Sorry if this is not appropriate but using the forum to relieve some more stress.
I have been dressing everyday for the past 12 days and going out dressed. The reason being my wife went to Torquay on a coach holiday with a friend on Monday 1st Oct till Friday 5th Oct. On Tuesday Morning at 6am she was being sick and in a lot of stomach pain. Her friend had to call ambulance 3 times before thy came and got her to hospital at about 10.30. I had driven my truck from Poole to Nottingham to delivery a load of meat to Sainsbury’s when I got the call from my wife’s friend that she was in hospita. Then had to drive back to Poole drive home then drive to Torquay Hospital getting there at 10pm. Stepdaughter and stepson had both arrived before me, their dad had driven the daughter down and stepson came with his partner and baby. Wife was in surgery they removed large intestine as it was strangled and dying. She remained in an induced coma for 5 days in ICU and it took a further two before she was awake enough to be transferred to a ward. Still not doing well, had xrays during the night and just came back from a CT Scan.
When I came down to Torquay I moved into the wife’s room as it was paid for, hotel staff very kind and asking about the wife. Wife’s friend knows I dress so asked if she minded my dressing and she said no. She and the hotel staff male and females have been really lovely both about my wife and my dressing. The hotel is mainly full of much older people on a coach trip, I have had some funny looks (what do I expect 6ft 4” and 3” heels) but nothing negative and quite a few compliment, one women’s liked my floral backseamed stockings that she thought were tights, so I showed her where to get them from on Amazon. One lady whose husband die last year was very friendly and we had a few drinks. Another older lady at the next table in the restaurant kept asking about my wife and on her finally morning said that she wished she had gotten to know me better and that it was a brave thing I was doing being myself.
People in the hotel have seen me in in various dress modes, main one being ladies jeans, cami, ankle boots with 2” Cuban heels, earrings, bracelet, mascara and lipstick with a Mans shirt with one button done up. Full black cocktail dress, wig and heels, same dress and heels no wig just my hair., Skirt and blouse with and without wig. Leather miniskirt and wig. I dress for breakfast and dinner and in the bar where they have evening bingo and entertainmen. Comedians have done some tranny jokes but nothing horrible and not directed at me as they had not seen me at that time.
Dress visiting the hospital has been ladies jeans, camisole or vest, ankle boots and shirt. All the nursing staff have been really accepting and lovely. The very first thing my wife asked me when she woke and could talk was “have you had a sex change?”
Wife has has had a bad night with xrays and now CT Scan this morning, just been real sick whilst surgon was with her so he was able to deal with it. Now have to wait she may need further operation but won’t know till tomorrow.
Sorry this was not all about dressing but a worrying time No the less. Please delete if not what you want here.
Jean x
Good to hear she's home and on the mend look after her and dont overdo the dressing
Emma
Good news that She's home look after her as I'm sure she will need a lot of help.
Great she s accepted your dressing and that it's a little out in the open as long as you don't mind people knowing. It's noones business and does it really matter how we present?
Challenging the society norm s all we're doing
Your welcome Jean, and Sue xxxx
Catriona xx
Hi all
Good news is Sue came out of hospital yesterday.
For me it was a really long day as I started work at 8 pm Thursday night driving trucks, finished at 9.15am quick dash home to change at get some clothes for Sue and get to Hospital for 10 am for a training session on changing and cleaning Stoma bags. After the training I received a call from my driving agency that a package I had ordered on behalf of my stepson had arrived (it’s an axle beam and hubs for his trailer in France and is 5ft 6” long and weighs 20kg and I did not want it delivering to the flat and I was not there). So needed to collect that, 45 minutes of heavy traffic across Bournemouth to Poole then another 45 minutes drive over to Christchurch to drop the axle off at my stepson’s Dad’s house for storage until we go over to France to install it. Got back to the hospital about 2.30 pm and then had to wait till 5.30 pm till they finally discharged Sue.
Sue then wanted to get some food shopping and some worm clothes from Tesco, so was pushing her in a wheelchair with attached basket trolley all round the stor, did not get home till 7.30 pm. When Sue finally got home all she did was cry with relief that she was finally home after nearly 4 weeks in hospital. One of the female residents popped in with a bunch of flowers and a chat. During the chat she commented that people were talking about me, my nails, hair earrings and jewellery, so Sue told her that I was a crossdresser and she did not want people gossiping but just ask us directly and we would tell them. Finally at 10.30 Sue was ready for bed and I had been awake for more than 30 hours so we went to sleep.
I awoke at 7 am and took some washing down to our communal laundry room, met another sweet old resident in her late 80’s who has a wicked sense of humour and we both have a great banter every Saturday morning in the laundry room. I then decided to tell her that I crossdressed and showed her my painted toe nails, she said that how I dressed or what I wore did not change who I was and that I was no one else’s business to criticise how I dress or that I wear makeup and if people were too narrow minded to understand that was their problem. She thanked me for being truthful with her and trusting her with such personal information. So it now looks like the never being seen dressed outside the flat by the residents may now be in the past, but I will not push it at the moment.
Sue has also said that we need to go Jean shopping as she does not like some of the things that I choose and buy myself, so that is more progress for us.
Sue and I would like to thank you all for your lovely wishes for her recovery from such a big operation and for reading my ramblings about dressin whilst being so stressed and worried about Sue.
Now that Sue is safely home I have no more need to update this thread with my dressing or Sue’s health. Anything else I will start a new thread.
Jean x
It's good to hear your S.O is up and about at least Jean.
Keep us up to date will you 🙂 xxx
Cat x
Hi Davina
Sue was transferred back to Bournemouth Hospital via ambulance on Friday afternoon. They have since moved her to 3 different Wards over the weekend, but is now in the correct Ward.
She is still weak but getting out of bed and I think she is hoping to be home by this weekend.
I am currently working nights, driving an artic from Poole to Southampton back to Poole then down to Plymouth to meet two smaller trucks and offload to them. On return to Poole I have drops in Exeter or Bridport.
Having to visit her early in the morning after finishing work which is out of Visiting Times as I am sleeping or starting work at those times. Will be good to get her back home for someone to clean and do the cooking. Just joking it will be my job for awhile but may be difficult with having to work.
Thank you all for your kind wish for Sue to get better.
Jean
Hi Jean any news on your wife?
Hope she's recovering well.
Davina
Hope your wife makes a full recovery and can come home soon.
Thanks for that story Jean, hope your wife continues to recover quickly.
Cat💋💋
Hi All
Thank you Catriona that is very kind of you.
A quick update, my wife is being transferred today Friday 19th October from Torbay Hospital to Bournemouth Hospital after spending 7 days in ICU then a further 11 days on a Surgical ward recovering from her operation. We still don’t know how long she will be in Bournemouth Hospital before they release her home, but at least she will now be near to family and friends who can visit much more easily. I can also get back to work after spending 17 days by her bedside and in a hotel in Torquay.
Once again I have had women smiling at me, nodding their acknowledgment of me and talking to me, I do not try to put on any female sounding voice just the normal me voice, this evening it was a group of Spiritualist women from Derbyshire that met and spoke to me at the bar, saying they wish they were as tall as me so I offered them my 4” heels but they said they would not be able to walk in such high heels. I then sat in a corner on my own responding to texts and emails when two of them came up to me and asked that I join their group in the entertainment room. I did join them but had to excuse myself as it was much to hit for me and I had to go and sit outside in the cold too cool down.
Whilst outside a woman came out in conversation on her mobile to her daughter, they were arguing about something and the woman looked at me and said sorry. When she finish her call she once again said story for disturbing me.
I later went back inside and sat in a cooler corner on my own, the Spiritualist group of ladies came past to leave and once again spoke to me, they praised me for just being myself and asked about my stay etc, they were all really supportive and encouraging of being out in the open, I even got complimented about my makeup and perfume, which I only bought today in Boots, it’s called Good Girl by Carolina Herrera the bottle is shaped like an 8” Stiletto shoe. I was in my androgynous mode, women’s jeans, ankle boots, vest and male shirt makeup, foundation, lippy, mascara, brows, eye shadow. I spoke to the girl on Smashbox counter about concealer for my beard, she thought I did not need it as my makeup was really good, I told her that I had used, red blusher after primer and before foundation to hide the blue of my beard, she said that it worked very well.
Don‘t be afraid about going out dressed or in even a hybrid dress mode, no one cares as they pass you by, if they talk to you it is only about the good points of your dress lifestyle choice, it is only your own fear that is hold you back.
Jean x
Oh, and Jean thats not an Awful photo,
THATS YOU!!!
Love
Catriona
Jean, I'm so glad your wife Sue is ok and you are now completely out and free from any fear, it puts it all into perspective doesn't it, for everybody concerned, dressers and wives, if you love that person what does it matter!!
A lesson for all of us there i think!
All my love to you and Sue,
Catriona xxx
Thank you Em. Yesterday was a really horrible day for Sue and myself. I sat in the corner of her private room answer emails and texts whilst crying, several times she would open her eyes and blankly stare at me.
Well what a difference a night makes, went in this morning at 08.45 Sue is wake, looks at me smiles and says where have you been I have missed you, why were you not in yesterday? Why was I crying the other day?
Well she looked 100% better cheerful and active. I told her I had been in yesterday and what happened, she thought that was the day before, I told her what had happened and she did remember and also remembered that her brother and his wife had visited.
The surgeon who sorted Sue out yesterday came on his rounds early and said well you are 200% better looking that you did yesterday. He confirmed Sue had to go for another CT Scan but also needed more fluids via drip. Sue then had a full bed bath and hair washed with dry shampoo, nightgown and bedding changed and she was ready to accept visitors.
She had to go for a 2nd CT Scan today to see if things had changed. The CT Scan staff also said she looked so much better.
Back to Crossdressing, about a year ago I asked if we could renew our wedding vows with me wearing a dress or a business suits and skirt, well she said definitely not. Well this morning she said we are going to renew our vows on a cruise or in Las Vegas and I could wear a dress. She also told this to all the nursing staff and all her visitors Son, Daughter and their partner, She even told her cousins and her husband who are in their 80’s and know nothing of Jean and her dressing, they were shocked but her cousins did think about it and say it was Ok.
The past 2 weeks Jean is now out and more free than ever in her life, Skirts, dresses, makeup, no wig. People still talk to me I do to try to speak softly or change my voice, I speak the same way in male mode or dressed.
The only thing holding most crossdressers from coming out of the closet or telling their Wive’s, GF’s or SO’s is their own fear.
Last weekend I found out the the company I driver Artics for mostly, nearly all know I’m a Crossdresser and not Gay, as my brother’s ex partner works for the same Company and she unknown to me has known for more than 20 years told them. My brother had found out by snooping through my locked things on my Mum’s farm where I stored some clothes when I was in the Army. I did not know my brother knew either. I don’t talk to him since my Mum’s funeral. Families and blood relatives!!!!!
The past two weeks with my lovely wife so poorly have changed how we both look on life, it is not how you look, what you wear that matters but the person inside, they are the same however they look or dress. Life is too short too worry and stress over these things, what does it matter what others think, most will not say it too your face. The ones that do only have nice things to say. Just now an old lady in her late 80’s was being pushed in her wheelchair past me and all she said was”I like your earrings “.
So here you go this what I look like this evening in a Torquay Hotel bar, last shaved this morning just put some foundation over 5o’clock shadow and lips.
With that awful view I will say goodnight all.
Jean x
Sorry to hear your wife is ill I hope everything's Ok
Em
Thank you both
xx
Dressing can help us cope with stress and the stress and worry you're going through must be immense.
I hope your wife will recover and get back her full fitness asap.
Can't say that I'd use my crossdressing if my wife was ill to help me de-stress but encouraging to hear how people have accepted your dressing.
Wish you and your all the best
Davina
I'm sorry to hear about your wife Jean, for me it doesn't matter if your post wasn't all about dressing, if you feel you need to talk to us to get things off your chest and it helps then thats all that matters.
I hope your lady gets well soon, and hope you can keep us informed of how she's doing
Lots of love
Catriona