By: Katie
Subject: Re: Re: Blog
It does seem that the media is obsessed with transgender at the moment. However, it seems that they are focused on those of us who wish to transition and not just 'vanilla' crossdressers. I guess that that is more interesting and makes better headlines. People transitioning are also far more visible than your average 'in the closet' crossdresser so maybe they deserve the extra attention.
I watched an episode of Mary Portas undercover shopper where she helped out a bridal shop. The couple that owned the shop had an awful collection of ballgowns - Mary asked if there were any transvestite in the village who might want to buy them! Stereo typing or what! When she found out he crossdressed she suggested selling the gowns to other crossdressers at a pub in London. The sale fell a bit flat which was good as it showed that we are not all drag queens as was perceived but just want to dress as any ordinary women would do with nice clothes.
I think the media has a part to play in education. There are a few 'I married a crossdresser' type programs but nothing that really explains why as you do in your 100% chart. There does seem a common thread as to why we crossdress and that seems to change as we get older.
I belong to a site crossdressers.com, although I've given up posting after comments made by some of the more vocal members. There is a common line of questioning when new members join about why they dress, what next etc as well as a lot of frivolous stuff. I'd say the majority there were just vanilla crossdressers and I think the site did help me ti come to terms with my dressing so worth a look.
I'd like to talk more and maybe give you a little bit more background. What's the best way on sending your more?
Katie
By: Davina
Subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Blog
Yes my wife did post 'I don't get it' and neither to I fully I just enjoy it.. there are worse things I could get upto this is true but I'm intelligent rational etc and my one flaw if that's what it is is crossdressing big deal.. no ones business just mine.. .
It is a society thing and putting things into perspective its how were brought up this is mans that is womans, men dress like this women dress like..... however the hell they want to dress..
By: Katie
Subject: Re: Re: Re: Re: Blog
Hi Davina
I think I read one of your wife's posts saying 'I don't get it' which I think is the response of most people. It's definitely my wife's response. She never wants to talk about it so everything is really kept under wraps. Mind you she's the same about my scuba diving - not interested in the slightest and never wants to talk about it!
To be honest I don't really understand why but I just have to accept that it's part of who I am. There are a lot of things that people do that I just don't get but I guess that's what make us all individual. There are far worse things to do for a man than just wanting to dress up once in a while.
I think it's a matter of society putting things into perspective. As a whole society is still very polar with men being macho and women feminine and all the time that exists there is never going to be gender equality. Too any people live in the past with outdated values. The pack still rules and unless you toe the line you can end up being outcast which is the one thing we fear the most.
Katie
By: Davina
Subject: Re: Re: Re: Blog
Great post Katie
Our thoughts are quite the same on tue matter.
Here is ok we can use this like chat or email me cdtra007@hotmail.com set up to help me run this blog.
Were definitely the least understood in the trans world.. And us lucky ones with accepting or even tolerating wives are very lucky.