As I've stated before I chat on TV Chix to anyone about anything and question certain desires etc to gain a better understanding to how people think, why do we dress, why do men find t girls attractive etc.
I've had a message from an Admirer on TV Chix and its refreshing to read a different thought process.
Here's the message
Davina,
I’m very new to this site and still getting acquainted with it really, but I came across your profile and it stopped me in my tracks. I have to be honest that it was your photos that initial caught my eye – so arresting with you looking directly at the camera, unapologetically, no unecessary coyness, just “this is me!!” So direct and so beautiful.
But then I read your profile and that really explains those photos. You are obviously someone who feels what they do as a core part of you and you’ve taken the time to explore things in a cool, detached(?) way, then sharing your thoughts with others through your blogs/forums, which I hope to delve into later.
He's right this is a core part of me I've had to come to accept and yes I do deal with being Trans / Davina in a detached way and currently a frustrated way..
It’s so good that you have been able to share this vital part of you with your wife, and you’re now sharing nights out together – although you don’t shrink away from the fact that there are still obstacles in your way to being Davina as much as you’d like. But I do find your attitude rather inspiring – when you can be Davina you will be her completely – no compromises with quick, perhaps unsatisfying transformations. Full immersion or nothing. I do wonder if you’re achieving this aim or if the need to find the solace and mental health benefits you speak of can push you into rushed, perhaps unfulfilling situations.
Definately not being Davina as much as I'd like with nothing of any quality time really since last October, dressed in January and May briefly. It's true I could just dress but that's not enough I need to be fully made up, fully transformed and dressed and to have some quality time as Davina or there's no point to it. Definately has mental health benefits and I could do with some quality time as my mental health is definately suffering with one thing and another.
As for me, if I’m honest, I have come to the crossdressing/trans scene very, very tentatively over the last couple of years – as an admirer. Why I’ve been doing this isn’t totally transparent even to me, but the one thing I have learned is that there are as many stories as there are T girls. (I hope the name “T girls” isn’t too flippant – I don’t mean it to be – but the wide range of experiences makes a catch-all tag difficult. Perhaps that’s as it should be.) And what I’ve learned is that none of these stories are easy and that it’s partly this struggle/determination to express and be themselves that I find attractive. I’m still exploring slowly and carefully.
The writer needs to star a forum "Why do men admire T girls?"
So Davina, I hope I haven’t waffled on too much. What I really want to convey is that you are beautiful and that your profile is uniquely interesting. From my position of very partial understanding, it feels the best thing I can wish you going forward is simple good luck.
Nice message different from most of the messages I get asking if i'd meet for sex. There are some nice genuine people out there.
Great message. It's interesting to read the comment from the OP that the reason for what they are doing is not 'transparent' to them at this time. Honestly, I'm still not sure it is transparent to me as to why I love to dress. I know that it is a part of me for reasons I can't explain, I can say that I feel happier being dressed and that, over time, the desire to express myself went from getting a sexual kick from wearing just stockings and suspenders to where I now have a whole wardrobe of clothes to express my feminine side. The sexual side fizzled out many years ago and I don't ever feel that need anymore It's now about dressing 'full on' although, unlike some, I can't complete the look with makeup.
I do agree with Ally that most of my contact with admirers has been on the receiving end of sexually loaded comments or offers to send pics of various descriptions. I've no objections to admirers in the general sense, the majority seem to be male, and surely it is in the male psych to be attracted to females, so should we really be surprised that some are attracted to males who present as attractive females. I don't find myself sexually attracted to other crossdressers but I do admire, or maybe I'm even jealous, of those who can achieve (what I at least perceive to be) the outward presentation of an attractive female.
Thank you Davina - that was my message and I thank you for your comments and your encouragement for me to come here and read and get involved in these forums. I'm nervous and tentative, but very glad to be here.
I've posted an intro for anyone who's interested.
An extremely well thought out and intelligent message from an admirer that actually seems to see tgirls from a different angle.
I agree it's so rare to get a message from an admirer that either isn't sexually loaded or barely a legible constructed sentence. This does fill me with a little more hope.
Like you Davina I'm happy to chat with all regards this way of life so long as there's mutual respect. It's nice to at least have people at last to share with and bounce ideas and feelings off of. X