By: Sindy
Subject: Article
http://www.sisterhouse.net/library/wp-content/uploads/sites/5/2014/12/The-Dark-Side-of-Crossdressing.pdf
I meant to post this a while back, after Davina linked the excellent YouTube videos. It's an article on the darker side of crossdressing, but really it just addresses the truth of how it begins for many, if not most, men, and how this truth is especially helpful for those trying to understand all this. It also mentions how the propaganda of much of the community deliberately ignores this truth so as to distance itself from the sex side etc.
Anyway, have a read and wives, too. It will help you see how your husband found himself as a crossdresser and how blaming him is like blaming a small child for liking ice cream. This is pretty much the path my husband followed, though I know others won't relate, it would be therapeutic to look back with blunt honesty and maybe you'll see you relate more than you like to admit. For me, this truth sure seems more likely than millions of men being born with girly brains lol.
By: Sindy
Subject: Re: Re: Re: Sisterhouse.net
Davina, you crack me up, lol.
And Katie, it does sound as though your wife has put it in the box and is moving life around it rather than opening it or contemplating something more serious as the article hinted. I'm sure you'll both be fine as you're clearly a considerate gentleman and she will know how lucky she is. As do you. :-)
And I agree about the 'authentic' comment. It's thrown around so much, isn't it. As soon as someone mentions anything identity related, whether it be career or sexuality or whatever, it's suddenly assumed that the person desires to fully identify as this and this is to be their whole self. Yet, as you rightly mentioned, none of us are fully authentic. Imagine that, an entire world of people living out every fantasy and whim and calling it their authentic life. Chaos would quickly take over lol. We all tow a line, and even men who desire more from their cross dressing must acknowledge they don't live in a bubble. We all affect those around us, and authenticity can only carry as far as it doesn't start hurting others, if that makes sense. That goes for ALL of us, not just those dealing with gender issues.
The young'uns will take all this in their stride. They'll look back at all our angst and think we were weird and a little nuts haha. That's a good thing. People might not be able to be fully authentic, but we should be allowed to experience as much of a real life as society allows. Men are very limited with personal expression at the moment, and that needs to change. x