Is Crossdressing a Weakness?
In terms of "Me Man Me Big And Strong Me Bread Winner Me the Man of the House Ug" the cave men we're meant to be is it a weakness that we Crossdress?
Last weekend my daughter was doing a sponsored event a fitness task and at the end I urged her to sprint the last 50m but she remained within her comfort zone and maintained her pace..
Now Me "The Boy" or Me even now " The Man" would have a) Wanted to beat my first time (which she did) but b) Would have wanted to beat everyone else and smashed my time and put in a 100m sprint at the end of the run.. Am I too quick to state "Why didn't you Sprint at the end?"
Not meaning it to be critical just wanting her to push herself and push her boundaries as is a Dads duty to want her to be the best and do her best and achieve great things etc .. I wasn't dissapointed in her per say just that she stayed within a comfort zone instead of pushing herself particualry as it was in front of her coach who now had a view of her that "she sits in a comfort zone and wont push herself"
So I upset my daughter and Esme had a go at me... I'm giving Esme I was always a winner the fastest, the most determined blah blah blah and want my kids to be the same..
I'm giving it large here and then i reflect on it as i still want to urge my kids to be the best they can an push their own boundaries and be individuals etc and i suddenly think "Yeah you were great at sport, uber fit, 11 second flat 100m.. did well in eductaion and got a good job..... but you're a bloomin Crossdresser!!!!"
That's me thinking this myself If Esme had said it to me "have a look at yourself yes you may push yourself and where has it got you stressing yourself out and Crossdressing to combat it" Bang to rights!!
So is Crossdressing a weakness of mine? something I turn to to escape Stress? Self inflicted a lot of it with the will to be the best and deliver the best in work and to provide for my family etc.. Crossdressing being turned on doing it, relaxing dressed fully as a woman makeup wig fake tits and all and using it for some form of escapism?
Made me reflect and I know it will blow over and I'll dress again not like its a give it up then thing as it's something I do something I like doing but it did make me feel that i have a weakness and rely on being able to escape dressing up to cope.. I suppose when i was younger and doing it rarely just trying things on i was also playing a lot of sport and stress eeeked out in sport through aggression and effort put into exercise and for the last few years less sport more stress and the need to rid myself of stress with this pill free way of escaping from it in a bloomin dress high heels lingerie wig and lipstick ... mad when you think of it.
I do need to think more about the way i discuss "pushing themselves" with my daughters remembering they are girls not boys and there's hormones and a different approach and they're not me they're their own people which is good and in a way like me as i'm a leader not a follower and want them to be the same and have the same qualities.
I also reflect on our "shyness" discussions and I am glad neither of my kids are shy but they can openly dress as women being girls lol
Has anyone else thought of dressing as a weakness? Not sure why it popped into my head other than I'm talking about being strong etc and i dress up as a woman.
Davina
I am a control freak as a man and maybe less a control freak as Davina.
Esme holds all the cards when I'm dressed I guess I am more sub when dressed with her maybe thatsbwhat she says I'm nicer to her when I'm crossdressed?
You do make a good looking woman on Skype we need a chat soon. Jealous Hannah caught you live lol but staying in a hotel in drab what a wasted opportunity to dress.
So weakness or do you feel a little sub as Davina?
Are you a control freak as a man and feel less control as Davina?
Mine is more sub as a tgirl which I kinda a like.
Emma (wife)
Aww Thank you nice to be fancied haha Esme will read that at some point and say hands off she's mine 🤣
I do need to just work 35 hours anand no extra to get things done I'm a completer finisher hathate leaving things unfinished.
I do stress myself out more than the job does wanting to be the best at what I do in my niche corner of expertise in work.
I may be able to dress next week when away with work but lots of work colleagues so I'd have to decline an evening out with them and stay in my room lol.
Davina
Seems to me you want the best for your kids and want them to push themselves?
It's not a bad way of parenting s long as they enjoy sport and their school to push them out of their comfort zone as long as you know they're capable of taking it or capable of achieving more it can be a good attitude to have to want to win and be the best.
I played netball too into my late 30s and was competitive.
Davina you do look great as a woman very fancyable he's just told me lol and I have to agree.
But as youve be been told know your own limits stress is a killer you can't always strive to be the best even the best in sport aren't always top of their game and don't let work push you to or above your limits.
You know crossdressing helps it is not a weakness so just do it (Nike sports reference lol)
Hannah (wife)
Having chatted on Skype you do look very convincing Davina.
We will have to have another chat some time and Esme too maybe if we're both having a girls night in we can all day hello.
Good that you strive to better yourself etc You tgirls make more effort than most real women with your makeup and how you dress.
Hope you get some time to unwind soon
Emma (wife)
Are you a 'competitive' crossdresser Davina?
Competitive with myself maybe in everything I do I want to do better than I did last time. Playing golf (not for years but I'm pretty good) my quest is to better my last round if golf and crossdressing the quest is to perfect makeup and look to look as passable as possible.
Always wanting to look better, go further?
Definatley want to look passable it's part of the fun getting dressed doing makeup and the go further is more out of boredom as dressing behind closed doors is a bit boring going out with Esme as Davina was good a new rush trying to see if I could pull off the disguise in public. No need to go any further than that.
Emma and her husband have done similar that risk going out of being read. Some form of validation on how you look.
I think you have to accept that we are all different, with different motivations and different aspirations.
I'm also a quite competitive person in the right environment and find it hard to understand why others aren't especially when sport is concerned. I remember I was at a gym once with my wife. We were on the rowings side by side. We were both rowing against the computer. I was ahead in my race and going hell for leather to beat the other boat by as much as possible. I looked over to my wife and she was casually rowing away. I asked her why she was going so slowly and she said she was waiting for the other boat to catch up!
However, if you look at housework my wife loves everything to be neat and tidy and nothing winds her up more than if it's not. I, on the other hand, have a lower threshold so it infuriates her and she finds it difficult to understand how I can stand it being s messy (it's not). Competitive housework!
Somethings in life we can get passionate about and others not. Being competitive at sport is seen as a 'macho' thing and if women are competitive it is seen sometimes as not being 'feminine'. Even to the degree that girls who play football or rugby have been called 'lesbians' as they want to do a 'mans' sport (men who like feminine things are called gay 🤔). Thank God that is all changing.
Are you a 'competitive' crossdresser Davina? Always wanting to look better, go further?
I don't see crossdressing as a strength or weakness. It's just part of our personality, an extra dimension. We just need to accept that it is part of our make up and whether it waxes or wanes it will always be there.
Katie x
I don't see it as a weakness, i used to be ashamed of it but not so much now, I've always said everytime I've told my story to people that regards to my dressing i just want to be the best i can be, I might not be the best or most convincing CD but I can try to be the best for me.
At 14 my PB for the 100m was 12.6 secs
I won gold and bronze medals for athletics,
I achieved my Black Belt at the age of 42, I've written and played my own songs in pubs, even having one video on YouTube!
And I've won Homebrew competitions, even at international levels, so as far as pushing myself as far as i can, crossdressing is no different and I try and look the best i can.
I don't see it as a weakness, some of the girls I've met on line are very passionate about their dressing and if they where asked the same question i don't think they would say it's a weakness either.
Cat xx
Davina downer.
It's not a weakness Davina and don't beat yourself up wanting your girls to be the they can be.
You are competitive maybe they're not as competitive they just probably want some praise and to please you.
Encourage them but don't compare them to yourself as a sports person just encourage them to keep involved in sport.
I played netball and wish I'd never stopped doing it which I regret.
As for Crossdressing it's not a weakness you enjoy it and she fun as much as you use it for escapism and it turns you on so don't beat yourself up we all have a weird side or something we lean on which People would find weird.
Slow your life down if you're stressing yourself out trying to maintain your high standards and if you need a dressing session do it.
Emma (wife)