A few weeks back I joined an open free UK Chat Group with chatrooms including, general chat, 20's, 30's 40-50's, LGBT etc etc
I joined as "Davina" with the same profile photo as I have here and I left my sex as ? as the only option was Male / Female or no answer..
I've chatted in the LGBT room with the (T) I suppose covering me to see what the chat was about and found it's more of a solidatiry minority room.. I've been in the general chat room and the 20s. 30s and 40-50s room.
My findings
In every room on a few occasions I got comments from men of "What is that a man or a woman? "Can someone tell me what it is?" and "OMG theres a freak in the room".. I gave a smart witty reply to these comments belittling them and making them look stupid and lo and behold got a lot of "Lols" and support and in some instanced a moerator threw people out of the room.,
In every room I've chatted in I've had provate messages ranging from "I crossdress too" or "I've tried crossdressing" to "I crossdress I'd love my wife to be ok with it".. This sparked a bit of chat and some I've pointed at the forum as a place of support or to vent.
In every room I've had loads of positive chats and support from men and women saying good for you and crossdressing does no harm etc.. I still came across some women who said my pic looked good and got into a chat with some concluding it's fab i dress as a woman but they wouldn't want their husband dressing up..
I also had a lot of private messages no matter what room i was in from men asking me if I'd meet them for sex, or if I'd have cyber sex with them and most of these men married and claimed to be straight (Flattering comments on my profile photo good for the ego) but they state they're not bi apart from some men in the LGBT room who say it's the best of both worlds.
I actually only had one woman ask me about my sexuality and saying she'd take me to bed looking at the profile pic lol.
My social experiment conclusion is there is a wide acceptance or a who cares attitude to crossdressing. Many said good on me for going out in public and many said Esme was very understanding and I'm very lucky.. Some said i was brave for telling my wife risking her leaving me for crossdressing.
A small percentage thought it fun to try to mock me .. i say try as I made each and evey one regret that lol the alpha male in me and a small percentage wanted to get off on my profile pic or plain expected me to be into men just because i dress as a woman.. some it did not compute that I was married and straight.. but you dress as a woman.. some people dress as chewbacca what does that equate to?? they like Star Wars.. ah I dress as a woman and guess what I like women lol.
It's been good to chat to people who have never chatted to or come across crossdressing and explaining to them the simplicity of "why men crossdress" the multitude of reasons we do it and people have genuinely been interested which was cool.
So there we have it a social experiment in the muggle chat world,
Davina
May chat to you there some time I'll change my name to Davina Legs so you can find me the one i chat in is UK Chat too lol maybe been in the same chat room though not been in there in a while
What chat is it i sometimes if bored chat in UK Chat i think thats what its called thats all i put into google and im Emwife there
I've looked in the LGBT room there always very quiet and ive chatted in 40s and 50s room what are you on there Davinalegs?
I've discussed crossdressing too and it doesnt seem to be a big deal in 2019.
Emma (Wife)
its funny Rebecca and welcome back by the way not seen you here for a while hope everythings ok with you
I've chatted in the uk chat room in the LGBT and seen some hositlity which was weird but also guys trying to hit on me as a T-girl less hostility in the "straight" regular of non LGBT rooms the odd idiot calling me "it" but even in the 30s or 40s chat rooms and even the 50s chat rooms a guy will private message me asking if i meet and most say they're straight which would have Sindy laughing her boobs off at if she was still here as no its not straight to fool about with a t girl ... Ive asked guys why they try to chat up t girls and theyve all said we make more of an effort than most women to look nice (we have to we're men and need makeup etc to look fem), we know what men like therefore can deliver sexually.. um if youre that way inclined i guess it makes sense and the last common thing is we dress how men like.. lingerie (matching), stockings and high heels etc
It's interesting chatting in regular chat rooms labelled as Trans or unspecified,
Davina
I've chatted in UK cartoons and US chat rooms and the feeling is so what but also as long as it's not my husband
ooo a good experiment chatting to muggles lol seems youve stuck up for trans folk and yourself and educated a few well done Davina
HAnnah (Wife)
"knuckle draggers" lol, yes ive yet to have that pleasure, though I'm pretty sure there are one or two where I work.
Yes I set out for it to be an experiment to see how people reacted to a T-Girl in a muggle chat room.
"I wouldn't want MY husband to crossdress", yep heard that many times Esme would probably say the same thing but shes stuck with me lol.
Yes i did get a bit of flak but no match for my witt and intelligence obvs knuckle draggers and most probably looked the the profile pic thought i was a woman fancied me then worked out i was a guy and in denial of their lust for me got abusive lol tricker by a blonde with red lips and fake boobs haha.
It was interesting to see some thank me for discussing crossdressing with them and some who had no clue about crossdressing now know a bit more about it.
Yes i got described as IT a few times but that was to be expected from the knuckle draggers.
That's a very interesting read, did you set out for it to be an experiment or did it just tend to happen that way?
The biggest thing i took from that was, "I wouldn't want MY husband to crossdress", I've heard this so many times on my travels around the internet, but yet they are ok with men other than their husbands doing it!
Sounds like you came in for a bit of flak, well done for standing up to them and trying to educate, do you think you managed to change some attitudes? I hope so.
I noticed how they described you as well, " what is 'IT'? whats an 'IT'? they dont understand at all do they?