Good advice just in case parents pop over they knock even though they have a key.. Trying the key they'd know were home.. Have had to quickly change back get rid of makeup a few times.

Thats cool enjoy you Rachel time.. I'm jealous have to wait for Monday

Only an hour going to Chelle’s daughters for tea later. Better get changed before then 😂

@Davina Top Babe?! Well done!

Was a good pic in my mustard flowery dress lol good spotlights in the bathroom.. Shopping and seen nothng I like.. Typical last time in Cardiff kids in tow saw a few things I liked all change today..

@Davina Oh I hate it when you go shopping and can't find anything.

I have weekly trawls through the charity shops and sometimes there is absolutely nothing to buy. This week I only managed to buy some hats and scarves!

Chelle, all the girls have lovely legs. I’m jealous!

Yes, dressing for work can be very distracting!

I find I dress then get into work and then find its time to return to male me and times flown with a few looks in the mirror in between.. Need some quality time dressed.. Monday I hope and a girls night in with Esme would be fun.

Monday I'm dressing full stop .. Watch one of the kids be off school throwing up.. Lol

I have been home dressed and my mothers called in to pick something up when they've had the kids I the summer holidays.. I'm upstairs completely transformed makeup wig n all and the door opens "only me" they want their scooters half way up the stairs.. I sah "hang on a sec mam I'm on a phone conference they're by the back door".. Lucky one lol imagine my mother's face.. Well I knew you were wearing my lingerie when you were younger but this omg you look like a woman 🤣

Had my day planned work wise and wallop Help we've an emergency and need you to give us the answers and provide a long winded number crunched data risk assessment.. Davina out the window 2nd day on the trott.. Wednesday my parents didn't pop up either so could have dressed 🙈

I couldn’t agree more! We share so much now (not just tights) and making cross dressing a positive thing has been the best thing we’ve ever done in our marriage. There’s no secrets and it feels amazing.

Don't apologise nice to hear from you.. How's everything going?

Slowly starting to get out again but it’s taken it’s toll.

True tho I do moan its trash TV lol and if sports on the TV is mine but she doesn't mind sport or will watch something on her phone.. But yes you're right its give and take.

Hopfully this chat may get other comments

She's said that to me you cross dress what do I have and I think the answer is watch crappy TV like master chef, doing up some French castle, I'm a celb get me out, strictly and she's just binge watched Greys anatomy.. So her escapism is crappy TV.. Lol

My wife bakes she loves cooking. Or she will watch real murder or the Royals on TV or Netflix

I know.. I've never purged as I know it comes back, I've never tried to stop dressing as I enjoy it but I've grown to an awkward point where I don't dress just trying things on, I have to be shaved and made up wig the lot or I don't dress.. Have to look the part and this has limited me dressing the other limits I've put there myself stupidly. We've hijacked your post with my crossdreasing regression of confidence and returned guilt for crossdreasing.. Maybe the older members will see familiarity in this and wives if they look at your post "Where are you all and what you waiting for?"

Yes I have had to because of covid but since September in reality I could and should have dressed a few times and should just do it as benefits outweigh denying myself dressing.

I cannot agree more it does become all consuming. I wander off in my head picking my complete outfit. And even when my wife asks me what I’m thinking I tend to say nothing instead of dressing

Yes that's the awkward thing as some of the wives and other t girls from here over chatted to as Davina on Skype have kids so has to be coordinated.

The usual time for me to mention Davina and talk about it is after a few pints. In the summer sat outside a pub we had our last chat about me dressing out of earshot of others and on the walk home.. Esme accepts it but I feel awkward if I keep on about dressing as I think really or know shed prefer I wasn't a cross dresser and I think acceptance is to make me happy more than her happy or I'm regressing back to guilt for cross dressing as ive not done it hardly over the last 2 years.

Yes its also mad I have bouts of what am I doing sometimes despite enjoying cross dressing.. Looking at male me I'd never think I'd me a tgirl let alone anyone else. I've had a few surreal dreams about cross dressing over the years and again recently I had a dream that I was working from home and the front door wasn't locked and all of a sudden "Hellooo" and in walked my wife's best friend catching me dressed and me having to explain why and her saying let's go out as girls, I had a dream once that Esme brought her boss home one lunch time to meet me as Davina (female boss) and this week had a dream similar to before only it was her sister walking in and there I was as Davina sat on the settee then having to explain to her my dressing.. I need my dreams analysed lol

Glad you're here. Maybe I can have a skype chat one evening with you and Rachel if we ever manage a girls night in again with no kids here. Be nice to say hi.

Its true when you've not talked to your wife for ages about the need to dress the trail goes cold and its hard to bring it up and discuss it especially when the kids are in and you don't want them to know or hear the conversation.

Didn't dress.. Actually got a dress out and makeup and lingerie and heels, wig etc then an emergency conference in work early this morning and that messed up my whole day. Monday I'm off work and will be dressing.

Here's me the site creator offering .my thoughts and advice and need advice and to talk about cross dressing myself. Lol

Ive gone through periods where I need to dress and unwind. A few years ago had summer hold 6 weeks no dressing then the bathroom done ordered everything off line which came different days some not on the delivery date wasted time then someone to fit it it was about 10 wrecks plus no dressing and work was ultra stressful and couldnt dress. Since 2019 I think we had a girls night in in Dec 2019 which was our last and since then 2 years and I've probably dressed 8-9 times if that and again a lot of stress and couldn't dress with home schooling and no work trips away dressed in a hotel room. Dressed 2nd week of September and work meetings pretty full on on MS Teams plus the impromptu calls I've put off dressing which is stupid and given my mental health and blood pressure no doubt a kicking then a bad dose of hospitalised Covid.. And now working my flat hours 15-20 hours less than normal and can feel myself stressing as doing less work got loads of open ended projects. Sod it I'm dressing tomorrow and Monday!

Yes she tells me to calm down and has in the past said that I need a chill day or a dressing day we've had various code words.for my cross dressing. I am guilty of burying the need to cross dress though and even making excuses to.myself not to dress which is stupid.

Put it this way my job is stressful.. I add to it wanting to do my best get things done improve the business and secretly like being thought of as the best in my field in the UK so I add stress and some things outside work also to a lesser extent cause me stress.. When I played competitive sport dressing was sparse 3 I didn't do it often and my stress release was sport. At 46 my stress release has become cross dressing involving dressing fully makeup wig the lot or not at all and its become a major part of helping my mental health. Covid and restricting cross dressing to a hand full of time did a lot of harm to my mental health working from home longer hours and harder than ever.. I called BT this evening as our new complete broadband isnt covering the house as they claim and my stress levels went up over that talking to a jobs worth Eame had to take the phone off me .. I need to cross dress and chill out.

I am also the same work used to keep my thoughts busy. Now my crossdressing is my stress relief. Before the pandemic my wife suggested I try contacting LGBT to see if there was a way to meet other crossdresser’s. I started going to their T Time meetings once a month. The meeting was more for transgender people but welcomed any crossdresser’s. There were a couple of CD’s and we got to chat. Then the pandemic and we have not been able to meet. My dressing now consists of me going upstairs where I have free reign over the upper floor of our house. My wife is not at the stage where she wants to see me fully dressed and I respect her boundaries.

For my wife seeing me dressed was the eureka moment ..

Will ask her Monday as having a Davina day and easier to bring this site up and meeting other couples as hubby and wife and maybe a makeover lol.. All this advice I give and I still struggle to talk to her sometimes about Davina as meeting another couple or a makeover is moving boundaries again isn't it.. And once we get a foot in the door what's next?? I'm sure wives think that?

I think as time goes on and as you get more involved into cross dressing as a couple, it’s only natural that the boundaries may change again. I think I’m finding the boundaries are changing for us too. A year ago, I probably wouldn’t want to meet other couples, but I find myself agreeing to it.

Wish my wife Esme would check in and lend advice as it took us a long time to get to a stage of acceptance around my Cross dressing.

I have the emails of some of the original wives on here as I chatted with Hannah, Emma and Rebecca on Skype as Davina which I was nervous about but once we got chatting was fab. Miss their input.