Most cross dressers can't control the urge to cross dress. 

Davia - We have to control it when there’s not way we can crossdress.

They feel they need to dress up as the opposite sex. 

Often trying to control the urges only makes them worse. However there are some ways to fight the urge to cross dress.

Davina - This will be interesting.. Go for it

Realize that the urge to cross dress only gets worse if suppressed. 

Davina - very true it piles up the urges when we can’t dress and does get worse.

The scientific view is that urges to cross dress are caused by boys' suppression of feminine traits in the early years. 

Davina - Do these scientists realise some of us were crossdressing when we were in our early years?

Many scientists believe that this suppression leads to an explosion of sorts, causing the feminine side to overpower the masculine side of a cross dresser. 

Davina - Or maybe even young we fancied women, teachers, mums friend, friends mums etc and we explored what they were wearing, saw sex women in stockings and heels on tv and tried it on ourselves as a substitution for not being able to fully experience those things on other women even when young .. fantasising.

But coping with the urge to cross dress doesn't have to mean suppressing it altogether.

Understand that cross dressing isn't always appropriate. 

While the lifestyle is nothing to be ashamed of, chances are your daughter doesn't want her father coming to her wedding dressed as her mother. 

Think about where you're going and decide if it's appropriate to cross dress.

Davina - pretty obvious stuff ..

Wear women's underwear underneath your men's clothes. 

Davina - not something that does much for me I need to be all or nothing.

This way, you can appease your urge to cross dress without being in full drag.

Davina - may work for some? But doesnt work for me.

Accessorize with a fancy wallet or nice cuff links. 

Davina - seems an odd thing to suggest 

Cross dressing is usually about wanting to wear pretty things, so wear pretty manly items instead of a dress. 

Davina - Such as?

A new pair of shoes usually makes any cross dresser happy.

Davina - Yes a pair of Nike or Adidas, maybe brogues.. Another writer who hasnt a grasp of this as the new pair of shoes we’re thinking about are stilettos.

Talk to a counselor about your urges if you can't control them on your own. 

Davina - Costs money and may need explaining to your wife where you’re going and where the money went from your account.

You can also ask friends who cross dress how they deal with their urges.

Davina conclusion - I don’t think the writer gets the urge and offers little in the way of treating or subduing the urge to feminise and crossdress.