What do i mean when i say i want to go out?
A few things maybe.. not really sure..
Initially I've crossdressed behind closed doors and curtains since i was very young and in my 40's now with a wife ok with me dressing so I am fortunate not to have to hide this from her but still have to keep it from the kids I'm a little bored i suppose dressing at home or in a hotel room behind the closed doors and curtains mainly when working from home or working in the hotel room .. girls night in with my wife are nice and hope to do this more often in the future.. (hint hint Esme)
I suppose I just would like to go out and be out as Davina not where I may be seen even as it's not for exhibitionism for people to see me as I'd be satisfied just going somewhere quiet for a walk.
Its just a bucket list thing i suppose to go out somewhere / anywhere as "Davina" to experience it and see where it goes from there? My wife will fear if we do it it will become something I want to do more and more but this isn't feasible with our family life or something i fear will take over.
Interested to read others thoughts on this especially those who have ventured out.
Why did you want to go out?
HOw did you do it?
Does your wife know?
Wifes who have been out how do you feel?
Do I want to go to a gay club or trans friendly event.. (away from home) .. BNO (Pink Punters) in Milton Keynes I've heard of and Sparkle in Manchester ... I'm not sure although a Trans event would be easiest but do i want to do this out with my wife and hundreds of other t girls?
Would I try Miss Cs in South Wales as suggested which sounds like a nice friendly safe social meeting place run by two women .. I suspect Esme would fear me bumping into someone we know and the secret being out that I dress ie too close to home?
Blackpool (Somewhere we've never visited) Scarlets hotel has been mentioned in here a trans friendly hotel with trans venues near by again sounds easy but have to get there without the kids so need an excuse and Esme would have to be happy with this.. Sounds easy. and sounds friendly.
Would we be ok going out as girls in London when we're there later in the year having to fool the general public that I'm a woman. It certainly sounds exciting and its in the balance as I don't want to do something my wife's not ok with even if shes doing it for me.
Do i pack the jeggings and boots and pop out when away with work taking away the risk of someone recognising my wife lol go for a walk am I brave enough to do this .. would be whilst nights are dark and negotiating past reception.
Its an awkward one maybe if i do go out it should start as something isolated with little chance of anyone seeing me (other than in the pitch black of the back garden) but not too local and would prefer to be with my wife or i scrap it all and remain a stay indoors tgirl .. at a crossroads
Hard to explain why i want to go out just something I'd like to try i suppose.
Over to you lot to discuss.. I'm sure this will spark some chat between my wife and I about this
Davina
like Annekas posts too
“Try it dont try it but have no regrets” - I know I know I know I know lol
“You know i took him out in the car and took him to a shopping centre after hours and guess what we survived and he enjoyed it and was satisfied by it hes been out so its ticked one of his bucket lists” - You took him by the balls and did it Esme not as brash Emma lol I don’t mean that in a bad way by the way.
“Just go for it somewhere quiet” - Maybe but the where is the thing as Esme quite specific no where locally.
I have to and always have thought of Esme and her feelings and sometimes I’d like her to be less guarded about her feelings around me dressing as nothing she can say can upset me as I’m thankful for her acceptance but we’re idiots and we constantly worry about how we’re affecting our wives leading to Esme telling me I think too much or just don’t be silly.
Yes Blackpool does sound ok just logistically hard to achieve (will check out trip advisor didnt expect it to be there)
Yep Rebecca Only I can answer this and weighing it up might not end up going out just remain where I am on the Trans spectrum with the level of Esme’s acceptance.
It’s just that wonderment how it might be to go out lol.
I don’t want Esme to do something she deep down doesn’t really want to do.
No there’s no rush in this
Be nice to hear from other Tgirls who want to go out why we want to do it and some who have been out.
Only you can answer this Davina are you moving along that trans spectrum or staying in?
It seems Esme isnt really into it but doing it for you and you say you dont want her to do something for you if shes not into it and she has other fears of you being out so at a crossroads of decisions
I'd love to read Esmes thoughts maybe better to write than say with time to think about it
Maybe put it off theres no rush is there?
I like Annekas posts x
Try it dont try it but have no regrets
You know i took him out in the car and took him to a shopping centre after hours and guess what we survived and he enjoyed it and was satisfied by it hes been out so its ticked one of his bucket lists
Just go for it somewhere quiet so nice Davina you think of Esme and her feelings it is a big step and the risk of being caught by someone you know so just dont go too near home
I dont know if we'd do a club or anything like that Blackpool sounds ok ive read Trip Advisor reviews
Emma (Wife)
Haha love it Anneka.
I know its the shall I shant I crossroads questioning myself why I want to go outside dressed but most important is Esme needs to be ok with this and Katie yep We Only Live Once
Why would anyone want to get dressed up in *anything* to stay in??
Top hat and tails on? Time to go out.
*Dungarees clipped up? Time to go out.
Astronaut suit on? Time to go out!
Here's a monkey wrench aimed squarely at the big cogs: since going out (semi frequently) I have noticed that my dressing at home has dropped off a lot. [Context disclosure: I live with others, and am in the closet to them, so can only sling on the clothes, and have to skip makeup]
When I know that I can go out at a defined point in the future - eg: next Saturday, perhaps 10 - 14 days away - I have noticed in myself that I'm content with knowing that it's coming, and accept that I can wait to go the whole way, rather than be frustrated or disappointed by not being able to do makeup. The exception is that on some days I like to wear an item or two, (tights and/or skinny jeans and/or heels) at home just to feel feminine.
Where's my reasoning headed? I don't remember. Just that, it's normal for people to want to go out when they've made an effort.
*Just spotted this. Dungarees isn't any effort, so it's the odd one out! :)
Davina, over the last couple of years, i have been out on a Wdnesday night in London and Manchester en femme. They have been good social evening with fellow tgirls. One thing i would say, is that in some ways it's like going out with the boys for a couple of pints. The difference being, that instead of wearing your jeans and rugby jersey, you are fully decked out in your best frock and heels.
I must add that the last time i went out in London, i found myself totally over dressed, dress and heels is not your usual attire for a Wednesday night in Soho. Next time i go, it will be jeggings and loafers!!
"Nobody puts Baby in the corner"
I guess that sometimes life is too short. Don't live to regret something when you had the opportunity. Whilst your still young and can pass why not?
I watched one of Juliette's vidoes where she mentioned about going out. She said that even though she goes out on her own her wife can join her at anytime. That way she knows that shes not going to get up to any mischief.