By: Katie
Subject: Spotting a crossdresser in his natural environment
Quite often it is easy enough to spot a crossdresser out whilst dressed as a woman. Size, shape, hand etc. There are some crossdressers who can pass really well but I think that maybe they are in the minority. You don't always spot them or say 'Are they a man or a woman'.
What is harder to spot is the closet crossdresser in his male mode. I read comments about nobody ever being able to guess he was a crossdresser or that if he told them he'd think he was joking. I know when my wife found out she said it was probably the last thing she would have guessed about me.
On the basis 8-10% (assumed) of the male population crossdress in some way or another it means that there are many more of us around that are obvious. As I said before the chances are you know another crossdresser amongst your male friends.
In a premier league football stadium there are going to be potentially a couple of thousand crossdressers. If it's a big pub / restaurant the chances are there is going to be another one in there.
I often wonder who that might be.
Sometimes whilst browsing the women wear section I wonder how many of the men in there are actually shopping for themselves! I know that I will always try not to be too interested which is the typical male mode. So who else is feigning disinterest?
I think that the chances of finding out who is a crossdresser and who is not are pretty slim. They're not easily spotted. So unless a crossdresser is either out and about or makes fundamental error they are never going to be outed. We're all pretty expert at covert operations (spy names) and we put a lot of trust and faith in our wives and partners who share our secret.
I think the point I'm trying to make is that some of the fear that we have are unfounded and that unless we decide to announce it otherwise nobody else is ever going to find out that we are crossdressers. And of they do they probably won't believe us lol.
By: Katie
Subject: Re: Re: Spotting a crossdresser in his natural environment
Invasion of the crossdressers. We're out there but nobody can tell!
By: Davina
Subject: Re: Re: Spotting a crossdresser in his natural environment
I've spotted crossdressers out and about where they've been crossdressed and some have made me cringe but maybe some have passed that well that I haven't noticed but then again I've also seen real women and thought blimey is that a man or a woman.. My wife refers to one woman we know as "That manly woman" .. How rude lol but she's right.
Aside from manly looking women and men out crossdressed I've often thought I wonder who else does this.. Who out of the lads I played rugby, cricket and football with or went to school with or work and socialise with might be or is a crossdresser.. I can't be the only one.
It would be great to give them all a questionnaire purely anonemous with that question do you or have you ever crossdressed to see if 10% say yes.
I've never seen anyone out in male mode and thought he might be a crossdresser but I have experienced a lot of chat when out joking about crossdressing as I've blogged about on here with friends and people in work so some of that bad raised suspicions that some people I know must crossdress...
By Sindy
Subject: Re: Spotting a crossdresser in his natural environment
I've thought the same! I've also read that 10% has been statistically proven but it could be higher as plenty will lie even on an anonymous poll. It becomes second nature. But as I've written elsewhere I suspect most don't want to be discovered. All this chit chat online about telling the world and coming 'out' is just that - a bunch of old men egging each other on while they sit in their pyjamas on the computer lol. I think it's all bullshit and most of what's written out there is wishful thinking.
So back to what you wrote, I likely have a friend with a crossdressing husband! We all likely do. I already know one friend who's sister married a crossdresser. (Divorced now but not over that - he was bipolar). She doesn't know about me as it was mentioned in passing. So how many more? You have few signs the average person would notice. My kids teacher? The guy at the post office?
You're everywhere and more secretive than the CIA!! haha
I did notice a guy at a shop once, with his family - very masculine with tattoos and muscles and the like longest most shapely nails I've seen on a man. I thought maybe he played guitar until I also noticed he was wearing a light nail polish. How many non crossdressers would do this? Like I said, the guy was scarily masculine otherwise and his wife looked like a porn pinup. Very hot couple. Crossdressing is not just a pack of weird loser perverts who can't get girlfriends so make their own. I mean, sure, these dudes also exist lol. But plenty of ordinary guys, and alpha types, are indulging too. So yes, if you don't do anything wreckless and stupid I do agree you could easily go your entire lives without anyone ever knowing.
And maybe even join MI5!!