Esme out with the girls tonight looking nice.. so yeah I'm jealous as would love to be out tonight.. I'd fit in well with them as Davina lol

Six Reasons Why Men Become Jealous, Even If They Are Not Your Husband

Lets see how close this guy is.. I've not read it editing as i go along but thought id do a google search why are men jealous of Women?

Being married has nothing to do with jealousy. Jealousy is a tricky emotion and it can caste its shadow on any relationship. Tricky because the reasons for jealousy for us men can range from being the pettiest to the most powerful. More often than not, men become jealous of women even if they are not married to them.

I'm unsure at the first sentence where he's coming from I'm pretty balanced and in favour of everyone's rights.. women fought for their rights as did LGBTQ community us men haven't had as much of a fight for rights as our female friends.. I'm rambling go on guy tell me why we're jealous?

From a casual hug to a harmless smile, a friendly touch to an innocent exchange of pleasantries, to more serious issues like a brighter career and a coveted social status – any of these can turn men into green-eyed monsters.

Part of this trait arises out of the fact that men are considered to be more competitive, territorial and protective by nature. Why do guys get jealous when you are not dating them? You can say, “He gets jealous but he is not my boyfriend.” This happens because a number of reasons. He could be harbouring feelings for you but doesn’t know himself .

You could be his childhood pal but you are getting a fatter paycheck.

He could just hate it the way you make heads turn when you walk into a party. “He gets jealous when other guys are looking at me,” said Erica Lang, a communications professional. “We are college friends and we date different people but he is so possessive when I am out with him. He hates it if other guys look at me.”

Sounds a bit stalky to me i'm not jealous if i clock some guy looking Esme up and down none of that applies to me with other female friends..

Six Reasons Why Men Become Jealous Does it happen that he gets jealous but doesn’t want a relationship? And you are left totally confused by his behaviour? Men are completely capable of this because most often they don’t know how to handle jealousy in a relationship.

1. When men fall in love they become jealous

Ironically, love is the most common cause of jealousy for men.

Most men have a hard time accepting their potential partner’s interest in others and their interactions with them.

I've no problem with my wife talking to or even flirting with someone else, even saw her one night in bed clocking good looking men on instagram and no problem with that either.. not told her that but she will know if she reads this lol.

The envy here springs out of two reasons: the fear of losing the woman they love to someone else, owner’s instinct.

This jealousy comes from love and it can be kind of sweet and healthy.

Quality time together is important especially if you've had children as your life can become "kids first" and that's right but you need time together.. we're not one of these couples who has boys nights out and girls nights out (Esme does occasionally and if she gets attention from blokes i'm not jealous) I'd far prefer it to go out as a couple with other couples..

I've been in a pub where a guy offered to buy my wife a drink and shes seen women swoon at me which we've found amusing. You just need to keep it in check i'm not jealous of some guy fancies my wife or if she flirts back.

Men are usually protective and possessive and even if you have not yet committed to a man, he could get jealous with all the stares you get when you walk into a room looking stunning in your red outfit.

Why would men be jealous if a woman theyre not dating or married to gets some attention?

2. Jealousy stems from insecurity

Men often want their women to be for themselves and don’t want to share their partners with anyone, even family and friends.

Ok i recognise this not as jealousy but as above girls nights out and boys nights out - I like a couples night out and with Esme out this coming Friday i'll have worked all week and will want to unwind myself but left in looking after the kids whilst shes out like her friends husbands.. It would be nicer if we were all out together.

I have been out with Esme and the girls in the past no other husband and that's where i told them all I was a crossdresser not that they believed me but played along.. lol What do they talk about on a girls night out .. probably moan about us lol

Such a man believes that his woman’s association with others may lead her to turn against him, so he keeps tabs on her contact with others, especially her interactions with other men.

Ridiculous isn't it work colleagues and friends etc where would this stop you need trust in a relationship. I saw on the news today a young girl in a jealous and abusive relationship kidnapped by her ex bf the story showing how he wanted to know her every move.

This way, he maintains the power to place conditions on where and when she socialises with others.

Thats pretty bad isnt it i mean i moan when she goes out somewhere without me as maybe id like to go out too or im stuck in .. but not to stop her socialising with others

Once he achieves such control, he no longer has to worry about her leaving him or being taken by other men. This takes care of his insecurity.. 3. He suffers from self-doubt

Anxiety and fear create self-doubt.

If a man feels vulnerable within the relationship, he begins to act in an accusatory manner in order to insulate himself from any possibility of being hurt.

Not the self doubt i was thinking of.. I was thinking more body conscious we hit a certain age and we lose the hairline and put on weight harder to maintain the Adonis like physique but again that's life we signed up to it in sickness and in health all we can do is try our best to look good and remain fit for ourselves and one another and sure our heads will get turned by attractive people but its ok to look? as long as you don't touch? or gawp.. lol - ie Esme looking at blokes on instagram also guilty of seeing women on instagram myself by the way and then i get a little jealous not with self doubt but what they're wearing and how amazing their makeup is..

When a man senses that he might become powerless in a relationship, he confronts his woman with myriad accusations. He even gets jealous but doesn’t want an exclusive relationship.

The jealousy that he exhibits can often be a projection of his own apprehension in trusting the relationship. Men who exhibit jealous behaviour charge women with baseless allegations of attracting other men and giving attention to other males. This behaviour generally stems from self-doubt. 4. He has low self-esteem

Why do guys get jealous even when you are not dating them?

If a man cannot accept himself for who he is, it becomes difficult to understand why anybody else would.

Low self esteem can hit us for all kinds of reasons. As above body image not being as fit and Adonis like as you'd like can affect your self esteem as can stress.

Hence, men with low self-esteem often cannot understand why their women would choose to be with them, because they don’t think of themselves as deserving of love.

This is usually called punching above their weight lol and sometimes can be where one half of the couple is doing their best to remain young fit and healthy and the other is content to let themselves go and then maybe jealousy comes in if the one making the effort gets attention from the opposite sex or even the same sex in this modern world lol.

Men with low self-esteem become more jealous Eventually, this creates a conspiracy in the mind of the jealous man, who starts to believe that his woman is plotting to leave him because he does not think he deserves her. In such a scenario, no matter what the woman does, it is seen as an act of betrayal and reinforces the belief that she wants to leave him for someone else, who is better than him.

In both self doubt and lack of self esteem some of us Crossdress to escape how we feel or how we feel we look as men. I've come across this in chatting to others who hate themselves as men but revel in being a tgirl. I think i look better as Davina myself.

5. He needs validation from others

Self-esteem, when unchecked, allows jealousy to rise from the need for acceptance from others because there is no acceptance from one’s own self. Craving constant reassurance from his partner that she accepts, loves and is there for him, this man thinks that if the constant reinforcement dries up, then his woman no longer loves him and thus must be thinking about leaving him.

"Craving constant reassurance from his partner that she accepts, loves and is there for him" - Brought to me how we behave as Crossdressers constantly seeking to assure our wives and GFs that it's crossdressing its not cannibalism wanting to assure our wives and seeking assurance and validation that it's ok that we crossdress from them.

Over a period of time, this proves to be quite draining for a woman’s emotions and this is often the reason why constant jealousy drives his woman away. He needs to control his jealousy if he wants the lady he loves.

6. Her successful career irks him

Last, but as the cliché goes, not the least, a successful career often ends up destroying a woman’s personal, as well as professional life. Her promotion can irk her man more than anything else in the world.

Nonsense I would love Esme to earn more money than me or have a more responsible career than me makes no difference really.

If a woman is successful at work, men often start believing that she must have slept with the boss.

Now that is am image as Esmes boss is Female...

This suspicion isn’t just limited to the man in that woman’s life, but also her jealous male as well as female colleagues.

As I expected nothing in here about us being jealous as a woman gets to present how she wants, as a woman or as a man with or without makeup, hair up hair down, flats (yuck) or heels, trousers or skirt / dress.. tights.. stockings and lingerie mmmm

Thats probably the only thing that makes me jealous about Esme and other women not flirting or men finding her attractive but how women can present whenever they want.

I'm guessing the guy who wrote the blog article had never tried Crossdressing 🤣

Davina

Rachel has to plan things to the enth degree

Pre-lockdown, gosh do I really remember that for now, one of my pet hates was going out to a fancy dinner or something with the wife and seeing all the posh frocks and knowing I’d rather be in them. The frocks, not the ladies!

I have to agree I am jealous a lot seeing women dressed and made up to the nines. I would love it if we could dress up and have makeup on whenever we liked.

I NEED a pair of black knee high boots. It's a great look at this time of year but I still can't bring myself to invest in a pair of tights. I was watching 'The Gentlemen' on Netflix last night and there was a scene with Michelle Dockery wearing a black mini skirt, black tights and black boots. Probably right up your street Davina 😁

Nice walk today with Esme around Cardiff bay thinking if I'd put on jeggins, boots coat and hat and scarf would I have gotten away with walking as Davina lol.. In disguise .. Lo and behold we bumped into friends so you never know when you might get caught out.. Again lots of women dressed nice.. Black tights and boots and nice makeup out for a walk a coffee or a meal.. Wednesday I'm definitely dressing.