Hi Ally, I'm a little late, but welcome :)

I found myself in a similar position to yours last April when I felt I finally had to confess my sordid secret for the good of my mental well-being. It was a terrifying situation I put myself in (!) but I was very fortunate with the outcome and have been a lot happier since.

I hope your wife will come around to accepting Ally into her life more fully :)

Hi Ally. Just saying hello as I can't really comment on the accepting wife/partner thing.

Hi Ally, I am an excepting wife to Rachel on here, welcome - hopefully you can get some answers and support and new friends 😁

Thank you Davina for telling me your story and experience. Its so important to give our partners time to adjust to our need to dress. You sound like you have a wonderful wife and a strong relationship. I know all I ever wanted is to be a good husband, father and friend and I think it has thankfully made us closer. Still very envious of a girls night. X

Welcome to the Forum. A familiar story to many other a here. You've already come so far in discussing your urge / want / need to cross dress with your wife. Step 1 be comfortable in yourself as a Cross dresser. Step 2 if you feel you can take a bumig breath and confide in your wife or girlfriend and add some reassurances to the common questions.. Are you gay? Do you want to be a woman and is this my fault? From here on communication is key.. You will want to discuss cross dressing your wife may not. You may fret on this for weeks looking for an angle a way in to bring it up again or the right timing and mood to discuss crossdreasing and .. A) She may say let's sit down and talj about it Or B) Dismiss it .. Not right now or change the subject as a sign of I don't want to talk about it. If all elae fails write down what you want to talk about and give it to her but be there to answer any questions again A) she may read it and talk B) say she will read it later and it may stay there unread C) read it when alone. So a lot of thought needs to go into any letter outlining all this including aome theory on why you croasdress, what you get out of it, why you want to discuss it with her etc etc.. Having told my wife I cross dressed many tears from her and the questions above.. Are you gay I wasnt expecting from her.. Nor do you want to be a woman both No's.. Is it my fault also no to an extent as part of my dressing has always been lingerie, hosiery and heels something thats a rare site on my wife compared to If Davina was a real woman how I'd hope I'd present.. Lol but that's easy to say being a part time t girl. If I could be in stockings / tights nice lingerie and heels every day would I or would I opt for something a bit more comfy?? She knew she ignored didn't want to talk about it buried her head in the sand.. I brought it up got dismissed sometimes and sometimes we talked. I showed her photos resulting in OK you look like a woman but I don't get it.. To can I dress when you're out, when you're in.. Then one day out of curiosity I'm working from home dressed upstairs.. She's home from work for lunch and puts a sandwich on the landing for me and texts sandwich on the landing.. I text what about a cuppa tea.. I hear her on the stairs then coming across the landing then into the bedroom with a cup of tea face to face.. She said wow you look like a woman not how I expected.. That's my dress you bitch ... Omg your legs are better than mine and that wig is tatty we'll have to get you a better one.. Elated I got up and hugged her.. It felt weird she said my tits on hers lol. That evening we picked a wig on eBay and ordered it and as we were talking I asked could we have a girls night in on the weekend and meet me again as Davina.. She agreed and nervously we had a night in take away, chick flick both dressed and made up.. Boundary shifted elephant in the room shifted.. Firmly out of my closet and into Hers as she wants no one to know I dress. 8 years separated me telling her I dressed and D day when she met me dressed for the first time.. Glad to say most here who have found acceptance have found it quicker than 8 years.. Stone however soldier on in the shaddows or with Part acceptance. Talking is key and finding a level of understanding and acceptance. Davina