So my oldest is now of drinking age and made her first trip out for a drink to the big city with a friend last night.
Probably totally nieve to the sexual predators out there that me and my wife spy when people watching hanging about letching women and just acting suspiciously in bars.
They went into a Gay bar as her friend is Gay and as usual when I've been in a Gay bar the bouncer despite pride flag noted to them you know this is a gay bar right?
They had a few drinks and a good time a few drag Queens and "fem boys' whatever that is older gay and lesbians etc.
The only time I've been in a gay bar had the same query from the bouncer you know its a gay bar right?? It was a rugby international day in Cardiff and the place was empty compared to 10 deep in other bars and pubs so I said you sell beer don't you? He said yes and I said that's what we're after.. so in we went..
Anyway she's been telling us all about her first time out drinking and how fun it was how glam, camp and funny the drag queen's were etc..
Then both kids start talking about LGBT in general and he her them etc pronouns and I threw in did you know theres now a straight flag black and white stripes with the male and female symbols intertwined and I think in the name of equality that its only right straight people have a flag too.
Both kids agreed my wife scoffed at it .. so I pressed her saying so if I go into a gay bar they question me that I know its a gay bar and they don't really want lots of straight people in the gay bar due to prejudices some straight people may have or cause trouble etc but there's no straight bar where the bouncer says you know it's a straight bar don't you? No gay people allowed or we don't really want gay people in the pub etc.. equality right??
Doesn't worry or bother me either way if I want a beer or Guinness or even a Cocktail I could be in a pub or gay bar as long as the drink price is reasonable and there's good music or a good atmosphere there.. but anyway the kids go on discussing things like pan sexual, bisexuality, lesbians etc and I'm amazed how much they've been taught or picked up on this as as a teenager to me you were straight or gay and to my knowledge I had no gay friends where my two have a few gay friends and some who class themselves bisexual.
My wife in talking about the flags said something about me and the rainbow flag which I didn't quite catch and maybe I missed an opportunity to say well maybe I am on there somewhere and then should have got the trans flag on my screen and say here's my flag..
Or maybe this one does cover us with the blue to pink..
Interesting what kids / teens know about sexuality I'm thinking they don't know as much about the Trans spectrum from part to fully crossdressing, transvestites, to transexual and there being a sliding scale where it can progress or you find your place.
These chats will no doubt crop up again and my wife doesn't want them to know about Davina but maybe an opportunity missed which may have shocked them both.. who knows..
Maybe a few more years once the stress of school and college etc is out of the way..
I terested to hear from other t girls who have told their kids and how it went..
So both my kids are now aware of my genderfluid side and that I am happy in male or female mode. This is something that is still in its early days and I've not dressed overtly fem in their presence, well no more than leggings, vests, painted toenails, long tops, that sort of thing.
Like you Davina my other side was under wraps for many years and might not have come out had it not been for my youngest coming out as trans mtf. This happened when she was 14 during her GCSE years. Through a mixture of bullying and only a few friends she was struggling and very low. A child at school overheard her say she would be better off dead, and so thankfully they reported this and the next we are getting a call from the school. My youngest first confided in my wife but then I noticed little things like using a girl name for her avatar on the computer. Later that day I asked my wife and she said that my youngest was unsure how to tell me. I felt so much emotion that when she got home from school I sat down with her and expressed I was proud of her and loved her unconditionally. I then said about my gender dysphoria and feelings so she knew I understood and had no judgement.
Anyway a lot more to this story but I've run out of time. The thing I've learned recently is life is too short to care as things go so quickly so best to love those around you that mean the most.
Kids these days eh. Often know more than we think. My daughter, now 19 and living her life at Uni in Newcastle, has spoken in the past that when she was in 6th form (or whatever year group that is these days) that she and one other girl were the only girls in the class who described themselves as 'straight'. Got to say I found that a little hard to believe but things certainly have moved on from my days in school!