“Being transgender, like being gay, tall, short, white, black, male, or female, is another part of the human condition that makes each individual unique, and something over which we have no control. We are who we are in the deepest recesses of our minds, hearts and identities.”
Ok I stole this quote from someone but we are who we are is correct and by this it means a wife who loves you loves the whole you the crossdresser you also although she may not realise it if you've not told her and its not as simple as that but will have some bearing in who you are as a person if you share this secret or not.. There are still some who look down on us.. "You're not proper trans!" and I think wives should rejoice in this and cross off one of their fears that their crossdressing husband has more to hide than just crossing - we are just crossdressing nothing more!!
Stole this too..
“Crossdressing is not just the concept of a man dressing up as a woman for an evening out on the town. Crossdressing involves the need to express an inherent feminine persona in some manner. Along the transgender spectrum there is a section for gender fluidity (or duality), and within that are crossdressers of all types”
We all do this for varying reasons my reasons fall within escapism and fun - I like to crossdress and its harmless.
Comments I've had from within the trans community “CD are not trans. Period.”
And, also the next one I took from an article "I have a trans friend with a sissy kink. She is trans. If you are cis with a sissy kink, you’re cis. Whether you crossdress or not. Gender identity is how one identifies. If you crossdress but identify as cis, then you’re cis. If you identify as genderfluid, then okay, you’re genderfluid. Crossdressing does not put you under our banner. The ONLY way you get into our tribe is by IDENTIFYING as one of us!!! Otherwise, it’s just a costume…”
Fine by me but its wrong if we go back to the Latin text...
Here's several pro- and con-centric comments debating why crossdressers are—or are not—part of the transgender community.
Transgender people must be 100% transgender. This means that in order to be considered transgender, you must exhibit the desire to change your gender in some permanent fashion.
Absolute nonsense.
Crossdressers consider themselves cis, therefore they are not transgender.
I can see this and happy with it im not changing my gender by crossdressing I'm changing my appearance.
Crossdressers stay at home to dress up, and don’t need to worry about what bathroom to use in public like a transgender person does.
Unless we venture out.. discussed this with Esme and we decided the ladies but i didnt need to go when out in London.
Crossdressers are simply putting on a costume to be feminine once in a while.
Correct round of applause
Crossdressers are not serious about being transgender.
Yeah but no but yeah but no.. grand scheme of things its that unimportant important thing to us.. escapism and fun helps us unwind and chillax.
Crossdressers enjoy wearing feminine clothes, but do not consider themselves female as their gender… therefore they are a fetish group.
Nonsense - If i dress up as Darth Vader is it a fetish? so why if i dress as a woman is it a fetish?
I don't believe that all trans-men and –women agree with the above comments we're all different but there are some - anti-crossdressing within the community as we dont take it as serious as some further to the right of the spectrum.
There is a stereotypical division within the LGBTQ+ community when it comes to crossdressers and the letter T.
According to Wikipedia, “Transgender people have a gender identity or gender expression that differs from their assigned sex. Some transgender people identify as transsexual if they desire medical assistance to transition from one sex to another. Transgender – often shortened as trans – is also an umbrella term: in addition to including people whose gender identity is the opposite of their assigned sex (trans men and trans women), it may include people who are not exclusively masculine or feminine (people who are genderqueer or non-binary, including bigender, pangender, genderfluid, or agender)…”
OMG take us out of all that we're just Crossdressers so take us off the Trans spectrum and make it easier for our wives and GFs to accept us as we are without fear of extensive labels!! I identify as a man I enjoy occasionally presenting as a woman big deal woppy doo lol. It is that simple!!
So based on these definitions despite other posts I've put up here, should crossdressers be considered transgender? do we want to be? I don't really...
While crossdressers predominantly lead daily “Alpha male type” lives, what I will offer is like it or not and not to freak wives and gfs out but we do seem to have some form of a feminine persona or a percieved hidden softer side that must be expressed in an outward fashion but goes against the grain of being an alpha male, father and husband and that outward expression is our crossdressing...
There is a stigma about crossdressers and what our motivations are maybe spoilt by some who go to the extremes and put these doubts and fears in our wives and gfs minds spoiling it for us making it more complicated than it needs to be. We don't have any gender dysphoria we just like to crossdress!!
How can we move this on and find acceptance with those closest to us?
The internet is helping dispell the antiquated stereotypical version of the weirdo Tranny..
It's all about communication, helping one another and helping other wives and gfs come to terms with the simplicity of what we do and un-complicate it all and who cares if someone says we're not proper trans.