Give it some of that gentle Welsh accent!

I like the videos

Would love to see Davina do one

Em (Wife)

Videos are fab Juliette

I can compare myself with the majority of what you have to say

I think we could and Ive done it before, make a list of why we believe we Crossdress and add a percentage with the total equaling 100% and most of us would have differing reasons or if the same reasons differing % why.

I'll have to repost this on the forum see where every tgirl here sits on reasons why

Havent worked out how to add surveys here yet but have some good stats on my blog surveys

Keep up The Vlogs on Youtube 👍

Wow, I could feel my ears burning for a while but I had no idea why :) This thread took a while to read but it was really interesting, it's a shame I didn't get here earlier for the discussion...

Just to say that I have no issue with people discussing my videos or my possible lifestyle choices here, I put the videos up to represent my views on this community so that's really the point of having them out there.

Sindy - If I'm channeling someone then I've no idea who it is and it isn't conscious. I dress the way I do because I'm trying to look feminine. For a guy like me that means I have to use every trick that a woman has at her disposal and a load of others just for crossdressers... I can't look like a woman if I'm slobbing out with no makeup in sweats. Having said that, I often don't wear false nails etc. because I'm lazy but I'm never lazy about makeup etc...

On another point, my wife knows about the videos but it's not something she watches or that we discuss much. My channel started as a trivial, exhibitionist kind of thing but I've tried to morph into something more serious. I'm well aware that my most successful videos are those where my legs are out etc. and I've no illusion about where most of my views come from. I certainly don't do this for money and my target audience is really two communities a) people like me who need advice and support and b) anyone that doesn't understand who we are.

Katie / Davina - Thanks for the comments and support, it's lovely to hear that my videos are helpful. I hope everything is good with you all and that you're having fun over Easter :)

Juliette

Hi Sindy

So you'll be out tonight strutting in your tight dress and heels with you tits out being that sexy woman ;-)

I think that the first time that you see something out of the oridnary it can be quite shocking. But after a while you can become immune to it. It's slightly off topic but since the shootings at Marjory Stoneham Douglas High there have been 4 incidents of guns in schools resulting in 5 death and 3 injuries. It didn't even make the news this side of the pond because it wasn't shocking enough. Had it been in the UK it would have been front page news.

So seeing your husband dressed for the first time would be shocking. The next not so. And so it progressess to the point of not being too bothered. I think that Hannah, Emma and Rebecca have all gone through that process. Esme too is now far more accepting of Davina. I know that she can pop home from work with Davina dressed and not bat an eyelid.

I think you're right about psychologist normalising the behaviour. They don't see it as abnormal in the whole scheme of things.

So a wife seeing one of Julieet's vidoes may initially be shocked. But once that shock has gone she will listen to the message being delivered. And as I said before they are very candid and so informative. And why not see a crossdresser having fun. Isn't that what it's about? Life's too short not to enjoy these moments and seeing someone enjoying themselves, in a safe and secure enviroment, doing nobody any harm has to be celebrated. It takes hard person to despise other people their moments of joy.

I knew somebody once whose theory was that if you wanted sex you chatted up the ugliest woman in the club. He said she'd be so grateful that she'd do anything. Maybe some wives of crossdressers are so grateful that they'll do anything but a quick search of crossdressing couples on google will come up with load of 'normal' wives with their crossdressed husband. Some of these women are stunning and nearly always dressed 'sexily'. I guess it's a case of 'no ways are you going to be the sexiset women in this relationship'.

How many of these women are relatable to you Sindy?

https://www.pinterest.co.uk/jessicatv74/crossdressing-couples/

I think it's hard not to generalise and bring in your own biases but if you look around there are probably more normal, accepting wives out there than you imagine. They just don't sing it from the roof tops. As my wife says 'It's just something you do'. No drama, no hand wringing, we're still plannig about what we'll be doing together when we're reitred and the kids have gone.

Katie

PS I think that probably you're right and that you wouldn't make the best agony aunt for crossdressers.

“WE would prefer to be the sexy female in the marriage” - Oh no you didn’t!

Haha! I admit I wrote that BEFORE remembering it's one of your triggers, Davina. But when I did, I went and got my ugliest, plainest flat shoes I could find and got ready for the inevitable fight, lol. Nah. I really thought - 'oh buggar, now I'll have to pretend I want to dress sexy!' Coz, you know, I do love my comfy clothes but that doesn't mean a wife can't think these things even if we don't do actually them.

These are interesting conversations lately. I do love it here for that as Katie is very correct that for everyone here, this is a VERY private topic. When I suggest a man doing these videos in guy mode, he's going to have to be one of the very public types and I do get that this doesn't represent most of you. But it's also quite jarring for wives to watch a crossdresser in his femme attire if she's someone who doesn't like seeing her husband dressed. Some of the best videos I've watched were a couple that Davina posted here, with female psychologists chatting about it etc. That can help 'normalise' the behaviour for us, whereas a man crossdressed sort of does the opposite. But it helps other men, and that's also the point.

Maybe we need some videos from a wife? I just remember early in my journey with all this that I came across an article written by a normal, realistic and yet supportive wife about her crossdressing husband. It was so GOOD to read it and realise I wasn't the only ordinary wife/mother to find herself in this situation AND to be staying in it. Most of the public wives I had seen up to that point had been...to be polite...not exactly relatable. If I'm impolite - they were more like men than their husbands! I felt like only fat ugly hairy old women with no other prospects were the ones married to crossdressers. It was a depressing online reality at that time. UNTIL I saw this article AND found a forum of other wives that were more like me. So we need a YouTube series by a wife please as that would be a HUGE help. For the men too, I'd bet.

But I doubt anyone would volunteer as crossdressing isn't 'our' thing and becoming public could turn a woman into Helen Boyd with millions of crossdressers seeking your advice. And I would give terrible advice!

Crossdresser: "Why do people think we're gay?"

Me: "Um, are you for real? You strut down the street in your tight dress and heels with your fake tits hanging out and need to ask that question? Maybe a better question would be 'why am I such an idiot.'"

Yeah, terrible, lol.

Hi Sindy

1) I'm glad you find what Juliette says in her videos informative. I think it will help a great number of wives an partners to understand crossdressing.

2) What Juliette does is also informativea if it is representative of crossdressers which you seem to think it is. Isn't it best to be open and honest and show what a crossdressers does on a night out than hide it away?

3) Would you do a youtube video looking rubbish?

4) As far as I know no crossdressers force their wives to watch their videos. It's a choice. I don't discuss my crossdressing with my wife. It is a completely private event. From what I gather from Juliette's video hers is also a private event.

5) I cannot think of any crossdressers who wouldn't want their wives to be the sexy woman in the relationship. If you'd prefer to be the sexy woman then be the sexy woman.

6) I don't think that any crossdressers would sooner be with themselves than their sexy wife.

2) What Juliette does is also informative if it is representative of crossdressers which you seem to think it is. Isn't it best to be open and honest and show what a crossdressers does on a night out than hide it away?'re just an average Joe.

8) If half the view are from non-crossdressing men it just proves that the attraction is femininity and not sexualitity.

9) I think that Juliette is sensitive enough to his wifes feelings not to step over the boundaries. Juliette explains everything in other vidoes.

10) The reasons for people marriage break up are normally a combination of things and without the evidenec it is hard to prove that vidoes where the reason.

Katie

I’m sure Juliette doesn't mind us having a discussion here about her videos on You tube.

They’re very informative and interesting and I agree a good resource for T-girls and their wives / girlfriends. Not everything Juliette says represents me the same as Juliette will read something here I’ve typed and she will say nope that doesn’t cover me.

We are just anonymous typists on a web site albeit some of us have added little photos of ourselves in our avatars. I’ve seen some profiles on Tvchix where Tgirls have added their male photos too..

I get what you say Sindy as yes Juliette goes out as Juliette which to some wives is a nightmare but some wives enjoy the Trans scene.

Some Tgirls are out in modern day shopping, working and socialising and I’ve seen a range of OMG so brave to be out but please don’t dress so outlandish and obvious and some have walked past me and Esme when in London and She’s not noticed but I have a subtle adams apple or voice trigger to Wow a T girl and Wow she looks great.

Juliette looks great and if you’ve got it flaunt it? Surely?

I still don’t get that young girls go out in heels makeup and short dresses and people say look at them enjoying life but as a woman gets older into 30s and 40s the same women change their tune to omg mutton dressed as lamb.

I heard parents slating a teacher in my kids school I was walking a bit behind her and yes a shortish skirt and heels and all made up with makeup.

To me she looked like she’d made a real effort to look her best and there was probably a reason for it some school inspector or something but the female parents were slating her “who does she think she is omg mutton dressed as lamb etc” … Catty Meeeeoowwww and very sad..as said women looked like slobs.

As men we don’t do this.. I’ve never said OMG look at him who does he think he is mutton dressed as lamb lol we just don’t do it.

Juliette looks very fem and looks great in what she’s wearing out I see no problem in her radiating the look she goes for.

If I could I’d make a video or come up with a tv program about myself the camera could follow me day to day as a man and people would think ok this is boring a typical married man with kids with a job and into sport and Game of Thrones and Star Wars just a normal bloke.. Then I say to fight the stress of work, something I’ve done for years and really enjoy Tadaaaa I crossdress “big deal”.. how do I look?

Shock horror a normal man who a few times per year dresses as a woman we do exist and probably more of us than we realise dressing to different extents for different reasons.

None of the steriotypical traits, not gay, don’t want to be a woman or live as a woman and happy to get the fix for a few hours of R&R then back to the man although when I’m dressed I’m still a man that’s the bit wives need to get their heads around..it is still me just presented differently.

If I did a video like this what would it gain me / us? Ridicule personally probably.

The world may not be ready for a normal man to say hi normal guy but I crossdress ok .. and there may not be much interest in it as nothing sensational or scandelous about it so no interest.

Nothing attention seeking about what we do or what Juliette is doing on her vids.

Juliette could just hide away and dress alone but I take it she wants to help people understand Crossdressing for what it is a wide spectrum of reasons why people do it and no gender confusion a part of a long trans spectrum somewhere left of centre.

“WE would prefer to be the sexy female in the marriage” - Oh no you didn’t!

Sindy you’ve got me on this again .. Sexy to us is making effort to look your best, makeup, hair done nice, sexy lingerie, high heels, nice dress, nice perfume and a nice smile … you know us guys are very visual right…

So when this stops it can spark that old hmmm I used to crossdress lets try it again and I’ve even come across in chat some t girls who started dressing late in life as wives stopped wearing the sexy lingerie and heels and they tried it on for a kick liked it and tadaaa another t girl is born albeit late in life.

I’m not saying women need to dress this way all the time but … some of the time?

This really is one of the factors for some t girls crossdressing when a wife hits the contentment wall and we get this kick in the balls with flat shoes.

Good few discussion points lately here keep em coming..

Davina

I hope Juliette doesn't mind us having a discussion here about his/her life, lol. Sorry Juliette, but feel free to join in as this isn't meant to be a personal attack. Just observations, which mean nothing in the grand scheme as we're all just anonymous typists on a web site!

And Katie, I think what Juliette SAYS in the videos is helpful for a wife. What Juliette DOES...not so much! Just typical crossdresser antics is what I see...going out in tiny outfits, strutting around and preening in front of any mirrored surface that can be found. I'm yet to see a video of a crossdresser out and about who doesn't do this! It also negates any chit chat about crossdressing being some way of connecting the 'feminine side'. More like the attention seeking slut side! lol. The reason this doesn't bother me so much with Juliette is because she professes that she is a HE and has no gender confusion etc. So I get it's all about how 'hot' he can look as that's part of the fun. But it's not easy for wives to see that, and it's not really helpful either, as this is the stuff of nightmares for most of us. We don't usually marry men so we can watch them film themselves strut out the door in a Kardashian outfit hoping to be seen as a beautiful woman. We know you feel a need to do this, for whatever reason, BUT be clear it's not what women want from a relationship as amazingly WE would prefer to be the sexy female in the marriage, and I'd be stunned if Juliette's wife doesn't think her husband has a 'thing' for being this other woman more than being with her. Maybe she's totally fine with it...I'd need her response here to know for sure.

I'd actually really like it if, one day, a crossdresser became brave enough to do their informative videos as a guy. I think that would really help wives as they'd get to see that you're also just ordinary men. Now that's a channel I would watch.

And if someone recognised Juliette in the street? I'd suggest half of his viewers are actually men who have an attraction to crossdressers, so you're right, they probably won't make a scene! If his wife is onboard, it's all good. I was just curious if she actually is and this isn't just Juliette ignoring some of those boundaries they have set. I'd warn against doing that, as I remember another prolific crossdressing YouTuber (Jessica someone, I think) who assumed his wife was on board with all the informative videos, only to disappear from public view one day because his wife finally wanted out and left him.

Just keeping it real like i always do. :-)

Hi Sindy

I don't think it makes any difference whether Juliette is married, single or in a loving relationship. If his wife is OK with the vidoes then more power to her. She may not like the lifestyle but she accepts that part of Juliette and in retrun Juliette lives within the boundaries.

You and I both make public our thoughts and preferences but maybe a little less visible than Juliette. If Juliette walked past me in the street, in drab, I'd never regonise him. It's amazing the transformation that make up, wig etc can make. And even I did recognise Juliette then it shows that I'm either a crossdresser or somebody who regularly visists a crossdressing site. Would I want to out myself in public?

The way that Juliette articulates things has really helped me and it is refreshing that somebody can be so candid. As you say none of the silly voices or camp mannerisms. It's the content that is important and I think that it helps to balance out some of the rubbish out there about crossdressers. If I was a wife of a crossdresser I'd find Juliettes vidoes reassuring. It's not a bed of roses but with love and understanding a marriage can work.

Katie

I understand all that, Katie, and if Juliette were single, he (or do you identify as 'she' Juliette?) could make it his life's mission to spread the word about crossdressers (and yes, I think he is very personable and easy to watch - especially as there's no weird pretend female voice or mannerisms going on). BUT, Juliette is married. If it were me, I'd feel very angry my husband was publically sharing a lifestyle I had zero desire to live. I really don't think I could remain married with that going on.

But that's me. Juliette's wife must be okay with this? I don't know how she couldn't be, given how many views these videos get. On another note - makes you also realise how common crossdressing is!

Hi Sindy

I just wanted to say that I think Juliette's delivery is spot on. It's not camp or over the top as some vidoes can be. It's also delivered in a calm and reassuring tone. It's rather conversational and I think heart felt.

I think that we all post here, partly for theraputic reasons but also to help the wider community. I think that Juliette is playing an important role in showing that we're not all raving mad and I'm sure that her advice does help people. If you can help one person to come to terms with their crossdressing or save a relationship then I think it is worthwhile.

You wanted crossdressers to be more visible and youtube channels such as Juliette's will help muggles accept that people have a reason to crossdress that is very much part of who they are. It's important that a sane, normal view of crossdressers is given on the internet as there are far too many vidoes which can give the wrong impression. The more people that view vidoes such as the ones made by Juliette the better as I think that that it better represents the community as a whole.

God know what an alien would make of the human race if their sole reference points were google and youtube.

Katie

Hi Sindy

I can't remember any stand out women from my past that may have influenced the way I dress. No teacher, aunts etc. There was nobody in particular I wanted to be.

I'll let Juliette answer the other question.

Katie

Oh, but I did wonder about the mutual boundaries on who sees Juliette etc. with over 40,000 views on this video alone. I would not be happy about that. I think a big public crossdressing profile would probably be the final death knell for my marriage. Is Juliette's wife okay with this??

Interesting video. Juliette is very informative, but I do feel a little amused when I watch these videos as I swear they are just triggers for future crossdressers.

One thing that always strikes me, and sorry this is off topic from the video - why does it always seem like you're channeling someone when you dress, like someone from your past? I watch Juliette and I think 'he had a teacher or aunt or someone who behaved like this'. It's just a hunch, but there's something deliberate and almost familiar about it, and I find this of most crossdressers. It doesn't look wrong or anything and in fact, watching Juliette is very calming and like one of those ASMR videos and I almost got lulled to sleep haha, but it's something I have noticed. I do think we can all remember that one woman from our childhood who stood out from the rest, with the longest nails or highest heels or sexiest dresses or whatever. Mine was a friend's mother - she always wore bright red lipstick. If I were a crossdressing guy, I bet I'd try and be like her.

So, is there someone you are channeling? Or maybe someone who influenced your style etc?