Davina - I've read articles by this writer before and it resonated so heres another one to review

As a crossdresser myself, I have had a number of questions about myself and others in the crossdressing community.

The questions for others were more to satisfy my curiosity and to gain knowledge.

Davina - a T-girl similar to myself I love hearing other t girls views on why they dress and love chatting to wives and girlfriend about this side to us and exploring their thoughts and fears.

Perhaps these are some of the same reasons why you read my article.

As for the questions I have for myself, they look into my motivations, reasons, and dreams.

Why crossdress?

I answer some of these questions in this post. Don’t you have some of the same questions for yourself?

Q: When did you start crossdressing?

The answer to this question depends upon whether it is occasional dabbling in crossdressing or full-blown crossdressing.

The latter started about five years ago.

That is when I started to buy women’s clothes on a regular basis, as well as trying to learn how to look as close to a woman’s appearance as possible.

Before that, I guess you can say that I’ve dabbled with crossdressing since my childhood.

My interest had less to do with women’s clothing and more to do with women’s jewelry, especially rings.

I remember being fixated by my mother’s wedding ring when I was an infant, one of my few memories while at that age.

One of the most transforming events in my life happened when I was about 10 or so. We got to play Dress Up with my mother’s jewelry chest.

I was in love with wearing necklaces and rings, to the point where I would sometimes sneak into her bedroom to wear some even for a few moments.

This isn’t crossdressing in the traditional sense, with wearing shoes or dresses, but I still consider it a type of crossdressing.

After all, boys didn’t wear rings to school, did they? That’s what the girls did!

Davina - For me it was tights, i was batman in black or grey tights, superman or spoderman in blue tights and i loved the feel of them on my skin... curiosity and motivation even around 10 years old.. crushes on teachers and other women and what they wore.. tights and heels, a leg man even at 10 years old fascinated by legs.. I remember being in secondary school and the girl i sat by noticed i couldnt take my eyes off my English teachers legs that were on show from her open sided desk and she said you're lookig at her legs arent you.. i was she had nice legs and always in high heels.. my curiosity driven by womens clothing catalogues led me to my mothers draws .. did she have the stockings and lace lingerie the models wore and she did and ashamed to say I tried these items on.. fast forward to mid 20s my wife asking to dress me as a woman out of the blue "for a bit of fun".. admitting to my wife I'd crossdressed all my life and the spark of crossdressing ignited again.. fast forwar another 20 years and its my escapism / stress busting hobby.. when i get the time to do it. I guess other T girls have similar tales starting from trying on their mothers high heels etc.

Q: Why do you crossdress?

Why crossdress?

This is the question all of us crossdressers ask ourselves, and it is probably the most difficult.

Being that I haven’t seen a counselor, I’m going to have to make my best guess .

Davina - Same I've not sought chats with a councillor but maybe it would be good to get things off the chest if it was affordable.

When I eased into crossdressing more regularly during the past five years, I have found a sense of liberation.

In a sense, I feel that I am not hemmed in by society’s norms when I crossdress.

This is not to say that I enjoying flouting society’s norms, far from it. However, I can say that it bothers me when society does try to impose its norms upon everybody who is different. In a sense, crossdressing is my way of giving society “the finger.”

Davina - Similar thoughts on societal norms .. I'm my own person I like to think and make my own mind up on the norms in this world and Crossdressing i know isn't the norm but I also know I'm not doing any harm to anyone. I crossdress for me and I'm not harming anyone.

With this freedom of expression, I feel that I can express myself more fully.

I can give people a glimpse of the real me, in a way I couldn’t while dressed according to male standards.

Davina - Maybe this is what Esme sees nice about Davina? and I like the reference to "Male standards" those male standards are imposed on us and I'm probably guilty even as a crossdresser getting the "Ik" from overly feminine acting men.. such is the programming from young by parents / peers the Ik from a feminine acting / sounding / camp guy and yet I'm a crossdresser... the feminine acting guy probably isn't a crossdresser.

My personality has always had a lot of traits that are more feminine.

Davina - This is where me and the writer are different as my traits are all masculine.

I don’t like confrontation.

Davina - I don't shy from confrontation i hit it head on so yep we're different which tells us something about the mix of people who crossdress.

In addition, I feel that I care very much for other people, including people I don’t know well.

Davina - OK I care about other people and always polite.. unless I'm crossed or let down then people go way down my list.

My personality is more nurturing than the typical male.

Davina - I stick up for and stand up for people.. I got on with everyone in school despite being popular in terms of sport and being friendly to everyone.. there were the bullies i despised but none ever dared bully me but i remember sticking up for those less comfortable with confrontation even though i was very shy as a kid i didn't suffer fools and thats followed me as a bloke as only 2 weeks ago a work collegue said "I with i was more like you you dont suffer fools and tell it as it is".. same collegues jaw would hit the floor in disbelief if i was to show him a photo of Davina and I told him "that's me .. that's how i like to unwind".. It goes to show you can never second guess who may be a crossdresser.

In a nutshell, dressing in a feminine way expresses my inner being better, despite what society thinks about it.

Davina - I think this may be true of all of us we let go of all the male conditioning for a while and escape releasing the pent up feminine side we've been surpressing.

Q: What do you like most about crossdressing?

With the dressing itself, I really enjoy exploring the different styles and fabrics.

Davina - there are definately styles i like and fabrics, silks, nylon, lace..

Dressing as a man does not afford those opportunities.

The thrill men may get is from the James bond look in a tux for a wedding which is few and far between or the first time slipping on your football teams new shift with your current fav players name and number on the back.. It doesnt compare to matching lingerie under a nice dress, stockings / tights and heels..

I don’t get to feel the breeze under my skirt when dressed as a man, nor do I get to feel the soft fabrics against my arms.

Davina - This is gonna sound strange to women reading this but the first time stepping outside in stights and a dress n heels feeling that breeze on our legs is thrilling OMG we're outside .. I know it sounds silly but OMG it's an epic journey from behind closed curtains to stepping outside even in the pitch black of winter in the back garden with all the house lights extinguished .. that first step outside as a woman the breeze on our tights .. thrilling.. just believe me on this one,

I feel like a kid in a candy shop, with so much to explore. This is one of my key answers to the question: Why crossdress?

I suspect it is for many of you as well.

Davina - Many many reasons and somewhere on my forum is a post about the pie chart of reasons and % of why we crossdress to get that 360 degree picture and answer why we do this. I think this is a useful exercise to get down your reasons then att the % and put it into a pie chart if you want to answer this for yourself or if you wanted to explain it to someone else and we'll all have differing reasons .. a lot of similarities but also different percentages why for each reason.. none of us are exactly the same.

The other thing I like about crossdressing is the new perspective it gives me.

I have always considered myself a feminist, but my perspective changed as I began crossdressing more.

Davina - I'm a feminist too.. I'm all for female empowerment, love my wife and love my kids and want to see them get the best opportunity in life in sport, in school, in work etc so I'm all for empowerment of women but I'm also for EQUALITY.. Whilst I'm all for empowering women.. I'm also balanced in that empowerment for men.. What I don't like are the extremes in both men and women .. Maybe I'm a Jedi as I like the balance, the ying and yang.. We're all equal - Anyone can take the bins out, do the dishes, change a fuse, mow the lawn, cook a meal.. wear a dress??.

I am not a woman, so I’ll never know exactly what women have to endure, nor will I understand exactly some of the joys they have that men do not.

Davina - This is a huge point as we try to emulate women but we can never think exactly like women or have to go through some of the tings women go through in their life. So I'll nevr say I understand women or that I become a woman,, I become Davina and Davina is a crossdresser rtying to look like a woman and it has an effect on me of escapism from male me. And I agree after a few hours it's nice to take off a bra.

Regardless, I feel that I have a deeper understanding and appreciation than I used to have. For that I thank crossdressing.

Q: What is your biggest fear about crossdressing?

Although I have become more accustomed to being out in public, I still feel very uncomfortable having one-on-one interactions with others.

Davina - If Im told I look good, I look passable, if I'm out as Davina I don't really have feard about anyone pointing out I'm a tgirl or talking to anyone.. I suppose my fear is people finding out and it impacting negatively. I'd like to think I could explain this but like a virus the negative thoughts would spread and quickly .. he's a pervert. That's my fear.. A closed set of people finding out I know i can sit down and discuss this with them but if it got out wider beyond my immediate control.. on the internet then you lose control very quickly.

I don’t mind being in a crowd, but chatting with someone in that crowd really stresses me, a lot!

I also have a big fear of going into a women’s restroom.

Davina - So far when I have ventured out I've not needed to use the toilet.. We planned in London that if i needed the loo Esme would come with me as my wingman.. wingwoman lol. In - cubicle - sit to pee - out wash hands glance in mirror and out.

As I have said, I avoid confrontation at nearly any cost.

Davina _ Confrontation when crossdressed may be tricky.. not sur ehow I'd handle this as i have quick wit but if it got physical I'd be less confident in my chances in a dress and wig etc if it ever got physical.. also unlikely I'd get into this situation when out i hope.

I am sure in most cases there wouldn’t be an issue.

My concern is how I would react if there were a confrontation.

Davina - I may come across a bit gung ho but 9/10 times I've talked my way out of a confrontation with a lot of bluff about the level of my rage to avoid a physical confrontation. that 1/10 time the Hulk has had to come out and the Hulk takes over.. Don't make me angry you'd not like me when I'm angry lol.

My goal isn’t to make other women uncomfortable with my being there.

Davina - My aim if i go out is to blend in not stand out.

Q: What are your crossdressing goals?

I would like to spend more time in public.

Davina - I just want more quality time as Davina able to put on makeup and dressed chilling.. Going out isn't a big goal but it is thrilling and I'd like to maybe go shopping for Davina as Davina but I'd really need to feel confident in my look and would want to practise the look and being Davina more before doing this. I'd be happy just having time back for myself to be Davina a lot more when I need it. And probably to have my wife 100% comfortable with Davina.. I know she accepts but also know she'd prefer i didnt dress and has some fears. Gaining acceptance is one thing but we strive all the time to gain our wives / gfs full support / understanding to quell their fears.

Why crossdress in public?

The main reason is to overcome that fear of one-on-one interactions.

Davina - I think there's some vanity in it seeing if we can pass and also a thrill in it being out and seen as a "woman" just doing everyday things outside the confines of the house.

Being an extreme introvert all my life, I have been very self-conscious about my interactions with other people.

However, I have learned to do better as a male.

Davina - I've gone from shy boy to front foot man always on the front foot, always work with knowledge and facts happy to prep or wing talking in front of a lot of people confident in my views and thoughts. I look back on that shy kid i was and think WTF!! why did i hold myself back?!!

It took a long time, but it is vastly better than now. I just need to learn the same when presenting as a female.

To make this easier, we are planning to move to a larger city (Las Vegas, Nevada) this summer.

Davina - Ahhh an American T - girl is the writer..

This city should give me the room to grow as a crossdresser.

No city is perfect, but I expect it being better than the small Midwestern town where I am now.

Davina - I'm sure in the UK there are places better than where I live for crossdressing escapes like MK, Blackpool, Brighton, areas of Manchester? Leeds?

Why Crossdress? Don’t we all have our own questions?

I’ve answered a few questions about myself. Hopefully you found them informative and not boring. I’d like to think my crossdressing quirks are interesting to others.

Davina - Readers and friends add your thoughts to these questions in the comments.

But now, dear reader, I turn the tables.

Think some about how you would answer these questions if someone asked you.

• What’s your crossdressing history?

• Why do you do it?

• What are your dreams and fears, and

• are you going to something about those dreams and fears?

Davinas conclusion another good article and we've discovered it's written by a t girl and shes in the US.. Insightful with similarities to all of us but also slightly dissimilar in other ways..