Ogling always seems to conjour up images of Carry On films for me for some reason, but also to stare, maybe uncomfortably so, at someone rather than a short look or a quick glance.

I think it's a human trait really, I always thought that it was us men who ogled most however, after talking to some of my female friends and colleagues, I'd have to say that they can be just as bad for it, if not worse, than us.

I think we can all appreciate a well dressed woman and, even despite our other halves being in close proximity when we are out, I'm sure all of us wouldn't be afraid to have a quick glance if we saw anyone that we thought was attractive or well dressed. Reflections in department store windows are great for this.

I was in a Lincolnshire market town yesterday looking for a barber and you just can't help looking at what women are wearing. Being summer there are a lot of vest or strappy tops and light summer dresses on show and there will always be a few smart, and some would say sexy, business suits to see. I find that I generally look at the clothes first though, not necessarily the person wearing them. I did find myself looking at longer length dresses, like maxi dresses as I don't really have a full length maxi dress, to see if there were any that I thought would suit me. Surprisingly, I found that style isn't necessarily a younger woman's domain as there were several older women who had made, what I thought, a great choice of dress and looked really stylish.

I don't think this is what I'd really call ogling, it's just a short glance, a quick once over, to decide if I like a dress and if the style and shape would suit me.

I wonder how many other men might have glanced at these women and were thinking the same thing as me, probably not that many.....but you never know!

I would rather hope there is a middle ground here. My wife is aware of my other side and I try not to make her uncomfortable. Hopefully she will fully come around to Ally in the future. Anyway I digress, what I'm getting at is if we are out together I will happily say to my wife if a women goes by that I admire for her outfit, hair, make up etc but I'll keep it short. I'll ask if it might be something she likes to try and get the female perspective of my observation.

Of course there are times that a very pretty female draws my attention but I really do try not to ogle. I wonder if it's part of my female brain going behave 😉😁

I’d rather not comment at this point as I have had really bad and negative experiences at this point 😩😳😵🥹😭