I have been dressing since I do not know how long I am 69 and it has been since I can remember. I am married and yes my wife does know I dress.
I wear female panties daily and have done for many a year. I also wear a nightdress to bed every night my wife has actually asked me is the nightdresses I have that are made of modal and lace warm for me as it is usually a sign by how long they take to tumble dry the longer the warmer they are.
It has taken me many a year to recognise what my style of clothing is which are midi dress and skirt usually pleated or full circle. My materials satin silk lace and chiffon. The reason I like them to swish and swirl around my legs as I walk I just love the way the kick out as I walk.
Hi i've seen quite a few new members join, don't be shy say hi and introduce yourselves :)
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Hi all, Sarah here. Like many I started trying on my mothers and later sisters (she's 6 years younger) things and finding it both a release and exciting. At 16 and a half I joined the RAF and despite participating in "manly" things like hard drinking, chasing women (unsuccessfully) and other things men were expected to do. I secret I would dress, experiment and often drive several miles to different towns to buy clothing so I would not be seen by anyone. I always felt I was more attracted to the feminine form than women themselves, but never felt any attraction to men. I also never considered it anything other than a strange perversion/kink/twist and not something I could share. Then I met a fantastic girl, fell in love and swore my crossdressing days were behind me. When we were courting (a lovely old fashioned word) I tried to explore he feeling son crossdressing, but she was repelled by men who did that and said we would be finished if I did it! Like many I purged (again) and threw out everything, convinced I was never going to dress again, after all I was in a new house, married and getting used to married life!
But as many will testify, the old urge came back, and for years I dressed in secret, when the wife (and then kids) were not around but also when away on business or courses in hotels. Over the years I managed to perfect the art of hiding stuff away in the loft and getting it out for trips so I could be Sarah for a few hours at a time. In the early days I met other crossdressers for meals and even a boat trip on a river with about 20 others, a memorable day! Lately the chance to meet has been few and far between, mostly when on business trips or when taking my daughter back to uni and staying over night in a hotel. The recent pandemic meant I had to work from home as the office and client visits were stopped, meaning dressing was next to impossible and the stresses of daily life were having a huge impact on me. Fortunately my wife has learnt to listen to my rants and raves and smile and nod and then when I have blown off steam give a few words of insight and support. To be frank, without her understanding and compassion I would have been far worse off during the pandemic than I am. As it is I am working through some work related stress issues and I am lucky in that my line managers recognise that and are supporting me.
However things changed dramatically a short while ago. I had ordered some underwear and had it delivered to a local shop for collection. When home I put it in the back of my wardrobe, hidden behind some clothes until I could try it on for size and fit. I was aware my wife had disturbed it but not that she had seen it, then one night when we were in bed she asked me the question, "Who's underwear is in your wardrobe"? She instantly thought I was having an affair, and it took a lot of convincing to persuade her otherwise! I confessed, knowing that 20 plus years of marriage were about to end, I would be looking for somewhere to live and quite possibly alienated from my children, To my surprise she did not explode or throw me out, we talked until 4 in the morning, and she agreed to try and understand, and we are now working out ways to compromise. As it says in the Bible, love endures all.
Lots of things in here that many girls will have in common with your Story Sarah.Pandemic wise it was stressful and cross dressing has become something that helps my mental wellbeing.. Also we fret what our wives would say or do finding out we cross dress ... Fingers crossed many women are becoming more liberally minded about cross dressing.
Familiar story for a lot of us leading what's expected of us manly lives but having this feminine escape.. thanks for introducing yourself.. I'm sure there's posts here you and your wife would benefit from reading.
Hello, I’m Sophie, I’ve decided to stop hiding and let the real me out..... I’m married, she knows I dress but doesn’t approve. a hurdle to be overcome I suppose.....
Dressing since I was about 11. Why? Not sure but have theories...it was a sexual thrill...it was something 'different'....I could be the girlfriend I wanted but didn't have....I could be the real life woman in the girly magazines...the thrill has never left me & I guess it never will.
HI, One and all I thought is polite to introduce myself and say a thankyou to all involved in the running of the site and to everyone who contributes it is nice to find a space on the internet that actually informative, helpful and constructive. As a form of introduction I like to believe I'm a good listener and try and help good folk out. I have been active within the community for quite some time both my business and youtube channel are focused on my lifestyle. If I can help out in any small way then please reach out I will try to assist if possible. Thanks for reading and good luck to everyone. XX
I am 55 and exploring my desire to wear frilly and femine satin lingerie.
I am not sure where it will go, but I am looking to see if wearing the lingerie I find beautiful will free me from the standard male roles the our society has engendered in us.
@Davina That is a complicated thing. The short form is that I always have loved the look and feel of womens' lingerie but only thought of what my partner could be wearing. I finally accepted that I like the look and feel of them on me. I have purchased a few things recently though only one has arrived.
Della hi. I do empathise and sympathise, I’m sure we all do. I agonised for a long time before telling my wife, initially it ‘went well’ I guess you’d say : the initial shock, questions, then acceptance and a brilliant tolerance, eternally to her credit (hope that doesn’t sound patronising). Now, years and years later, in a way which I’m finding hard to describe very well, it’s almost as if ‘fessing up didn’t change anything day to day - I can’t just off to the bathroom and come out dressed like Shirley Bassey. I miss ‘it’ dreadfully right now. But our routines will probably recalibrate again in the next few weeks or months we all hope. I can’t give a wife’s perspective but this forum is a treasure trove of opinions and perspectives which might be useful before having ‘the conversation’.I’ll shut up now x
I hope the person concerned doesn't mind, but just read this on a profile on tvchix and it did make me laugh...
"Yes, for the record, I’m married and my wife knows, always has.
I would say she tolerates more than accepts but has never tried to stop me, but I know she would rather I was a knife throwers assistant in the circus than a tranny, but I didn’t choose it, it choose me!!"
HI Della that's a big decision.Have a read here first and maybe let the wives here know a bit more about you and how you want to tackle telling your wife and see what they think and what advice tgirls here who have come out to wives can help with.Welcome to the Forum Davina
"I wonder how many marriages would not have taken place if the husband had told his future wife that he was a crossdresser". Great question Katie. On the other hand, how many men - when they get married - imagine that they will now leave the crossdressing behind them.? I think I probably did. That was 30 years ago!....
When I was younger and purging regularly I had a few "I'm not going to do this anymore" moments. I think I finally gave up on that in my mid 30s and accept that it will always be a part of me
I've never purged but sometimes questioned why I did it and I'll tell the truth and know others can relate.Dressing when younger I'd masterbate and orgasm and that's when I'd have to take it all off and say to myself why am I doing this right this has to stop.. Invariably I'd dress again and repeat. Now its more about relaxing but I do still sometimes get myself off when dressed but less that guilty what am I doing.
I think many of us are the same. Every now and then dress and get that turned on that they masterbate to orgasm. I relax watch a movie walk about the house. We have many mirrors around the home where I can see my skirt or dress swish and swirl. I love the movement of my clothes on me sometimes I get very excited and I take care of myself. Not a lot but it has happened.
I wonder how many marriages would not have taken place if the husband had told his future wife that he was a crossdresser. As Davina said the easy option is "bye" without facing up to your prejudice. If you are in a marriage then you maybe more predisposed to actually understand more about his crossdressing and eventually accept.
I totally get the deceit part. But I have been told things that I cannot share with anyone because of the hurt and pain it will cause. Am I wrong to keep the secret? Should I tell my wife knowing how it will affect her? If I do them I break the trust of someone else. We all face these dilemmas.
@KarenO I think it is easier now as people are more educated on gender issues. My parents just wouldn't understand but my kids just treat it as normal.
As I said given my time again I would probably have come clean but I didn't know enough about crossdressing at the time. I thought it had stopped. Something I had grown out of. There just wasn't the information generally available. I never knew it would comeback. Maybe this is me justifying my decision but knowledge does give you power to make these decisions.
@Katie Same I thought it was a childish thing i did until we moved in together i was curious what Esme had in her draws and dresses etc and tried some things on but not a regular thing.
Like i've said my dressing went up a notch her putting makeup on me first time id seen myself made up then followed the wig and now look at me thing of dressing quite a bit stuck in isolation unable to dress in lockdown with the kids off school and its become an all or nothing makeup the lot or i don't dress at all.
For me Dressing was something i've always done but developed more in my 30s and now in my 40s as something that helps me unwind.. in 20s I was playing a lot of contact sport maybe that took my time, attention and aggression.
@Davina it was just an opinion based on Alina’s comment and based on how I felt at the time. I felt I needed to up my game to keep my husband but when you first find out there is not an awful lot of logic in your thought process. On reflection at least I did not have to compete with another women or man as I would have lost.
I think there are quite a few who are all mouth and no trousers - quite literally 😂
I had already left once and went back. 2nd time of leaving was for good. Met some nice girls there but it's putting up with the rest that was difficult. I posted something and a couple laid into me which I didn't think it deserved. I thought that's it - I thought we were all in this together as one community but there are always people who just to things to spite.
@Katie It can be a strange place. I got kicked off by Military Coup back in the summer some underhanded mention the photos of me which had been there best part of a decade weren't of me because of disagreements in the Forums there. It must be driving the t girls mad who told me I wasn't a proper tranny to see me 3rd week top t girl profile photo 😂.
I think I've been there long enough now that the admirers say "pardon me for saying hello I know you don't like men but just wanted to say hello and you look nice"
Others who don't just have the proverbial ripped out of them by me for a laugh and occasionally I have a nice bloke chat with one.
99% of it is pure fantasy but there is a real seedy side to some of it.
I've had photos and videos sent to me quite unsavoury.
I don't read the Forums now its not worth the cattyness from some of the the t girls.
I've also made some good friends on there i missed chatting to when i was on my suspension and enjoy chatting to you too when i see you there and a few other wives some who have promised to join here.
There aren't many answers there. The closest you'll get is the girls only room but that can also be like a monty python sketch sometimes or maybe that's just my input to the girls only room.
Hi to all the new girls lovely to read your introductions.
On the topic of telling wives, I found him dressed and it was a massive shock.
I eventually accepted this side to him but many don't so if you are keeping it your secret then you'd better assure you remove trace of makeup and the tell may be varnish on the nails and i'd say your eye makeup you may give yourslef panda eyes not removing your mascara or try too hard and give yourself a black eye lol.
I get why wives think of it as a betrayal as we married men so to find he's been crossdressing behind our backs is a big thing.
Its personal choice but i'd say some of your wives will have an idea or may know but have parked it at the back of their minds.
Anyway welcome to the forum I'm one of the wives here and if i can help i will.
I had to do The Triple Echo for o level English centuries ago, by HE Bates. It’s very sensitively done, a guy has deserted from the army and disguised himself as a woman, you’ve probably read it? Again, I read it and immediately thought about the author, here’s another one!
Hmmm, I'll look out for that book. I only got a C in my English lit 'O' level, so it may well go over my head! Surprised no-one has mentioned Wallians in this discussion...
It’s very refreshing and comforting to read so many similar experiences on here in a safe and accepting arena. Thanks Davina for having the balls to start it up (pardon the expression).My first inclinations started around 7 or 8 I guess. I particularly remember watching Carry on Films where one of the guys would be crudely made up and dressed and, although it was obviously for comic effect, I found the notion intoxicating and arresting. Cue then the common scenes - pinching family clothes, buying some stuff, throwing away some stuff, buying more stuff and on it goes. Then you hit middle age and find it refuses to go away. Grayson Perry cannily observed, the sweet spot is probably your 40’s cos you probably have some cash and time and you still have youthful looks but these inevitably fade. Maybe I’ll be in a home one day, the nurses will warn each other ‘don’t let Liz in room 24 borrow your blouse, even if he begs!’.Well now I’ve cheered us all up.x
Love these films and yes remember the crossdressing too but not what started me off i also remember les dawsons female character
More recently Geraldine Peter Kays Irish alter Ego
Crossdressing has been used in jest for decades as has drag and its good to an extent but does portray an image of disguise, ridicule and jest.. some t girls are more serious about this and some do it for fun and some of us for stress relief and enjoyment and a feeling we cant describe but dare not call it feeling "Fem" as Sindy if she was still here as a Wife would have us know "You don't feel Fem! how would you know!"
Great reading all the introductions and drivers behind t girls dressing origins and what kicked it all off. tights for me then Marshall wards and Little woods catalogues lingerie sections and wow there's some of this stuff int he house wonder how it looks and feels on then hook line and sinker t girl for life.
This could be a thread in its w=own right to gauge wives and GFs thoughts on crossdressing in film and comedy and how its portrayed and if it has influence on how they feel about us crossdressing..
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@Davina I think if you use Carry On as a genre then it was done to "poke fun" but there again a lot of the sexist innuendo would probably not get made now either. As a thread for wider appreciation of film and comedy I think it's a great idea.
Having read so many stories I think that I could probably draw up a template for the typical crossdressers pathway. I don't think any of us would drift too far off the script. It all seems so familiar. Funny thing is from my experience those who are late to crossdressing are often the ones who transition. Maybe just me making assumptions but I think that crossdressing for us is more out of curiosity whereas those entering later in life it is about being themselves.
I once chatted to a trans woman who could not understand why men would want to crossdress.
Katie x
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Jan 28, 2021
As a fellow newbie to the site welcome Alina.
We have a little in common, as I suspect you will find with many here. We all think we are alone on this journey but I think there are a lot of shared experiences.
I too was mortified to be found in tights one morning - I had fallen asleep - and my mother was too perceptive or too polite and just accepted my "I was curious explanation".
Similarly Transformation (both Birmingham and Euston) was the source of some of my earlier experimenting; I used to look in whenever work took me to those cities, though in those days it would frequently take me several "walk pasts" before I plucked up the courage to head for the entrance. It was impossible then not to wrongly believe everyone was watching lol. Looking back they were way over priced but they did cater to the shy so I suppose they filled a niche. Somewhere I have a polaroid of my first makeover at Birmingham, a big Farrah style wig and so very of its time but one I am proud of.
Like you, I've had long long periods of denial and several times thrown away loads of clothes and I have heard that many times. We think we can put it behind us but in my limited experience we can't. So for what it's worth you may want to think before the "second great purge".
Finally - and I hope this is not coming across as too preacher-like - I will repeat the best piece of advice I ever read with regard to wives. Simply someone once wrote "she will find out at some point anyway, so best she does on your terms and not by accident!". It took me about 10 years to act on that advice but I have never regretted it. Sadly I do know some marriages that did not survive disclosure so I suppose one has to understand ones own situation too. Classic bit of Stephanie fence-sitting there lol
Wifes said the same about us if something happened and the house was cleared out, wigs, size 8 high heels and two pairs of fake boobies... Ah well he was a cross dresser.
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@Alina Well before I actually followed my own advice I did leave a little note in my stash. Looking back it was a little macabre but an attempt to explain myself in the event of "that bus".
@Stephanie The note idea had crossed my mind. When my mother passed away she had a large bag full of old photos and diaries that came with a 'please destroy' note, which I duly respected. I can't imagine my wife's curiosity not getting the better of her though!. Maybe I should claim they are being stored as a favour for someone at work? 😉.
Thought I should say a bit more about myself. It’s not especially interesting, but - if nothing else- setting it out like this is some help in trying to rationalise things in my own mind – so excuse the self-indulgence.
I’ve read very few profiles where the cross dressing instinct has kicked in beyond the growing-up years – and so it was for me. I remember at the age of perhaps 12 being mortified when my mother asked me about one of her skirts and a pair of my sister’s panties that she’d found lying on her bed. I denied all knowledge and it was never mentioned again. She probably just put it down to inquisitiveness.
Dressing was an on and off thing after that. I can’t remember being interested in my Uni years, for instance. Then in my early 30s things really kicked off. My wife was working abroad, leaving me with abundant time on my hands and, by this stage, a decent amount of disposable income. Not sure what sparked it, but on the train home from a meeting in Manchester one afternoon, I decided to take the plunge and visit the Transformation shop next to Euston station. I remember spending nearly £300 there - a wig, false boobs and other bits and pieces. For the first time I was able to dress fully, and was so pleased with the result that I decided to venture out.
This all culminated in me getting way ahead of myself and taking a train, dressed, down to Gatwick airport to do some shopping. (I must have been mad, looking back in hindsight). I ended up being called out and laughed at. I arrived home mortified and the very next day I left my desk at work, drove home, and transported two full bin liners to the nearest dump.
That was 1996. Kids arrived and grew up. It was all behind me. Then in 2017 whilst I was idly browsing the net I came across the tvchix page. In what felt like unfinished business I decided to book myself in for a makeover. I had always wondered how I might have looked with a professional makeover. Fearing the worst, and imagining that this might finally lay my curiosity to rest, I made my excuses (away football match I think) and spent a few hours with Sisterhyde in Kent.
Trouble is, it wasn’t the closure I was seeking. On the contrary; since then I’ve had maybe 6 or 7 makeovers, been out dressed in Brighton and Manchester, and spent maybe £1k on ‘things’.
So, to get to the point, I’ve hidden all of this from my wife. I rationalise this on the basis that it is a bit of ‘me-time’, an enjoyable distraction from everyday life, and nobody comes to harm as a result. (Please let me emphasise here that I have never sought or been interested in ‘encounters’ with others). Who knows, maybe she has her own secrets, or at least a part of her life that doesn’t have to be part of everything else that is always shared between us.
So, if it is as harmless as I claim, why not just tell her?.
Truth is, I don’t want her to know. There is a risk that it damages our marriage (I’ve read of cases where that has happened), and the dressing just isn’t important enough to me to take that risk. Conversely, she might be fine with it. (During a drunken conversation a few months back I mentioned that I might have an interest. Her response was that I was not to tell our son, and not to borrow any of her clothes! It hasn’t been mentioned since). Even that doesn’t look like a good outcome to me. Why should she be fine with me having a side to me which I’ve never been honest about?. Then there’s the chance she suspects already. (I do pluck my eyebrows and like to keep myself smoother than may be normal for a lot of men).
So, there we are – totally inconclusive!
To be honest, as I get older, the hassle of it all seems like a disincentive in itself. I often think its time for the Second Great Purge.
Then, I remember how enjoyable it can be……
Sorry for the length of this and thanks for letting me unburden lol. And for any partners that just think I’m just a bit of a selfish liar, please don’t be too hard on me…….
Your post really resonated with me. Some of my experiences are very similar - several purges, a few trips to makeover services (which I've loved!) and a secret side to me which I've got used to over the years.
Like you I'm not sure I want my wife to know - I'm so used to Nicky being a secret that it might feel a bit strange it being more in the open (although I think part of me would relish the chance of going out as Nicky), and I think part of the thrill is probably the subterfuge. I've managed to resist purging over the last few years and have managed to acquire a reasonable "wardrobe", make up, wigs etc and I love the occasional chances I get to spend as Nicky - I'm a bit more confident than I used to be, and have made a few online friends I chat to as Nicky.
It would feel like a huge risk telling her and I'm not sure what I would want her to do with the knowledge of this other side of me. Maybe that's just me taking the cowards way out - I don't know!
Not sure whether there's a "right" thing to do - I think I find it easier not thinking about it too hard (in other words a combination of cowardice and denial probably!)
There's no right or wrong to tell or not to tell that is the question and there is no right answer as some wives who know wish they didn't know, some wives know and they reject their husbands crossdressing and some accept straight away and some over time.
I'd be interested to hear wives views on crossdressing being hidden as from chatting and from here it varies as above.. some say we've hidden a lie.
I suppose if they find out and you admit you've left the house and taken it elsewhere like a makeover service or a trans event it sends their minds reeling even more.
I'm fortunate Esme (My wife) finally accepted this part of me and we've gone out in public together which is a tick off the bucket list.
Look forward to reading more from you Nicky and a chat some time in TV Chix would be nice.
That inner peace and gentler side is something we find hard to express as men and probably don't take kind to someone interpreting that as so you mean youre some sort of sissy? No not what we mean I suppose its more akin to relaxing and as Katie on here says drop the Armour we wear as men and how we wish others to perceive us as men.Just happens for us to drop the facade for some reason we like to dress as women.Nice to have you here and great you also have an accepting wife. Getting your head round why you cross dress works wonders and if we get our wives to understand too its a major bonus.Davina
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I'm new here today, having "met" Davina elsewhere, though dressing on and off for decades.
I suppose each of us has our own story about how we got here and why we got here and for many of us I think we never quite understand the feelings.
Personally I think it gives me an inner peace, it speaks to the gentler side of me and I will settle for that. Having been thru many periods of denial and quite a few purges of wardrobe since I was in teens - don't ask lol - this is probably the longest period of self acceptance I have been thru, some 10+ years now.
Hi @KatieDefinitely finding it very useful, hearing everyone's stories is so inspiring and sometimes expert advisd comes from the heart. Look forward to sharing more with everyone and hopefully being able to give advice from my experience. Sam
Thanks for the warm welcome guys and girls. I’ve already read loads of posts on here, still plenty to go. It’s always reassuring that you’re not alone. It seems like an ideal place to open up and be honest, and although I’m not entirely sure what eventual outcome I’m looking for is?It’s very interesting reading wives and partner views as I’m guessing this is mainly the basis of my afterwards guilt(betrayal for my partners trust and my lack of masculinity).I look forward to future reading.
We all go through the feelings of guilt for being crossdressers it must be like a rite of passage towards a greater eventual acceptance that it's ok to crossdress and we enjoy it and then you come to the conclusion the guilt was pointless.
Hello. My name is Clarissa (the name was given to me by the first person to see me dressed). I’m here to try and understand more about what I do and why, as I sure can’t work it out for myself.
HI ClarissaThis is certainly a good place to start.The question why do I cross dress is as big a one as a wife asking why does my husband cross dress.Davina
I Always think of the reasons why then score them out of 100 as in 100% Helped me get my head around it and also the realisation of its something I enjoy doing so I'll stop worrying about the why.
Hi Clarissa welcome to the forum i'm sure the t girls here can help you figure out why you dress see Davinas post why do you crossdress have a go at putting why there and scores upto 100 about it?
17 new members in the last week is a record and nice to see the introductions and jumping straight in commenting on the forum posts and of course nice to see the regulars continue to chip in
@Davina I'm hoping in time she will come to understand and accept it like so many of the amazing wives and girlfriends on this forum.
I did have a big think about it after I read the why do you crossdress post. I'm trying to fine tune my thoughts and reasons but think I pretty much have it down to a tee now. When I am completely certain with why I crossdress I will definitely add it to the post.
I'm going to save a few posts to show my Fiancée to really help her understand how other partners come to terms with and accept crossdressing into there lives.
Fingers crossed it will help her, when I came out to her I told her that she could talk to and tell 2 of her closest friends about it as a kind of "support bubble" (i know that phrase is thrown around a lot now) which im hoping will help her with any stress she may feel.
If you think I can help then please let me know. It might help if you read my "Introduction" to your fiance and again, I'm happy to chat with her too if she'd like to talk to another Partner.
Thank you very much, Will definitely read your introduction post to her, its such a lovely story and your support for your husband is amazing. Again thank you and I will pass on the offer to her.
Welcome Lena that's a great introduction and an amazing story.Being open and honest is the best way but you have to have your fingers crossed they take it the right way and you have to tell them the right way and be ready to explain.Don't apologise for your sucess there are tgirls here dying to twll their wives and I'm sure they're applauding your approach and success.You've got your head round this crossdressing lark and look forward to your wife filling in the blanks as the forum has a great balance of t girl and wives and girlfriends thoughts and stories and questions / answers.You also answered a question we had here about children knowing which I thinks a bigger gamble than telling your wife.Welcome to the Forum thanks for joining.Davina
Hi, I'd like to introduce myself. I'm a very happily married man and father of 3 grown up children. All aspects of my life that that of a red-blooded, hetro-sexual male, apart from one: I love to dress in womens clothes and to release my feminine side. Yes, my wife and children know. My children are from a previous marriage where my wife was very supportive and we went out together quite often as "girlfriends", meaning that my children got to see their dad wearing dresses from their "day 1". It hasn't harmed then in any way, they've all settled into their own homes with their partners and are very happy. They sometimes take the mickey out of me, but haven't seen me "en femme" for several years. My ex-wife and I parted company while I was working away from home and she was playing away! It had nothing to do with my crossdressing and we're still friends and have the odd girlie lunch or drink now and again.
I've since re-married, having thought that I would never marry again after the pain of the breakup and the improbability of meeting another understanding woman. However, I met the most amazing woman that pretty-well fell in love with at first sight. I dated her for a while, but felt guilty. How could I hide my secret from her? I decided to tell her one evening when we came back to mine "for coffee"! I literally sat her down and blurted out the fat that I crossdress. She didn't believe me, so I fetched a couple of dresses from my wardrobe and showed her. She burst into tears, closely followed by me. I explained what I do and why I do it. I told her that I wasn't gay or bi, not did I want any surgery. It's something that has always been part of me from my very earliest memories. She left and I though it was all over. Two weeks later, on Valentines Day, I got a phone call and we went to the cinema. You won't believe it, but the film we saw was Mrs Doubtfire! I was trying to hold it together through the film as it applied in so many ways to me, but I failed and had tears silently running down my face. Very macho! To cut a long story short, we went for a drink afterwards and she said that maybe we could work something out, where I "dress up" when she's not around.
That was many years ago and we're still together and having fun. My wife says that she will join the Forum too, so I'll let her fill in any blanks and give an account of those difficult days, as there are two sides to every story.
Mu point really, is that honesty and trust are both paramount in any relationship. I took a huge leap with someone that had very strong feelings for as I couldn't face the thought of living a lie. Even if I hadn't got that phone call two weeks later, at least I would still be able to enjoy my feminine side without feeling guilty.
Reading this back, it sounds a bit as though I'm preaching, or worse. That's not my intention. I completely understand that for many of us, telling our partners simply isn't an option and I honestly feel for you. All I'm trying to do is to tell you a little about my story and hope that any of you that think that there's a slightest chance of telling your partner, try to find a way of rising the subject (watch Ru Paul or Glow Up together) and test the water!
Hi Emma. Sorry, just finding my way around this site and not sure if you directed that at me. (Sorry, if not!). In short, I'm a married crossdresser, but in the closet. I will tell more later - not that it is that interesting! Alina x
Hi. I'm Alina on tvchix. Liz Tarragon (I've never met her in person, but she feels like a bestie) pointed me in this direction. Hope it's ok that I've dropped in. Alina x
@Katie Hi Katie. I'm not sure what Translate is. It was taken by a very nice lady that I found in the middle of the Lancashire countryside when working in Manchester. Someone on chix recommended her, but she seems quite low profile. She sent me a report on my my skin tone, best colours, make-up and dressing tips and so on, which I still haven't read! - clearly lol! x
@alina Sorry predictive text. Translife! Maybe all these makeover services look the same 😂 Looked just like the room I sat in for my makeover! Mine was in Brighton though.
I only discovered this site after chatting with Davina in the chat room earlier today the First time we’ve ever talked together ( bizarre given I’ve been on that site since 07 and she 06,!)
I first dressed in my teens in my pals sisters undies : she was fit as!!!! that was followed by dressing in undies/tights of wife of a couple I babysat for. Once I started dating it waned but was rekindled when I married and had access to lingerie: probably because it was the only way to experience the sensation as my wife rarely wore anything I bought her. We did have parenthood thrust upon us early in our marriage and both in early 20s so maybe this impacted on us in ways I didn’t realise at the time.
Anyway this is my initial foray onto this forum and I look forward to participating more extensively as time and opportunity allows and getting to know everyone as a result.
Who knows where this will take me and my wife if I can ever get her involved, for all the usual reasons (plus a significant event more of which later) but my ultimate desire is for us to have some joint femme time together.
Some common themes Davina dressing as a teen in whoevers things you could get your hands on (Yep me too)
Married and had access to lingerie and more (Yep me too moving in together I dressed a bit)
Probably because it was the only way to experience the sensation as my wife rarely wore anything I bought her. (Another common theme she won't wear stockings so i do etc, if only they knew how easy it was to please us by wearing something sexy for a while)
Having kids does impact on men and women but women more than me we stay men they become Mums and they change and in this time they also hide the heels away unless a girls night out or a wedding and retreat into flat shoes and comfort.
@Davina it comes as no surprise to realise my story is similar to most and when I think about it my journey ( I hate that phrase but it fits!) is pretty clear and it’s quite apparent that the situational influences and how they affected my femme desires make sense. 😀 The only observation I excluded is my emotions when I’m Davina : I actually feel sexy something I never feel in male clothing. I imagine other girls feel the same?
Hi Caroline welcome to the Forum.. Have a read of the posts add your own thoughts and post away its non judgemental here very open and friendly.Wives GFs and Tgirls alike combining to lend advice
Hi all, thanks for allowing me to join, I have been cross-dressing off and on for over fifty years. Been married and divorce twice because of it. Once it gets into your systems it never leaves. It can be lonely at times but I have accepted this part of myself and she will never leave.
I am the wife of a transvestite. Am ok with it so far well most of it. I still have my reservations on some aspects which worry me but I am sure most of us do.
I sometime wonder why someone's sexuality is so important. To me the most important thing is the love we have for each other. If your husband loves you and wants to be with you and nobody else then his sexuality shouldn't matter. If he's not going to run off with another man or woman why worry?
I also think that thing really start getting confusing when you start introducing gender into the equation. Then you get such definitions as gynesexual (attraction to femininity) androsexual (attraction to masculinity), pansexual (not limited to biological sex, gender or gender identity) and so on. The list become endless with as many different shades as there are people.
It's only because many of us have been bought up to believe you are either straight or gay ( a binary choice). And however we may wish to deny it there is still a stigma about being gay (or at least amongst the older generation).
If my wife suddenly turned around and said she fancied women as well it wouldn't bother me. If she declared herself gynesexual then happy days lol.
Being a crossdresser doesn't make anyone gay. That is completely separate. You maybe a gay crossdresser but more likely to be a happily married man. I do think some of the confusion comes in being transgender. Transgender is a blanket term used to cover a while host of different ways of expressing how you feel.
I think most people associate being trans with being a transgender woman. Some trans women will prefer men but not because they are gay but because they are women. Equally some trans women will be lesbians. Being a crossdresser doesn't mean you want to live full-time as a woman. It's just a way of expressing part of you. It doesn't change your sexuality. You may feel more feminine but it doesn't mean you want to jump into bed with a man!
Some crossdressers are truly stunning. Men tend to be visual creature and what they see turns them on. A 'straight' man may find a crossdresser attractive until he finds out what is between the legs! Then the fear of being 'gay' takes over. But just as a woman shouldn't be judged by how she dresses, nor should a man who wants to express his feminine side. Just because I like to wear dresses, skirts and heels doesn't mean I want to attract a man. I just want to feel good in myself and that is what happens.
So please don't associate crossdressing with being gay. Accept the person for who they are. If they are loving devoted husband then thank your lucky stars because there are plenty of macho idiots out there who may not crossdress but they are complete arseholes.
HI Karen thanks for joining from our chat yesterday I know you will be abke to help here and hopefully benefit yourself.I'll let you add an introduction about who you are and your circumstances. A fab story.
Nice to see another new amber say hi. I'm a wife of a Tgirl and have been here and found acceptance because of the group of people on this forum who have helped me and my husband come to terms with cross dressing.
Hi from me i'm Hannah another wife and i've come a long way not just in accepting crossdressing but also our sexuality so please say hi plenty of help here
I think we need the new members to say hi as its only a few of us contributing. Don't be shy say hi and a little about yourself and where you are in all this.
Hi I go by the name Coleen when in dressed mode.
I have been dressing since I do not know how long I am 69 and it has been since I can remember. I am married and yes my wife does know I dress.
I wear female panties daily and have done for many a year. I also wear a nightdress to bed every night my wife has actually asked me is the nightdresses I have that are made of modal and lace warm for me as it is usually a sign by how long they take to tumble dry the longer the warmer they are.
It has taken me many a year to recognise what my style of clothing is which are midi dress and skirt usually pleated or full circle. My materials satin silk lace and chiffon. The reason I like them to swish and swirl around my legs as I walk I just love the way the kick out as I walk.
Coleen
Hi i've seen quite a few new members join, don't be shy say hi and introduce yourselves :)
Hi all, Sarah here. Like many I started trying on my mothers and later sisters (she's 6 years younger) things and finding it both a release and exciting. At 16 and a half I joined the RAF and despite participating in "manly" things like hard drinking, chasing women (unsuccessfully) and other things men were expected to do. I secret I would dress, experiment and often drive several miles to different towns to buy clothing so I would not be seen by anyone. I always felt I was more attracted to the feminine form than women themselves, but never felt any attraction to men. I also never considered it anything other than a strange perversion/kink/twist and not something I could share. Then I met a fantastic girl, fell in love and swore my crossdressing days were behind me. When we were courting (a lovely old fashioned word) I tried to explore he feeling son crossdressing, but she was repelled by men who did that and said we would be finished if I did it! Like many I purged (again) and threw out everything, convinced I was never going to dress again, after all I was in a new house, married and getting used to married life!
But as many will testify, the old urge came back, and for years I dressed in secret, when the wife (and then kids) were not around but also when away on business or courses in hotels. Over the years I managed to perfect the art of hiding stuff away in the loft and getting it out for trips so I could be Sarah for a few hours at a time. In the early days I met other crossdressers for meals and even a boat trip on a river with about 20 others, a memorable day! Lately the chance to meet has been few and far between, mostly when on business trips or when taking my daughter back to uni and staying over night in a hotel. The recent pandemic meant I had to work from home as the office and client visits were stopped, meaning dressing was next to impossible and the stresses of daily life were having a huge impact on me. Fortunately my wife has learnt to listen to my rants and raves and smile and nod and then when I have blown off steam give a few words of insight and support. To be frank, without her understanding and compassion I would have been far worse off during the pandemic than I am. As it is I am working through some work related stress issues and I am lucky in that my line managers recognise that and are supporting me.
However things changed dramatically a short while ago. I had ordered some underwear and had it delivered to a local shop for collection. When home I put it in the back of my wardrobe, hidden behind some clothes until I could try it on for size and fit. I was aware my wife had disturbed it but not that she had seen it, then one night when we were in bed she asked me the question, "Who's underwear is in your wardrobe"? She instantly thought I was having an affair, and it took a lot of convincing to persuade her otherwise! I confessed, knowing that 20 plus years of marriage were about to end, I would be looking for somewhere to live and quite possibly alienated from my children, To my surprise she did not explode or throw me out, we talked until 4 in the morning, and she agreed to try and understand, and we are now working out ways to compromise. As it says in the Bible, love endures all.
Hello, I’m Sophie, I’ve decided to stop hiding and let the real me out..... I’m married, she knows I dress but doesn’t approve. a hurdle to be overcome I suppose.....
Dressing since I was about 11. Why? Not sure but have theories...it was a sexual thrill...it was something 'different'....I could be the girlfriend I wanted but didn't have....I could be the real life woman in the girly magazines...the thrill has never left me & I guess it never will.
Hello everyone, Caitlyn from Essex here. Nice to meet you all. Lifelong dresser and looking to make some new friends x
HI, One and all I thought is polite to introduce myself and say a thankyou to all involved in the running of the site and to everyone who contributes it is nice to find a space on the internet that actually informative, helpful and constructive. As a form of introduction I like to believe I'm a good listener and try and help good folk out. I have been active within the community for quite some time both my business and youtube channel are focused on my lifestyle. If I can help out in any small way then please reach out I will try to assist if possible. Thanks for reading and good luck to everyone. XX
Hello there all
I am 55 and exploring my desire to wear frilly and femine satin lingerie.
I am not sure where it will go, but I am looking to see if wearing the lingerie I find beautiful will free me from the standard male roles the our society has engendered in us.
Della hi. I do empathise and sympathise, I’m sure we all do. I agonised for a long time before telling my wife, initially it ‘went well’ I guess you’d say : the initial shock, questions, then acceptance and a brilliant tolerance, eternally to her credit (hope that doesn’t sound patronising). Now, years and years later, in a way which I’m finding hard to describe very well, it’s almost as if ‘fessing up didn’t change anything day to day - I can’t just off to the bathroom and come out dressed like Shirley Bassey. I miss ‘it’ dreadfully right now. But our routines will probably recalibrate again in the next few weeks or months we all hope. I can’t give a wife’s perspective but this forum is a treasure trove of opinions and perspectives which might be useful before having ‘the conversation’. I’ll shut up now x
Hi
New member here and Im seriously considering telling my wife as Im missing the dressing so much
Some great discussion and good for our new members to read and see the support and debate here 😍
"I wonder how many marriages would not have taken place if the husband had told his future wife that he was a crossdresser". Great question Katie. On the other hand, how many men - when they get married - imagine that they will now leave the crossdressing behind them.? I think I probably did. That was 30 years ago!....
I wonder how many marriages would not have taken place if the husband had told his future wife that he was a crossdresser. As Davina said the easy option is "bye" without facing up to your prejudice. If you are in a marriage then you maybe more predisposed to actually understand more about his crossdressing and eventually accept.
I totally get the deceit part. But I have been told things that I cannot share with anyone because of the hurt and pain it will cause. Am I wrong to keep the secret? Should I tell my wife knowing how it will affect her? If I do them I break the trust of someone else. We all face these dilemmas.
Katie x
@Davina it was just an opinion based on Alina’s comment and based on how I felt at the time. I felt I needed to up my game to keep my husband but when you first find out there is not an awful lot of logic in your thought process. On reflection at least I did not have to compete with another women or man as I would have lost.
Hi to all the new girls lovely to read your introductions.
On the topic of telling wives, I found him dressed and it was a massive shock.
I eventually accepted this side to him but many don't so if you are keeping it your secret then you'd better assure you remove trace of makeup and the tell may be varnish on the nails and i'd say your eye makeup you may give yourslef panda eyes not removing your mascara or try too hard and give yourself a black eye lol.
I get why wives think of it as a betrayal as we married men so to find he's been crossdressing behind our backs is a big thing.
Its personal choice but i'd say some of your wives will have an idea or may know but have parked it at the back of their minds.
Anyway welcome to the forum I'm one of the wives here and if i can help i will.
Emma (Wife)
The Boy in the Dress?
I had to do The Triple Echo for o level English centuries ago, by HE Bates. It’s very sensitively done, a guy has deserted from the army and disguised himself as a woman, you’ve probably read it? Again, I read it and immediately thought about the author, here’s another one!
It’s very refreshing and comforting to read so many similar experiences on here in a safe and accepting arena. Thanks Davina for having the balls to start it up (pardon the expression). My first inclinations started around 7 or 8 I guess. I particularly remember watching Carry on Films where one of the guys would be crudely made up and dressed and, although it was obviously for comic effect, I found the notion intoxicating and arresting. Cue then the common scenes - pinching family clothes, buying some stuff, throwing away some stuff, buying more stuff and on it goes. Then you hit middle age and find it refuses to go away. Grayson Perry cannily observed, the sweet spot is probably your 40’s cos you probably have some cash and time and you still have youthful looks but these inevitably fade. Maybe I’ll be in a home one day, the nurses will warn each other ‘don’t let Liz in room 24 borrow your blouse, even if he begs!’. Well now I’ve cheered us all up. x
Having read so many stories I think that I could probably draw up a template for the typical crossdressers pathway. I don't think any of us would drift too far off the script. It all seems so familiar. Funny thing is from my experience those who are late to crossdressing are often the ones who transition. Maybe just me making assumptions but I think that crossdressing for us is more out of curiosity whereas those entering later in life it is about being themselves.
I once chatted to a trans woman who could not understand why men would want to crossdress.
Katie x
As a fellow newbie to the site welcome Alina.
We have a little in common, as I suspect you will find with many here. We all think we are alone on this journey but I think there are a lot of shared experiences.
I too was mortified to be found in tights one morning - I had fallen asleep - and my mother was too perceptive or too polite and just accepted my "I was curious explanation".
Similarly Transformation (both Birmingham and Euston) was the source of some of my earlier experimenting; I used to look in whenever work took me to those cities, though in those days it would frequently take me several "walk pasts" before I plucked up the courage to head for the entrance. It was impossible then not to wrongly believe everyone was watching lol. Looking back they were way over priced but they did cater to the shy so I suppose they filled a niche. Somewhere I have a polaroid of my first makeover at Birmingham, a big Farrah style wig and so very of its time but one I am proud of.
Like you, I've had long long periods of denial and several times thrown away loads of clothes and I have heard that many times. We think we can put it behind us but in my limited experience we can't. So for what it's worth you may want to think before the "second great purge".
Finally - and I hope this is not coming across as too preacher-like - I will repeat the best piece of advice I ever read with regard to wives. Simply someone once wrote "she will find out at some point anyway, so best she does on your terms and not by accident!". It took me about 10 years to act on that advice but I have never regretted it. Sadly I do know some marriages that did not survive disclosure so I suppose one has to understand ones own situation too. Classic bit of Stephanie fence-sitting there lol
Thank you for the welcome to this lovely site.
Thought I should say a bit more about myself. It’s not especially interesting, but - if nothing else- setting it out like this is some help in trying to rationalise things in my own mind – so excuse the self-indulgence.
I’ve read very few profiles where the cross dressing instinct has kicked in beyond the growing-up years – and so it was for me. I remember at the age of perhaps 12 being mortified when my mother asked me about one of her skirts and a pair of my sister’s panties that she’d found lying on her bed. I denied all knowledge and it was never mentioned again. She probably just put it down to inquisitiveness.
Dressing was an on and off thing after that. I can’t remember being interested in my Uni years, for instance. Then in my early 30s things really kicked off. My wife was working abroad, leaving me with abundant time on my hands and, by this stage, a decent amount of disposable income. Not sure what sparked it, but on the train home from a meeting in Manchester one afternoon, I decided to take the plunge and visit the Transformation shop next to Euston station. I remember spending nearly £300 there - a wig, false boobs and other bits and pieces. For the first time I was able to dress fully, and was so pleased with the result that I decided to venture out.
This all culminated in me getting way ahead of myself and taking a train, dressed, down to Gatwick airport to do some shopping. (I must have been mad, looking back in hindsight). I ended up being called out and laughed at. I arrived home mortified and the very next day I left my desk at work, drove home, and transported two full bin liners to the nearest dump.
That was 1996. Kids arrived and grew up. It was all behind me. Then in 2017 whilst I was idly browsing the net I came across the tvchix page. In what felt like unfinished business I decided to book myself in for a makeover. I had always wondered how I might have looked with a professional makeover. Fearing the worst, and imagining that this might finally lay my curiosity to rest, I made my excuses (away football match I think) and spent a few hours with Sisterhyde in Kent.
Trouble is, it wasn’t the closure I was seeking. On the contrary; since then I’ve had maybe 6 or 7 makeovers, been out dressed in Brighton and Manchester, and spent maybe £1k on ‘things’.
So, to get to the point, I’ve hidden all of this from my wife. I rationalise this on the basis that it is a bit of ‘me-time’, an enjoyable distraction from everyday life, and nobody comes to harm as a result. (Please let me emphasise here that I have never sought or been interested in ‘encounters’ with others). Who knows, maybe she has her own secrets, or at least a part of her life that doesn’t have to be part of everything else that is always shared between us.
So, if it is as harmless as I claim, why not just tell her?.
Truth is, I don’t want her to know. There is a risk that it damages our marriage (I’ve read of cases where that has happened), and the dressing just isn’t important enough to me to take that risk. Conversely, she might be fine with it. (During a drunken conversation a few months back I mentioned that I might have an interest. Her response was that I was not to tell our son, and not to borrow any of her clothes! It hasn’t been mentioned since). Even that doesn’t look like a good outcome to me. Why should she be fine with me having a side to me which I’ve never been honest about?. Then there’s the chance she suspects already. (I do pluck my eyebrows and like to keep myself smoother than may be normal for a lot of men).
So, there we are – totally inconclusive!
To be honest, as I get older, the hassle of it all seems like a disincentive in itself. I often think its time for the Second Great Purge.
Then, I remember how enjoyable it can be……
Sorry for the length of this and thanks for letting me unburden lol. And for any partners that just think I’m just a bit of a selfish liar, please don’t be too hard on me…….
That inner peace and gentler side is something we find hard to express as men and probably don't take kind to someone interpreting that as so you mean youre some sort of sissy? No not what we mean I suppose its more akin to relaxing and as Katie on here says drop the Armour we wear as men and how we wish others to perceive us as men. Just happens for us to drop the facade for some reason we like to dress as women. Nice to have you here and great you also have an accepting wife. Getting your head round why you cross dress works wonders and if we get our wives to understand too its a major bonus. Davina
I'm new here today, having "met" Davina elsewhere, though dressing on and off for decades.
I suppose each of us has our own story about how we got here and why we got here and for many of us I think we never quite understand the feelings.
Personally I think it gives me an inner peace, it speaks to the gentler side of me and I will settle for that. Having been thru many periods of denial and quite a few purges of wardrobe since I was in teens - don't ask lol - this is probably the longest period of self acceptance I have been thru, some 10+ years now.
More as it occurs .........
Hi @Katie Definitely finding it very useful, hearing everyone's stories is so inspiring and sometimes expert advisd comes from the heart. Look forward to sharing more with everyone and hopefully being able to give advice from my experience. Sam
Thanks for the warm welcome guys and girls. I’ve already read loads of posts on here, still plenty to go. It’s always reassuring that you’re not alone. It seems like an ideal place to open up and be honest, and although I’m not entirely sure what eventual outcome I’m looking for is? It’s very interesting reading wives and partner views as I’m guessing this is mainly the basis of my afterwards guilt(betrayal for my partners trust and my lack of masculinity). I look forward to future reading.
Hello. My name is Clarissa (the name was given to me by the first person to see me dressed). I’m here to try and understand more about what I do and why, as I sure can’t work it out for myself.
17 new members in the last week is a record and nice to see the introductions and jumping straight in commenting on the forum posts and of course nice to see the regulars continue to chip in
davina
Welcome to the Forum Sam and thanks for reading and then signing up. How has your Fiancee taken your revelation and has she been reading here too?
Hi to all the new girls and ladies
I'm Hannah another wife here.
Nice to read some really nice introductions and read of some accepting wives and read another wife may join us here 😁
Welcome to our crossdressing community
Hannah (Wife)
Welcome Lena that's a great introduction and an amazing story. Being open and honest is the best way but you have to have your fingers crossed they take it the right way and you have to tell them the right way and be ready to explain. Don't apologise for your sucess there are tgirls here dying to twll their wives and I'm sure they're applauding your approach and success. You've got your head round this crossdressing lark and look forward to your wife filling in the blanks as the forum has a great balance of t girl and wives and girlfriends thoughts and stories and questions / answers. You also answered a question we had here about children knowing which I thinks a bigger gamble than telling your wife. Welcome to the Forum thanks for joining. Davina
Hi, I'd like to introduce myself. I'm a very happily married man and father of 3 grown up children. All aspects of my life that that of a red-blooded, hetro-sexual male, apart from one: I love to dress in womens clothes and to release my feminine side. Yes, my wife and children know. My children are from a previous marriage where my wife was very supportive and we went out together quite often as "girlfriends", meaning that my children got to see their dad wearing dresses from their "day 1". It hasn't harmed then in any way, they've all settled into their own homes with their partners and are very happy. They sometimes take the mickey out of me, but haven't seen me "en femme" for several years. My ex-wife and I parted company while I was working away from home and she was playing away! It had nothing to do with my crossdressing and we're still friends and have the odd girlie lunch or drink now and again.
I've since re-married, having thought that I would never marry again after the pain of the breakup and the improbability of meeting another understanding woman. However, I met the most amazing woman that pretty-well fell in love with at first sight. I dated her for a while, but felt guilty. How could I hide my secret from her? I decided to tell her one evening when we came back to mine "for coffee"! I literally sat her down and blurted out the fat that I crossdress. She didn't believe me, so I fetched a couple of dresses from my wardrobe and showed her. She burst into tears, closely followed by me. I explained what I do and why I do it. I told her that I wasn't gay or bi, not did I want any surgery. It's something that has always been part of me from my very earliest memories. She left and I though it was all over. Two weeks later, on Valentines Day, I got a phone call and we went to the cinema. You won't believe it, but the film we saw was Mrs Doubtfire! I was trying to hold it together through the film as it applied in so many ways to me, but I failed and had tears silently running down my face. Very macho! To cut a long story short, we went for a drink afterwards and she said that maybe we could work something out, where I "dress up" when she's not around.
That was many years ago and we're still together and having fun. My wife says that she will join the Forum too, so I'll let her fill in any blanks and give an account of those difficult days, as there are two sides to every story.
Mu point really, is that honesty and trust are both paramount in any relationship. I took a huge leap with someone that had very strong feelings for as I couldn't face the thought of living a lie. Even if I hadn't got that phone call two weeks later, at least I would still be able to enjoy my feminine side without feeling guilty.
Reading this back, it sounds a bit as though I'm preaching, or worse. That's not my intention. I completely understand that for many of us, telling our partners simply isn't an option and I honestly feel for you. All I'm trying to do is to tell you a little about my story and hope that any of you that think that there's a slightest chance of telling your partner, try to find a way of rising the subject (watch Ru Paul or Glow Up together) and test the water!
Hi Welcome to the site I'm one of the wifes here Emma.
Whats your story hon?
Hi. I'm Alina on tvchix. Liz Tarragon (I've never met her in person, but she feels like a bestie) pointed me in this direction. Hope it's ok that I've dropped in. Alina x
Hi all and especially to my femme namesake
I only discovered this site after chatting with Davina in the chat room earlier today the First time we’ve ever talked together ( bizarre given I’ve been on that site since 07 and she 06,!)
I first dressed in my teens in my pals sisters undies : she was fit as!!!! that was followed by dressing in undies/tights of wife of a couple I babysat for. Once I started dating it waned but was rekindled when I married and had access to lingerie: probably because it was the only way to experience the sensation as my wife rarely wore anything I bought her. We did have parenthood thrust upon us early in our marriage and both in early 20s so maybe this impacted on us in ways I didn’t realise at the time.
Anyway this is my initial foray onto this forum and I look forward to participating more extensively as time and opportunity allows and getting to know everyone as a result.
Who knows where this will take me and my wife if I can ever get her involved, for all the usual reasons (plus a significant event more of which later) but my ultimate desire is for us to have some joint femme time together.
Davina
Hi to new members please come say hi tell us your story and let us see if we can help
Hannah (Wife)
Hi Caroline welcome to the Forum.. Have a read of the posts add your own thoughts and post away its non judgemental here very open and friendly. Wives GFs and Tgirls alike combining to lend advice
Welcome to the best forum in town lol
Nothing but help and support here very friendly
No smut well some sometimes lol
Emma (wife)
Helloooo - Thanks for signposting Davina. Happy to have found another happy place ! xx
Hi all, thanks for allowing me to join, I have been cross-dressing off and on for over fifty years. Been married and divorce twice because of it. Once it gets into your systems it never leaves. It can be lonely at times but I have accepted this part of myself and she will never leave.
Hi Emma
I am the wife of a transvestite. Am ok with it so far well most of it. I still have my reservations on some aspects which worry me but I am sure most of us do.
love Karen
Hi. Just joined today. Happy to talk to anyone x
Hi from me i'm Hannah another wife and i've come a long way not just in accepting crossdressing but also our sexuality so please say hi plenty of help here
Hi to the new members on this hot sunny day
You just have .. Welcome to the Forum.
I think we need the new members to say hi as its only a few of us contributing. Don't be shy say hi and a little about yourself and where you are in all this.
Hannah (wife)
As Em says new member a don't be shy all friends here introduce yourselves xx
Hannah (wife)
Don't be shy.. Any new wives or girlfriends joined?
Emma (wife)
Hi to the new members come and say hi to introduce yourselves 🤗
Sorry Davina, never have much to post unfortunately
Hello to the new members i've just noticed... Sorry I've not been on for a while ... please say hello
and some of the older members can i have proof of life from you lol gone very quiet
Davina