I've mentioned this before here or maybe in my old blog about how often Trans discussion occurs with friends or work colleagues and today in work one of the "Managers" who is as camp as Christmas but will tell you he's so macho was ridiculing a Trans person he'd just seen in Tesco.
"Old guy in a dress dirty flat white heels orange wig and makeup looked a mess"
I'm visiting the depot listeing to what may be said yes as a few blokes laugh and ridicule then one of the girls in the office (a new girl) pipes up "What's wrong with that if that's how he feels and wants to dress?"
In my head I high fived her and chipped in to back her up "Yeah what's wrong with that then? seeing you're sporting two diamond ahem cubic zircona earnings" to which everyone laughed at him. He said "Well it's ridiculous" but then said "but have you seen some of these trans 'things' better looking that some women I'd shag them" whch got him more laughs.
She went on "So if that guy in Tesco had lo0ked more convincing you'd be more accepting of how he looked and dressed and knowing you.. you'd have followed her around the store oggling and letching her"
He said "Probably"
She said "You're transphobic"
He said "So if you came home and found your boyfriend dressed in your knickers, bra stockings and high heels you'd be ok with it" and she said
"What's the harm in it it's only clothes" to which he said "Ok and hes got lipstick and a wog on" and she said "He'd probably look good as a woman so what?" that kinda shut him up as another woman said he had a problem with his masculinity and maybe he should try crossdressing or maybe he is one putting up a front trying to act macho as he's a crossdresser.
I was laughing and high fiving the girls in my head ... they'd never guess I crossdress but good to hear women defend crossdressing as "So What" although i suspect a lot of women would think 'Nothing wrong with crossdressing... as long as it's not my husband" but maybe this is changing?
Davina
Oh right, that's another question I've pondered, what would we do if we started working with someone and realised or suspected quite strongly that they where a dresser?
Would you be completely discrete and say and do nothing, and make no attempt to broach the subject, or at some point, drop the odd hint, just enough to give them the thought you could also be a dresser?
I know that between trans girls, if they are dressed and no one suspected them and they make eye contact or sat down in front of each other on a train or bus, either they would not let on or just move to another seat, this seems s to be an unwritten understanding.
With me never going out I've never experienced this situation, but if your in drab, guy mode how could it be dealt with?
Cat xx