Davina - Another review of anoher article.. lets see how this one goes. I hope it explains to the readers all abut the urges we get to crossdress lets see..

One thing is sure about crossdressing.

It is really confusing about why we do it.

Furthermore, what others think about it can weigh heavily on us crossdressers, enough so that we try to repress it.

But can the urge to crossdress simply be put away?

Will the Urge to Crossdress Ever Go Away?

I have just finished reading a book about crossdressing. It is He or She, by Vicky Lee. Published in 2005, some considered it the Bible of crossdressing back then. I’m not sure I’d go that far, but it does have a lot of useful information.

Davina - Not a book I've heard of has anyone read it?

I’ve spent a lot of time reading about crossdressing, both on the Internet and in real books.

Davina - Same I've had a few books downloaded on my kindle and have chatted to thousands of T-Girls on line gauging the issue of why men crossdress.

I am not often jolted by what I read, but I did come across such a paragraph on page 18 of the book.

I found it so profound that I want to share it with you.

"You can try to hold these feelings down out of sight like holding a beach ball under water but in time you will tire or just plain give up and, like the beach ball, your transgender feelings will bob up to the surface"

Davina - This is a pretty good example

I have read many times, including on forums such as Crossdressers.com, where a person becomes frustrated with crossdressing and decides to cut it from her life.

What follows is a chorus of well-meaning folks who say not to throw away the clothes and makeup, because the need to crossdress never goes away. So is this true? Will it ever go away?

Davina - I've never purged but have chatted to enough tgirls who have purged, regretted it and had to restock as the feelings returned. I have got rid of a few dresses via a sort out and try on with Esme and her "Tarty" pile being the pile that's gone to a charity shop but one or two of the dresses i really liked and regret purging them. "Classy not Trashy" - Esmes motto for Davina.

Do I Want the Urge to Crossdress to Go Away?

My short answer is: No!

Davina - Wives may hope it goes away but we see this differently.. maybe not with 100% clarity on why we crossdress but with a clarity of it being pretty harmless, fun, escapism, stress releasing..And this also reveals that this is written by a T-Girl.

Sure, there are times that I second guess that answer.

Being caught by an unsuspecting family member was one such instance.

Despite the embarrassment, it didn’t stop me.

I love everything about crossdressing.

The shopping experience and slipping the clothes on are something I truly love.

Davina - I've not been shopping as Davina but have for Davina and typically if i decide I'm going to shop for Davina I don't find anything I like.. Also typical when with the wife and kids i see bargains I can't buy without the kids noticing.

I also love how it changes my mindset, making me a better person.

Davina - This is somthing hard to explain to a wife or a girlfriend. How crossdressing changes our mindsets... making us a better person? Esme says I'm nicer as Davina and i think this is a more laid back me, less brash and "arrogant" dropping the bloke and becoming more feminine if thats the right description. But yes hard to explain but it does change our mindset.. it somehow allows us to chill out when we're crossdresed more than we achieve as men.

It also reveals my true self to others and challenges my fears of what others think.

Davina - By true sleves I think it means we embrace a bit of femininity which we hide as men, which we're taught to hide from kids to teens.. this is what men do and how men behave.. thats how girls and women act and behave.

To me, opening myself to crossdressing has broadened my perspective on life, despite the societal difficulties it brings.

I still hold that beach ball under the water from time to time, but there’s nothing I’d like better than to let that ball pop out for all to see.

Davina - The beachballs been held down by me all year in 2023 .. the pandemic held a lot of us back from dressing with everyone at home.. wasted years. For all to see.. If only it was that simple.

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My ideal life would be to have my male persona on display when I want it and to have my female persona on display when I want it – without regard to what others think.

Davina - OMG that's the scenario i think we'd all want .. I've typed here many times I'd love to wake and think "how do i want to present today?" jeant and t shirt / stubble or clean shaven makeup heels and a dress.. If only we had that choice.. Does that mean thinking this way is gender fluid if so ok as I sometimes feel this way but I don't give the game away in anything slightly feminine as man me..

So no, I don’t want it to go away. I want to embrace it for what it is, and run with it when I am able to do so.

Do You Want the Urge to Crossdress to Go Away?

Of course, Sami isn’t going to tell you how you feel about the urge to crossdress, or whether you wish those feelings would just go away.

My doing that would be just as senseless as trying to convince you to change your favorite food.

That’s kinda just a part of you.

Davina - I like this writer speaking from experiance.. Not some thesis actually living it and has some thoughts very similar to mine so far.

Sure, you can convince yourself that you no longer want to taste whatever it is that you enjoy so much.

You can decide you’ll never enjoy the flavor or the texture of your favorite food again, and it will be hard to do.

You can do it with enough willpower, but do you really want to do that?

My question to you is why would you put yourself through that? Of all things, why not go ahead and enjoy your favorite? Perhaps some moderation is wise, but why completely deprive yourself of that tasty food?

Embracing Crossdressing

Likewise, we enjoy crossdressing a lot.

Davina - Again hard to explain but this is something we enjoy doing. maybe hard for a wife or GF to get that as they wear dresses and lingerie etc daily and it's just normal to them being able to wear whatever they like.. Maybe the taboo of it not being the norm has a slither on my pie chart.. I don't really think so and I can't really explain why I like it other than to outline the full pie chart the escapism, the feel of fabric, the look, how it makes me feel when I'm fully dressed or even in the process of transforming with makeup, slipping on stockings / tights heels.. It's just enjoyable.

Maybe we need to do that in moderation as well, but why try to drop it completely?

It is very difficult to suppress something that is such a core part of ourselves.

I would even argue it is something that is part of our core being.

Davina - Davina is just a name I use but Davina is part of my core being.

Instead of trying to decide whether to drop crossdressing completely from your life, perhaps it would be better to embrace it as the delicious part of your being, and then figure out how it is going to work with all the other parts of your life.

Davina conclusion - This is one of the better articles I've read on the urge and purge.. I hope to find more from this writer.