate, ask questions get advice from Wives, Girlfriends and men who Crossdress looking at the many reasons, worries, angst, fun, joy and escapism of why we Crossdress

Telling your partner that you crossdress can feel like one of the most daunting conversations you’ll ever have.

There’s vulnerability, fear of rejection, and the uncertainty of how it might change your relationship. But handled with honesty and care, it can also become a moment that strengthens trust and deepens understanding.

For the Man: How to Approach the Conversation

First, pick the right moment.

This isn’t a conversation to squeeze in during a stressful day or an argument.

This isn't easy because patient.

I've not left the Forum I still check in

I sort of left it to others to post and add comments as I've exhausted my knowledge around how far I've come as Davina and concentrated more on my why do I Crossdress blog..

Hoping everyone is ok.

Davina

Happy New Year to you all 🎉

I always find this strange, hopeful space between Christmas and New Year a time for reflection. The noise quietens, the calendar resets, and there’s suddenly permission to pause and ask: How do I want to live this next chapter?

This year, I wanted to share my thoughts openly—not just as someone who crossdresses, but as a whole person learning how to live more honestly, gently, and intentionally.

New Year, Same Me – Just a Little Braver

I don’t believe in reinventing myself every January. I’ve learned that who I am doesn’t need fixing. But I do believe in choosing better ways to show up for myself and the people I love.

One of my biggest resolutions this year is simple, but meaningful:

People often assume crossdressing is about attention, sex, or rebellion. For me, it’s quieter than that — and deeper.

Sometimes, I dress to escape who I am.

Not because I hate my life… but because life as a man can be heavy. Responsibility stacks up. Strength becomes expected. Vulnerability becomes optional. The pressure to always be solid, controlled, dependable never really lets up.

And when it gets too loud in my head, Davina is where I go to breathe and hot a reset.

Davina is softer. She’s lighter. She moves in a world where I’m not constantly braced for impact.

When I become her, I’m not pretending — but I am stepping away from strain.