It seems most have this no matter what level you work in an organisation.
I have University credentials but its not something i boast about in work and i wanted to work my way up so started low learnt and worked up earning respect along the way until i achieved my goal of becoming an Engineer.
We must all wonder and deal with senior ranking people above us and think how are they in charge and who put them there.
Theres the Chief exec at the top then far too many layers of beaurocratic management then the Engineers and Managers who deliver and constantly have to rethink strategy as those above make cuts and add to their ranks.
It all leads to frustration and stress particularly if youre in the minority of experts who will speak up let down by those who wont and by unions who make deals with the upper management.
Im there right now this weeks been a howler and today could do with a few hours dressed to unwind before a busy weekend of rugby, Football and NFL then back to work.. but even working from Home no time to dress, Cant have a Girls night in and keeping the stubble for the weekend activities.. Not dressed for a few Weeks and need to quell the urge and de-stress.
Anyone else get like this ... Does work stress sometimes drive the urge?
WW
I dressed monday as had opportunity and had been about a month ago the last time i dressed.
It was ok i chatted to Katie on Skype but didnt really have the urge to dress.
The previous week work was stressful but that subsided over the weekend but monday afternoon after undressing work got stressful but tuesday i was too engrossed in work to dress and if anything hit that stress level where i just have to get the work done and dressing wouldnt have helped.
So today I Had the urge more to dress so did it for a few hours updating a spreadsheet mundane and boring as hell but nicer in a dress and makeup but didnt really enjoy it all that much dressed but working and it hasnt brought down my stress levels with a mundane pointless meeting tomorrow i have to attend all day as far as im concerned a day lost of productive work putting me a day behind.
Work causes me stress as its so frustrating being an engineer where Management not Engineers are in control and they dont listen yet when things go wrong its the Engineers they blame .. The other thing that frustrates me is the other enginerrs are yes men and bow down to management instead of speaking up and speaking thHeir minds letting management walk all over them.. .. all causes me stress and frustration and the two cures ive found are crossdressing and playing sport where i get my aggression out.
That's funny. Davina and I were talking and we said the same thing. Even if given the chance to dress everyday we wouldn't. After a couple of days just don't feel the need. I don't stay dressed to the last minute i.e. wife and kids coming home but a couple of hours is enough.
I think the thing that motivates me most to put Juliette away is my daughter and wife coming home from school :) On a more serious note, I've never felt the need to dress two days in a row, even if I've got the house to myself for a week (as happens once or twice a year). Leave me home alone for a week and I'll probably dress 3 times at the most. The idea of shaving two days in a row is anathema to me...
At the moment I'm really comfortable dressing once or twice a week and anything more becomes a bit of a chore really.
I'm half way through a book called 'Habits of a Happy Brain' and a lot of what is described within it resonates with my crossdressing. I can see that if you subconsciously associate crossdressing as being a pleasurable experience then the release of those happy chemical will help to make you feel good and therefore more relaxed and less stressful.
As you say in the past crossdressing could be stressful but equally thrilling just by the fact you might be caught.
Juliette what do you think motivates you to get dressed and then, after a while, put Juliette away?
Doesn't make a scrap of difference to me I'm afraid... Dressing does absolutely nothing to relieve stress for me but then it's a regular and consistent part of my life. If anything, dressing was previously a time of anxiety worrying about people coming home or accidentally leaving something around the house...
I would imagine that for a lot of people dressing is only possible when they have a specific time that's set aside for personal use. The fact that you use this time to dress may be purely coincidental to the general benefits of having time and space to breathe and indulge yourself a little.
If you genuinely get a release of stress from the dressing and not from the free time to dress, I'd suggest that the stress may not be purely work related.
D
absolutely, the stress of work drives the need to escape and dress. The feeling of getting into girly mode is like taking the weight of ones shoulders and a huge sigh of relief comes across me.
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Easier said than done but get a new job or a promotion
Same in every job people at the top make you womder how they got there
Emma (wife)
The Peter principle is a concept in management theory formulated by educator Laurence J. Peter and published in 1969. It states that the selection of a candidate for a position is based on the candidate's performance in their current role, rather than on abilities relevant to the intended role. Thus, employees only stop being promoted once they can no longer perform effectively, and "managers rise to the level of their incompetence".
You need the dopamine hit provided by dressing to relieve the stress. Your brain subconsciously knows that this works so you get an urge to dress.
Katie