Not sure what happened to end of my post. Meant to say, I’m not on social media so don’t have to worry about lack of Facebook posts.

Wouldn’t it be amazing for the world not to engender gender in clothing? I’m a big fan of Mayo and Kermode film review and remember hearing Tom Hanks give his opinion on life struggles when he was being interviewed for a film during the pandemic. He said:“this too shall pass. You’re having a terrible day, this too shall pass. You’re having a great day, this too shall pass. Life is one big bell curve and it tends to even out"

My hope is that as I have a comfortable life (I work v hard and have work stress and 2 teenage daughters, oh and I’m a crossdresser in a world that views it as weird/perverted etc) that overall the positives across the entire time I’m on planet Earth, will out way the negatives if only a little then that will be a good position to be in.

But, all that being said I’m looking forward to being able to shave my legs and chest when the summer comes to an end and enjoy wearing lingerie, a sexy dress, high heels and make up again and look vaguely feminine - so for now, I cling to the point where Emma time is limited and not enough, but knowing that 'this too shall pass'. And I’m definitely venturing out to a bar or night club this Autumn en femme. Before this next realistic opportunity 'shall pass'.

This will mean a trip out of my home area and staying a hotel - is this an option for you Davina/ Ally? I’m not suggesting we meet, although that would good too, just more generally an idea about you finding time for yourselves. Loads of guys have boys weekends away…why can’t some guys have girl weekends?!?!

much love and admiration

Emma

x

ps. - how do you add photos to a profile?

God so preachy 😁🙏, just kidding. Actually I think you have a good point and I very much try to take one day at a time and as you say go with the flow. I love my family life and that is the thing I live each day for but I just wish I could without the judgement and discrimination of society just dress how I want when I want. I know this is too much for many weak minded people in society to accept so we carry on as we can in the minutes we can scrape by with. Besides with everything going on in the world my problems are pretty small. Take care my friend Ally x

Sadly, I don’t believe there is a solution to this issue. What I am trying to do is to go with the flow, and accept there will be times of the day, week, month where a quick few minutes is all I have and that will have to do, but also being aware of when other opportunities will present themselves for longer periods, and plan around them to make sure they do happen.

Unless you are wanting to live full time en femme,I think most of us seem to spend a lot of time and are generally happy in male mode…whilst this is more than a hobby there are many similarities, in that we wouldnt let a hobby take over our lives And would accept that you can’t do the hobby whenever you want or need.

I hope no one thinks I’m preaching (especially in my first post- I will try and find some time to post on the intro page soon), but I hope that by trying to approach this with a 'chilled' out and accepting approach of limitations that it will help.

not easy to do and I’ve not cracked it yet, but I’ve got to give it a go.

would love to hear contrary views and try to help

Emma

x

Spot on there are times when we could dress but for whatever reason put it off and don't dress and we regret it later.. then there are times when we're stressed out or just have the urge to dress and can't as there's no alone time.

For many years I've been able to dress when working from home, then the pandemic and lockdowns and months with no dressing as kids were home schooling and then the video work meetings started so it's been complicated.

My oldest is about to finish school and will be off doing gcses then summer hols then college which is a 5 min walk away so my freedom of dressing working from home is coming to an end for a few years.

I've no idea how I'll make time to dress and I can't go back to just trying things on its a full face of makeup wig the lot for me and even working from home it's not quality time as Davina but does help with the mental health a bit.

Next week full of meetings and the week after 1/2 term kids off for 2 weeks so i need to make time this week to crossdress or i won't have time for a few weeks..

Being a major factor in my mental health when i can't dress its not good i become snappy and irritable.

At least my wife knows i dress and I wish she'd come back on here to contribute her thoughts and experience and to read my thoughts also as easier to add here than find opportunity to discuss all this with her.

What we need to do where we can is "make time" or take any opportunity we get and don't put off dressing. I'll be dressing tomorrow working from home I hope.

Ally. I'm in a very similar situation so can sympathise somewhat. My wife only works part time and never stays away from home, one child at Uni planning on returning home for the summer and one child in 6th form with seemingly random hours..I have absolutely zero chance of dressing however much I would like to. I find myself thinking about it a lot and occasionally looking at the new dresses I've bought and not yet had a chance to wear. Not easy. I find I can't grab an hour or so any more as its too rushed. I need more time which I don't have. I compensate somewhat by looking for new clothes, jewellery or shoes etc, and then buy something. It's a a sort of release, even if I can't wear it when I receive it. My Ebay watch list changes frequently 😁.

The key with 2 Facebooks - aside from the fact you are technically breaking their rules- is to keep a total separation of one from the other or else if you have friends in coming you may find one account suggesting friends from the other account and if it’s doing that for you then it may be doing the same for them!!!

I respect her privacy and don’t have her details ☺️

I will ask Rachel to comment for you and possibly send you her Facebook account details so you and address her directly 😊

Rachel does have her own Facebook page

When ever we go out Rachel has her make up done professionally in the local area where we’re going out to and she gets changed there but usually asks before hand

Manchester- but we don’t go out in Manchester incase we bump into anyone we know

South of England the New Forest, how about you guys?

What area do you live in?

Thanks for your comment it's just good to have contact as not good bottling all this up, so thanks again.

Never feel sorry for asking any questions or expressing how you feel. Rachel has weeks like that sometimes as my son still lives at our house and is on shifts but just to grab a couple of hours here and there. Sometimes we are able to go out for the day where Rachel will get changed at a service station and then the reverse on the way home.