Flipping this on its head your boyfriend or husband is a crossdresser no getting away from it but you have absolutely no idea.
You may find out at some point or he may want to tell you he is a crossdresser.
How would you prefer to find out or how would you prefer to be told?
We need more women represented in here. .
Em (RG Wife)
I think that would work Rebecca
Em (RG Wife )
Hi Em and Sindy x
I think I'd have preferred him to drop a few hints which may have made me ask him outright if he was a crossdresser or wants to crossdress.
Otherwise it would be good for him to have arranged a night in cook for me nice wine with the kids staying at our parents over night then for him to pluck up courage and say something like ive got something to tell you nothing bad quite fun actually but may freak you out a bit and just come out with it I like to crossdress.
. immediately followed by no I don't want to be a woman and no I'm not gay before you ask its just a bit of fun, it somehow relaxes me and it is just something I do so don't panic do you have any questions and take it from there.
That's saying if we were married as we were when I found out.
Rebecca (wife) x
Em, my husband told me quite early on in a weird conversation over drinks one night. He didn't tell me even a quarter of the truth though, and at the time, as a young girl, I thought it was odd but harmless. I assumed he had a very minor kink for women's lingerie...that's it.
I found out the full truth by discovering the extent of his so called harmless hobby years into marriage and that was definitely not the way to do it. I don't know why he bothered to tell me at all, when I think about it now. If you're not going to tell the entire truth then don't bother!
So I guess, for me, I was fine with the conversation over a casual night out and I'd probably choose that again. But I'd want him to tell me everything and I'd ask more questions. Of course, I also think if he had told me the truth I may very well have stopped dating him. But that was my choice to make and it's frustrating that he took that away.
Oh, and another way would be to give me a letter to read with ALL the information including how it started and why and how it makes him feel etc, and tell me to read it when I was alone and that we would discuss after I'd had time to process. That would also work for me.
Finding my husbands enormous stash while he was also wearing some of it? Yeah, that was NOT the way forward and I'm still recovering from that imagery. Whoever is reading this - don't do that!
What about you, Em? (and yes, more wives needed. I've lost touch with my old CD wife friends...sad really)